Why do people have to SHOUT?

I think AreWeThereYet is right, people live in their own little world - a very self-centred one.

There was an idiot in a car stalled in traffic outside our house recently with the stereo system on maximum decibel, side window wide open - the base notes were almost shaking his vehicle - he just sat there in our narrow residential street, nodding his head to the beat.

Decades ago now, in Richmond Town Centre, a previous idiot stuck in traffic was doing the same thing - there was a policeman walking along the street and he went over to the car- leant in and I heard him say something like "turn it down, people don't want to be forced to listen to your din".

Now there aren't any policemen, and no one would dare to approach an individual in a car.

We stayed in a hotel recently where there were only a few guests for breakfast. The staff were also setting up for lunch and shouting across us. I found that very rude but wasn’t brave enough to say anything. Love the idea of singing mentioned earlier, but sadly can’t hold a tune.

People now just live in their own little bubble, totally unaware of others around them. Many years ago they would have been taught that it is rude to shout around people, now it's a case of 'I am what I am, put up with it or get out of my face'.

Some people are just selfish egomaniacs unfortunately!

When I worked on the buses there was a late teens bimbo on a fully packed bus VERY LOUDLY ringing everyone on her mobile ''HIIIII! I've just signed up with INSTAGRAM! Yes, isn't it great? You can follow me on here as @ ....'' then she'd call off then call another number and she rang 14 different people one after the other.

I think she was desperate and trying to get everyone on the bus to follow her too! I didn't!

Our world is gorgeous but it's a pity about some people on it!

Something I’ve also noticed is that if you walk past a person (usually a woman) with a small child the person always starts talking nicely to the child obviously in order to impress you. Next time you pass someone with a child I bet you’ll see what I mean.

Gob s****s!

Do these people want us to hear their conversations or are they just loud?

I think that people are no longer 'inhibited' (I can't think of a more appropriate word) about their personal / private lives and don't have that sense of etiquette that our (or my) generation had instilled into us.

It is quite rude to shout in public - or be so loud - that you drown out other people's conversation with each other, or impinge on their privacy, like those two men chatting loudly late night near your house (we have the same problem).

It seems we are becoming less and less well-mannered and more 'aggressively' individual!

I wonder if TV - or the people appearing on it - are partly to blame? In so many programmes that deal with social issues, current affairs, etc - it seems people are encouraged to 'let it all hang out' and give vent to their feelings (and sometimes use quite colourful language to do it). It does make for lively viewing but at the same time I'm sometimes amazed at how much some individuals will divulge about their personal / private lives.

I think what I'm trying to say (inarticulately) is that basically, community has given way to individualism which means less consideration for other people? It's almost like some absolutely want to be noticed and talk very loudly to make sure they are.

We hear a lot of shouting in our local Tesco. Not the customers but the staff. Shouting down aisles to. each other constantly.

I was on a train when 2 lads sat across the aisle and started watching a video with lots of loud screeching laughter. About 15 minutes into the journey a woman in her 40s came up to them and shouted at them to either listen on headphones or turn it down. Then one of the lads pointed out to her that the carriage had had to put up with her shouting on her phone and boasting about where she had been! He was able to repeat most of her conversation. She tried to get me involved until I said “they are young and the young are loud, you are older and should have learned to be more considerate by now”. She went back to her seat and glowered at me for the rest of the journey.

We live next to a dog walking field. People shout not just at their dogs but at each other - and they walk just the other side of our hedge. I walked my dog with a friend for many years and we talked all the time - but quietly especially if near houses

Bumface

"Hell is Other People" is one of my favourite quotations.

Years ago I was a production of "In Camera" an English translation of "Huis Clos" by Jean Paul Sartre. I believe this is where the saying originated. Presumably translated from French.

Oooh I did drama for two years at college and I was Inez. I loved this play!

madeleine45

A couple of years ago I was on a train in a supposedly quiet carriage. Not a lot of people in there but a man using his lap top and talking in a very loud voice. I accepted it for a short time, there can be something that you have to do but not continuously. I went across and asked him to either speak quietly if he had to do so, or move to another carriage. He ignored me and carried on. I am a singer, so I then sat quite close to him and every time he started to raise his voice, I sang scales or a song. He glared and said what are you doing? I replied "working like you, I am a singer" He shut up for a while but then began again and so did I. He then picked up his lap top and flounced out of the carriage. Another lady thanked me as it had really annoyed her, and we both continued the rest of the journey in peace!

Hahaha well done you! As I get older (still “only” 65) I get less and less tolerant about noise and people in general!

I much prefer babies, horses and dogs!

"Hell is Other People" is one of my favourite quotations.

Years ago I was a production of "In Camera" an English translation of "Huis Clos" by Jean Paul Sartre. I believe this is where the saying originated. Presumably translated from French.

I rarely use public transport. I love my own space in my car. I can't stand to have to listen to people's conversations on mobiles.
I always turn my back on people talking loudly to their children in shops and cafes when they're remarking "How clever are you" or similar and expecting you to turn round and look.
Years ago my daughter had a friend in the same class and when they came out at hometime the mother of this friend was always commenting to her daughter how good she was to have moved on to the next reading book. Who cares.

Same here on buses.. loudly playing games on phones and having loud conversations. I was on a bus recently when a group of foreign young men were really loud and one having an extremely long, loud conversation. Several people asked them to be quiet, without result. So I went up to them and very calmly said that if they didn't quieten down that I would ask the driver to turf them off.. We were out in the country.. That made them quieten down.. but it could have got nasty..

‘Hell is other people’.

I think that is a quote, but it’s so true.

Yesterday in a cafe listening to a group of smartly dressed ladies of a certain age; one member persisted in laughing louder and longer than the rest of the group, many times, Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha-ha. Why?

Just loud gobby people who like to let everybody know what's happening in their lives.

We don't care tbh.

We have a couple come in the charity shop and they shout to each other I m sure it’s a ‘look at me’ thing wanting others to hear it. So it ll be something like ‘ you know our son got that nuclear physics degree last year very very loudly they are saying it to the shop really …….. and they use the word ‘beloved’ to each other in very very loud voices ‘Come here beloved look at this’ or ‘Do you remember when we went up that very high mountain, my beloved’
I really have to grit my teeth when they come in

A couple of years ago I was on a train in a supposedly quiet carriage. Not a lot of people in there but a man using his lap top and talking in a very loud voice. I accepted it for a short time, there can be something that you have to do but not continuously. I went across and asked him to either speak quietly if he had to do so, or move to another carriage. He ignored me and carried on. I am a singer, so I then sat quite close to him and every time he started to raise his voice, I sang scales or a song. He glared and said what are you doing? I replied "working like you, I am a singer" He shut up for a while but then began again and so did I. He then picked up his lap top and flounced out of the carriage. Another lady thanked me as it had really annoyed her, and we both continued the rest of the journey in peace!

People don't seem to differentiate between private and public space any more and carry out loud conversations for all to hear wherever they are. I find it annoying too.

Just loud.