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Ziggy62 Wed 24-Jul-24 08:50:37

My DH had falling out with his family in March. I (stupidly) got involved by sending a very polite text message to his sister explaining days/times he/we were available to help with care for their elderly mother.
Following week his mother and sister had falling out (nothing unusual), DH popped round to visit distressed mother who furiously blamed me for everything!!!!!
To cut a long story short, he's continued his visits and evening phone calls and not once has she asked about me ( or our new puppy) until about 2 weeks ago.
Tbh I was upset back in March but time has moved on and the behaviour of DH's family just shows how they feel about me.
However my birthday is coming up and MIL will no doubt send the usual birthday card and generous amount of cash. To keep DH happy do I accept card with a smile????

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Sago Wed 24-Jul-24 08:52:44

Well you haven’t received the card or cash yet so I would wait and see.
It all sounds very petty.

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LauraNorderr Wed 24-Jul-24 08:54:09

Of course you do. Whatever has happened in the past, let it go.
Send a little thank you note to show you are the bigger person and enjoy the cash.

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keepingquiet Wed 24-Jul-24 08:55:23

Yes and stop worrying about why people are or aren't asking about you. They sound like a very squabbling sort of family and I would consider myself well out of all that.

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NotSpaghetti Wed 24-Jul-24 08:57:05

Yes, accept with grace. Can you use it as an olive branch?

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Ziggy62 Wed 24-Jul-24 09:04:08

Sounds sensible lol
We're no longer invited to family events/celebrations etc but I can live with that

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petra Wed 24-Jul-24 09:19:55

You seem to have a lot of high emotions going on in your family. You posted telling us about your abusive husband.
You told us that you gave up drinking ( now 2 months ago) because you were drinking everyday.

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Ziggy62 Wed 24-Jul-24 09:34:36

Indeed

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Ali08 Fri 26-Jul-24 12:36:35

I think you're going to be lucky to receive a card, let alone any cash!

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Tuaim Fri 26-Jul-24 13:16:37

Wait and see what happens. If it is sent on time and the card is gracious etc, why not just send back a simple text saying thank you very much or a quick 'phone call as you may with other people. If it is surrounded with negativity, i.e. late, horrible card, with cold message, just bin it and move on. Sounds as if you need to focus on your own interests and life. I had a very difficult aunt who brought great family misery and she fell out with everyone.

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