Daughter abroad doesn’t want us to move too far from airport

Your daughter is the one that's being selfish.
It suits her that you live near an airport.
If you moved it wouldn't be such an easy transfer for her.
Norfolk is a lovely place and I know which Id choose.
You've done your bit..now it's time to please yourselves.
Make that move

She likes to come and go to see other people in other places but I can’t arrange my life to accommodate her itinerary needs.

This being so, wouldn't it make sense for her to hire a car at the airport and then she would be free to come and go, while basing herself in your home? I sense that the 'other people in other places' are most likely to be old friends who live close to her (and your) former home. Another reason why she doesn't want to visit Norfolk. Tough luck! She needs to grow up.

I hate flying. I do wish my daughter in England lived close to a ferry port. Of course I'm only seeing it from my viewpoint. Your DD obviously loves seeing you to fly all that way 1-3 times a year. I'm not offering advice. I can see both sides.

Wow! Your DD really expects you to live where is convenient for her 2 to 3 times per year. It's laughable. Make your move and then send a card with your new address.

Husband and I will be relocating from east coast of Scotland to the west coast. Husband is soon to retire and we want to relocate. We have a family member who has also suggested that our relocation will be very inconvenient for them. Our LIVES, OUR CHOICE!!! We are relocating!

So she visits you a few times a year, and expects you to be in a convenient place for her. It's YOUR life, and she's being very selfish. She should think of YOU and your lives. Go to Norfolk, and have a lovely retirement. Selfish girl.

I think you should downsize to a caravan and park it on Heathrow runway for when she alights from her plane. So if she does fly in to another airport, you can then hook the caravan and park it on that runway then.
Sound ridiculous, yes because that is what are her expectations. She can put up with an 8 hour flight then she can put up with a 2 hour drive or train journey.
Move to Norfolk.

You do what makes you happy and if moving further away is what you want then do it. I think she's very selfish. I expect she comes over rarely and 2 hour drive won't add much to the commute that she has already done.

I'm so relieved to see so many supportive comments on this post. I was on my own with my boys from when they were ages 2 and 6 , and did everything since for their benefit. I am planning where I would like to live in retirement and I know their opinions will hugely influence me and I'll feel guilty if I don't take that into account . Good to see a reminder like this. Also , I'm all for your move too, just remember don't buy too near the coast , the collapsing is real !!

Buttonjugs

I honestly don’t understand why anyone would move to the US from the UK. But your daughter should not be dictating where you are allowed to live.

Lots of (different) reasons.
We did, my son did...
Why does anyone move anywhere?

I concur with everybody’s comments, and wish you both a very happy life in Norwich Mel25. I would suggest you send your daughter a full schedule of potential transfer options for her to consider when next visiting in your new home. Please do not make the mistake (to assuage your daughter) of picking up from the airport the first time or you’ll set a precedent. Can anybody imagine our parent’s generation dictating to their parents on things like this? The word entitled comes to mind. Wishing you every happiness in Norfolk.

Madeleine45....excellent post

Greetings from Norfolk! You will be very happy here. Stansted and Norwich airports are easily accessible and there is a good train service.

Hello there

Your Daughter no doubt loves You however I feel she is being a little selfish …obviously She had her reasons for moving abroad but You too need to put YOUR needs first …🩷

I sat 'Tough' she's chosen where she wants to live so I think you can do likewise. Go and enjoy your new Norfolk life asap. Enjoy as she says being selfish!🤣

MOVE !!!! it is your life now ....and a neighbour of ours moved from the house she and her husband had loved (she was a widow) ....could not afford a house, so bought an apartment...in order to live near her daughter and grandchildren (at the suggestion of her daughter .........settled in ...two years later the daughter moved a long way away ....leaving her mother behind, as the mother could not afford to move again to the area her daughter moved to !

I'd tell her to get stuffed.

your daughter chose to live where she wanted, now you choose where you want to live.

Obviously your DD must live live a stones throw from an airport in USA that she can't travel for two hours. Do what you want, your DD left, set up her own life, and she's been lucky you have stayed so close to the airport for so long.

I must be very lucky in that neither of my daughters would "dictate" anything to me unless they thought it was unwise for ME and DH. One DD fortunately lives only 25 miles away but even that is a bit of a bind for all of us. The other has made her home nearly 200 miles away and over the past 20+ years we have journeyed to her at least 3 times a year. Like many young people (assuming 40 is young!) she is busy busy with work and hoping for a baby soon, so I can't see her having much more time to come up here - though she does do it a couple of times a year and often for Christmas.

The time will soon be here when we want to downsize and as yet we haven't even considered where that might be, but we will certainly not be doing anything we don't want to.

Move to Norfolk! We moved here from Essex 9 years ago and it's the best thing we ever did. West Norfolk is still a bit cheaper and less discovered, about an hour from the coast. Tiny village, like going back 50 years; children play out on the Green, everyone is polite and friendly, yet to see any road rage. Enjoy your new home!

I was wondering how near an airport in the US your DD lives and if you could suggest the same to her.
Move wherever you like. It's none of her business.

Absolutely move to the country and enjoy yourselves. Your daughter should be pleased for you.

You are most definitely not being unfair. I’m only just learning this, but surely there must be a time in all of our lives that we are able to do what we want to, and choose where we want to live etc. Hopefully she will come round to thinking that she wants her parents to be happy and content. She’s not available to support you day to day, so surely she will want you to be as comfortable as possible. I hope you are able to do what suits you, and your daughter will get over the travelling.

There is a direct train to Norwich from Stansted. Are you sure there is not more to this? My adult children struggled with my moving from their childhood home. Is she upset about losing her safety net?