What does this mean

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trying to understand what 'woulnd have wanted' means in context as i have read various things online. I dont care for that situation it is the grammar and helping me improve.

Looks pretty clear to me !

does wouldnt have means if it were an option, as in she is talking hypoetchically?

I dont want to use this in the wrong context in future and any help would be appreciated.

Basically in this context she is saying that she lacked commitment in the relationship and would never want to commit herself go the relationship with him permanently...so she decided to end it.

okay so does it sound like the partner lacked this too - is wouldnt have an option?

Hmmm....

what????

Yes, she’s talking about a hypothetical situation. So if she had been asked to commit to him, she would not have wanted to. His opinion isn’t known, as she hasn’t mentioned it.

that makes alot of sense
so we dont know if he ever asked her to commit but she is talking hypo-fetically that if he did, she wouldt have wanted to.

thanks alot MM

It sounds as though the relationship didn’t last long enough to reach a point where marriage was an option, but if he had proposed, she would not have wanted to accept.
It is the Conditional Perfect, following an implied ‘If ‘ clause.

She could simply have said, “ I wasn’t committed, so I left” or maybe “ I didn’t want to risk being put on the spot, ( = asked to marry him) so I left before it got that far” .

this query sounds very familiar.
OP did you post the same question recently. ?

Seems its being approached from a different angle, I agree.

Thank you that make sense. Said hypothetically. He didn't propose as she saying if it was an option etc

Did not want to spend the rest of their life with them

languagetool.org/insights/post/would-of-or-would-have/

The phrase “I would not have wanted to” is in the past perfect conditional tense. It’s used to express a hypothetical situation in the past that didn’t happen. For example, “I would not have wanted to miss the concert if I had known it was so good.”

Okay so commitment was never a question so it was a if he bad asked me I wouldn't have said yes gotcha thank you all

Wouldn't have means
would not have ie did not want

Oh, the marvellous randomness of Gransnet!!

I wonder why my post was deleted I can’t remember what I said but I m pretty sure it wasn’t anything nasty or out of what we should post How strange !

Yes, we would say ‘wouldn’t have’ as opposed to ‘wouldn’t’ when we’re referring to the past, So she was referring to an event that has already happened and how she felt (then) about it. Ean other example, “I wouldn’t have gone there yesterday anyway as I didn’t have the time.”. This rather than “I wouldn’t go there yesterday…….” which doesn’t really make sense.

BlueBelle

I wonder why my post was deleted I can’t remember what I said but I m pretty sure it wasn’t anything nasty or out of what we should post How strange !

I can't remember what you said, BlueBelle, but I remember thinking it sounded harsh and dismissive.