Daughter abroad doesn’t want us to move too far from airport

Off point but really interesting and relevant to us. A good reminder that we need to keep making the effort. Thanks!

thank you! She told me lots of reasons the house we like is a really bad choice. We have a second viewing on Sunday so we’ll see….

That’s really interesting to get the other viewpoint. If worse comes to worst, we can meet in Cambridge and have a day there and then head back to Norfolk together. She likes to come and go to see other people in other places but I can’t arrange my life to accommodate her itinerary needs. I wouldn’t ever expect anyone to do that for me.

rafichagran

Callistemon21

The coach is so easy!
Direct routes from the Central Bus Station at Heathrow.

I did National express once to Lancashire from London , never again, 8 hrs on that coach, hot day banging headache, vomiting.
They stopped at places all along the route, picking up hen parties and the like, absolute nightmare. I will never use a coach again. The train would have taken 2.30hrs. The train I got on at a later datewas comfortable, and served refreshment.

We've caught the coach from Heathrow bus station many times; it goes straight through.

Yours obviously wasn't a Heathrow or Gatwick Express.
The train to here would mean going into London, two changes and someone picking us up at the end.

Bluebelle silly sausage, what a nice polite way to put it.

But Stansted to Norwich is about 2 hours on a coach Rafiagran and is a very easy journey as is the train and if she was to book her train in advance (or get you to do it mel ) it’s cheaper even than the prices quoted upthread
She’s being a silly sausage she’s chosen to live away and has absolutely no say in what you do with your house or where you choose to live do what you want for you x

The daughter unfortunately does not want to put herself out. Like I said a train from London to the nearest station and I am sure you could pick her up from the station.
The daughter is selfish, not you. If she states she will not visit Oh well.

Callistemon21

The coach is so easy!
Direct routes from the Central Bus Station at Heathrow.

I did National express once to Lancashire from London , never again, 8 hrs on that coach, hot day banging headache, vomiting.
They stopped at places all along the route, picking up hen parties and the like, absolute nightmare. I will never use a coach again. The train would have taken 2.30hrs. The train I got on at a later datewas comfortable, and served refreshment.

Not the same as family but also friends that move away and “ expect” you to “ go visit them” then complain that you haven’t been! Well I’m sorry but your! the ones that wanted to move away, don’t expect me to come running a 2 n half hour journey one way to visit .🙄

Along with everyone else I agree that you should just tell her your minds are made up and you are moving. Give her some info on coaches, trains etc and enjoy your new life. 👏👏

NotSpaghetti

How ridiculous.
If they are coming on a visit from America an extra drive/train or whatever will make no significant difference to what is already a whole day of travelling.

Of course you're correct. Many of us drive a few hours often. How is driving distance, less than 10-12 hours important at all?

I am surprised because I thought a two hour journey would be nothing to someone who lives in the USA!

Mel25

Hi everyone,
Hoping for some wisdom…my daughter has lived in the US for years and is unlikely to move back here. We live about 45 minutes from Heathrow and Stansted. We are retiring and would like to move nearer friends in Norfolk. My daughter thinks we are being selfish and short sighted as it means she will have a 2 hour + journey by bus (which she says she won’t do) or we have a 4 hour journey there and back to collect her from the airport. Is it wrong to think we have always encouraged her to live her life and we should be ‘allowed’ to choose to live near friends wherever we want? She visits between 1-3 times a year. I don’t want to dismiss her but it would be nice, for once, to please ourselves. If my mum had had similar plans I’d have been delighted for her. Am I missing something? Thank you!

She's lived in the US for many years and is unlikely to return, but thinks you are being selfish because you want to spend your final years where you choose, Norfolk - because it's too far from Heathrow / Stansted?

I'm speechless...

Stansted to Norwich or similar is very very simple and on the bus quite cheap alternatively the train is straightforward to stansted trains now go straight through to Norwich
I m sorry but she cant dictate where you live because she wants you to be on the airport doorstep a couple of times a year

Quite unacceptable in my opinion

Really she's actually complaining about adding 1¼ hours on to her journey.

Maybe she should move closer to her "home" airport to "compensate"?

How ridiculous.
If they are coming on a visit from America an extra drive/train or whatever will make no significant difference to what is already a whole day of travelling.

She could hire a car.

North Norfolk is wonderful. I love it here.

Please move if it makes you happy

We live about 45 minutes from Heathrow and Stansted

That is not exactly under a flight path where planes are taking off. We lived 5 miles or so from Heathrow and planes did not generally take off over us, only occasionally.

It's absolutely shocking that she chose to go and live in another country, but thinks you're being selfish for wanting to move 2+ hours from LHR/Stanstead!

I've lived overseas for many years, and frequently travelled by National Express 3+ hours to visit my parents, and now my daughter. It's so easy to hop on the coach right outside the terminal and just relax.

Go and find your new home to enjoy in your retirement, and be close to your friends. You can't live your life just to please your daughter ... it's your life to enjoy! Just do it!

There are some very harsh comments on here about the daughter.
I'm sure she loves her parents and she comes back to see them frequently. Sometimes adult DC seem quite surprised (and upset) that their parents want to sell the family home where they grew up.

I'm sure, when she thinks about it, she'll realise she is being unreasonable and that we do actually have transport in the UK to get from Heathrow to various locations. If ths drivers are not on strike, that is.

Do you ever go over to the USA to see her, Mel25?

nanna8

How awful to live near an airport, horrible. At first I thought you must be joking, no one could be that selfish. Talk it over with your daughter but be firm and tell her, don’t ask her,where you want to live.

Lots of people live near airports, it's not that difficult in the UK 😁

We used to and that was in the days of Concorde.

Mel25. Move house to East Anglia, easy drive to Stansted or let her take the train (I drive to Stansted often to fetch people and packages).

Frankly, she is being quite ridiculous. Perhaps this is 'blackmail'? Do as you wish, ignore her, and be happy.

I know what I would tell her, it wouldn't be ladylike!