Go Fund me or Go **** off?

GrannyGravy13

V3ra there are many threads all saying the same things?

Indeed... 😬

GrannyGravy13

Regarding the go fund me page for Jay Slater (the missing lad in Tenerife) there are some interesting threads on X from those who know him and the young lady who has started the fund.

She hasn’t shown her face in any of the press interviews, if the threads are even remotely close to the truth, I am totally shocked.

(They are easily found, but I will not post them on here)

I too have read the Twitter threads. They make interesting reading

Ive contributed small amounts on two occasions when the cause particularly touched me in a personal way.

I would never contribute to funeral costs. You can refuse to pay for the funeral of a relative and the local authority will pay. It used to be called a paupers funeral but now its called a Public Health funeral (or similar).

In the bible Jesus is reported to have said "let the dead bury the dead" when someone he called made the excuse of attending a funeral.

Rosesarered I would willingly contribute to your Son-in-law’s Gofundme account. It won’t be much, but every little will help. My lovely brother had MND and I know how cruel a disease it is. My brother was in 60s but your s.il. is so young. You can pm me if you wish. Up to you. Good wishes to you all.xx

You can choose not to donate to Go Fund Me causes.

Taxation is the Go fund Me you pay whether you like the causes or not.

I thought the missing teenager was 19, not 17.

Annsixty, I heard the same yesterday, but of course you can’t believe everything you hear.
I think it’s a very good way for schools, organisations or even individuals to raise money for projects, after all no one is forced to contribute.
But I would be extremely selective.
A man we know once set up a fund because his girlfriend had suffered a miscarriage, I agreed it was very sad, but what was the money for? He wanted to take her on a luxury holiday to get over it.

annsixty

I have read this morning that the mother of the teenager missing in Tenerife is relying on crowdfunding for her hotel accommodation.
Sadly I have also read but not verified is that the teenager is not a very nice person being charged with serious offences.
As I said I can’t corroborate this information.

And 9 of his friends have set one up to pay for them going over to Tenerife to help search for him?

There must be more to the Tenerife appeal than meets the eye.

Joseann

There must be more to the Tenerife appeal than meets the eye.

I think there is a great deal more to than meets the eye, yes. I know X (formerly known as Twitter) can be an absolute cesspit of a site, but the threads on there do make 'interesting' reading to say the least.

Yes 19 calendar girl. Apologies for my typos

Agree

The Tenerife Go Fund Me will not receive anything from me.

I would rather donate directly to a cause local to me than use one of those websites.

And then there's the one set up for Jay Slater who is missing in Spain.
It has amassed quite a lot in little time and his mum and older brother have gone out there to help look for him BUT, they have done so on their own money!!!

Every time I go into a shop and pay by card, I am asked if I'd like to donate to charity?
Well, no, actually, I flaming well don't want to donate to charity, where does it all end?
I'm not being stingy, but I like to choose which charities I give money to, when I give it, how much and how often?! Do they bother cash payers like that? No, they blimmin don't!!

But, tbh, I may pay into Jay Slaters, if only for his family to get his body back to England, if it's unfortunate that he isn't found alive!!

Rant over.

Calendargirl

I thought the missing teenager was 19, not 17.

Yes, that's right. He is 19. So young.

They have already raised over £30k Ali - and there is suspicion that it’s a scam to pay off his drug debts.

You can always choose not to give. It isn’t compulsive.

I have never contributed although if I thought someone /something was deserving I might.
How is anyone sure that they're not being scammed ?
For that reason I prefer to contribute to registered charities.
OH and I have very , very light digital footprints and yet still we get loads of scamming rubbish daily.
That's why I am cautious as, I suspect, most people are.

If the Jay Slater fund is a scam or whatever and I am most certainly not saying it is, do you think the family would have the nerve to draw on it except for exceptional circumstance after all the speculation.
It should certainly be accounted for, every last penny.

The beneficiaries are the friend who set it up, who has been alleged to be a drug dealer, and the mother. I suppose the friend could just withdraw all the money.

The beneficiary is Jay Slater's mother. GoFundMe have protected the money and it will only be paid out if they approve the circumstances. If not paid out all donations will be refunded

I’ve just seen a report in the DM on line, indicating Jay Slater’s mum wants to withdraw from the Go Fund Me money to fund the family’s living expenses

It’s been changed OldFrill. Originally the friend and the mother were beneficiaries. The mother also wants to use part of the money to fly other family members out ….

As others have said I think it depends on the reason for the request, I certainly wouldn't pay if it was somebody who hadn't bothered to take out insurance. I'm also not keen on sending people overseas for treatment unless the patient's NHS doctors genuinely recommend it. Some overseas treatment centres are set up by charlatans with no reasonable chance for the patient's recovery.
I'm also annoyed by sponsorship requests from children for expenditure on what is really a glorified holiday.

Parents and family do not grieve or worry less because they have a criminal record.

Even if this lad has started life badly, it doesn't mean that his parents and friends are not as distressed and worried as Michael Moseley's family were when he also went on an ill fated walk and died on the Greek island of Simi.

They should be treated with the same sympathy and concern.