Child screaming

Our generation think children of nine should neither screech nor scream when playing, nor interrupt grown-ups who are talking, because we had been taught not to do any of this long before the age of nine. And we taught our own children, and those we taught at school the same.

Today's parents allow this kind of behaviour, and, as yet, I have not found out when they would consider it suitable to teach their offspring not to shout, scream or interrupt.

Actually, I suspect they never will teach their children this, or other forms of consideration.

Welcome to living with the ME generation.

I am sure it is annoying but I don’t think you can approach someone else’s child. A friendly word with parents might have been better

We always say use your quiet voice if any of the children start shouting or screaming it works every time.

Cateq I looked after a lovely little girl who didn't scream particularly, but my goodness she was LOUD!!
I used to put my finger to my mouth and say, "Fairy voices please."
She loved it! 🧚🧚‍♀️🧚‍♂️

tickingbird

Vintagejazz

I dunno. When I was young you got into trouble with your parents for annoying other people. Now the other people are on trouble with the parents for 'upsetting' the child

100% this.

Yes, totally agree.

Vintagejazz

I dunno. When I was young you got into trouble with your parents for annoying other people. Now the other people are on trouble with the parents for 'upsetting' the child

100% this.

Sarahr

Our young neighbours are noisy, but it's happy playing noise. The worst of them being in the garden is the swing that screeches as the dad is too tight to buy oil for it.

Pop round there with some WD40 and a smile?

I recently did a citizens arrest 😁 on a small boy of around 4 who was dashing out of the Co-op when I was going in.I held him there for a minute or so and asked where Mum was, she came flying out and was glad to find him there and pulled him back into the shop, but not before glaring at me.🥺

Our young neighbours are noisy, but it's happy playing noise. The worst of them being in the garden is the swing that screeches as the dad is too tight to buy oil for it.

GrannyGravy13

I am going to play devils advocate now, do you think it could possibly be that people become more intolerant of noise as they age?

We have five children, the noise at times was loud, both inside and out. As parents we were capable of distinguishing between general shouting and screaming and a scream/shout of pain and/or anguish.

When it is your own child/children you can tell the difference in their screams, but not when it is someone else's. If your child is out of your earshot, it would be someone else who came to their aid in a real emergency - but if they are ignoring the screams because the mother could be annoyed at them for "upsetting" the child, they would get no help.

When we were young, any adult seeing us do something dangerous or anti-social would feel a responsibility, and be quick to comment, but now they don't dare to for fear of being accused of "harassing" or "giving verbal abuse to" children.

Toddlers and young kids will shout and scream, tho not all the time.The trend for older girls screaming comes from tv I bet, all the US shows about precocious young teens screaming with delight or surprise or something.Up to the parents to put a stop to but I’ve noticed that a lot of parents have no control whatsoever with their own kids.Send for ‘The Nanny’ she’d sort them out.

My youngest DgD who’s 18 months and she recently discovered her screaming voice but we’ve made sure she now knows not to do it. We always say use your quiet voice if any of the children start shouting or screaming it works every time.

Wow- I never heard of this in a child that age. I think I would be tempted to choose my moment and let out the loudest possible scream in reply... see what happens.

I've got out bed to go and investigate many times, as I've heard what sounds like a woman in distress, just to find they're just walking by in a group.

Have you not noticed how young people including young adults seems to scream all the time! Especially young women. It really irritates me, that they have to scream about everything.

When did this headache-inducing screaming replace laughter, something which one used to hear in playgrounds? Now, it is this constant screeching. Why? My Seventies born children never screamed when playing, neither did their peers. It is dreadful.

The little girl in the opposite flat to me is practising her screaming skills.
She seems to have just realised how loud a noise she can make, and I can see her looking really pleased with herself is she manages to go louder .

She is three.

We live in a terraced house and have 'screamers' on both sides, one is a 3 year old, who the parents say is 'very intelligent' but she screams at the least thing.

The other side are grandchildren who are there being 'minded' after school and in the holidays there are four of them, their ages ranging from 4 to 12, they all scream, the noise is horrendous. One especially delights in banging the radiators.

We love our house and garden but have put it on the market, we just can't stand it any more.

I agree that many modern parents ignore their children-especially in public.Loud screaming is not acceptable and is highly annoying -especially if it’s a all day occurrence in a neighbouring garden.Some parents I’m afraid are scared to say no to their children and wonder why they are hard to control as teenagers..Parenting classes should be obligatory,some people haven’t got a clue how to handle young children.

I was warned as a child about this. I can't abide it now and not just because I didn't do it myself. I have a health condition that causes me pain in my ears and head when a child lets rip with one of the classic earsplitting screeches. There are 2 families near me with trampolines and young children. It's a screamathon!

I dunno. When I was young you got into trouble with your parents for annoying other people. Now the other people are on trouble with the parents for 'upsetting' the child.

I was in a queue at the supermarket checkout when a four or five year old girl seated in the main part of a trolley behind me, let out an ear splitting scream. How a small person could produce such decibels I do not know. I jumped out of my skin and without thinking asked the child why she was making that dreadful noise and did she want to give everyone a headache. I this said in my school teacher voice. The mother indignantly said I should not speak to a child in that tone of voice. I suggested if you do not tell her it is wrong, how can she know. At least the child now remained quiet!

I think you will just have to empathise but I agree, at 9 she could be told to tone it down a bit. Our neighbours are quite loud but their children are very little so it is understandable (I don't mind it but my family was chaotic as one had SN, all my neighbours were nice )

9 years old should know better, don’t blame the neighbour blame the parents. My neighbours son, age 4, is a cryer/screamer. When I hear him playing outside he’s crying within 5 minutes, they constantly tell him off, then take him the house, still screaming! This 9 year old would not be allowed to scream her head off in school so how come she gets away with it at home.

I always told my children and now my granddaughters not to scream or shriek as if anything awful happened and say they were injured, how would anyone know the difference between over excited screaming or really needing help?
My children never did it and after telling my granddaughters the same they have stopped doing it.
I have heard screams from nearby gardens and have called out, is everything ok, do you need any help? The shrieking and screaming does stop for a bit.