Cleavage.

BigBopper

To be truthful I think the same as kircubbin2000. There is nothing more off putting than seeing a woman wearing a low cut top with an overspill and when she moves it is like a wobbly jelly. All I think is for god's sake buy a proper fitting bra.

If my tops are cut low because of the style, I always wear a camisole under it and I don't have an overspill as my bras fit me perfectly.

This! 😳

Unfortunately taking the drug Pregabalin has made me gain a stone in weight . I’m upset enough about the gain in weight without being made to feel I should cover it up, although I do try. I’m hoping to lose it after I’ve had the necessary spinal surgery.

I wouldn't criticise a woman for what she wears but being a cold hearted person I am super aware of the number of bare arms on show in all weathers. Men in jackets accompanied by women with sleeveless dresses. They look lovely but I would need to wear a cardie.
The only time I have been distracted by an ample cleavage was when I was having an eye test. It was in the days when the lights were dimmed in the wee cubicle and the optician was sitting below me. I had no choice but to stare down the front of her top. Mr P would have been embarrassed.
As for the comment above about plump people, the poster needs to change her name because my children would say that her opinion was not cool.

Marydoll

As a “plump” person, having been a not plump person, and on a myriad of drugs, I agree!

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I don’t care! I don’t find bosoms, whatever their shape or size, either inappropriate or offensive!

coolgranny12

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How rude!

Some people can do nothing about their plumpness!
Heart conditions and many medications can cause this. We don't want to look plump, but have no control over it.
Comments like that only make us feel worse.

OMG who are you to say that coolgran !!!

I m an average bosom size C I d prefer smaller but we are what we are I prefer V necked clothes and don’t feel the need to wear camisols I don’t spill out all over the place but don’t mind a bit of cleavage showing if out anywhere special or on the beach

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I often wonder how Dolly Parton doesn't fall over forwards? Lol

I agree it’s not a style I think looks good on anyone either. But they didn’t ask my opinion. I’ve always been bustier than I preferred to be but a well fitted bra and the right clothes and I don’t show cleavage at all. Never have been a fan.

As a woman at management level, in, mainly, engineering companies. I was very conscious that how I dressed was an important part of getting proper respect in my job. I had no problem about wearing strong colours In that sea of grey and black at meetings, it was always very clear where the solitary woman was, but nothing remotely revealing or provocative.

When I worked as a health care professional there were NHS Trust and professional standards dress codes for those that did not wear uniform. These included discreet necklines and appropriate hem lengths.

I am a 36DD, but only 5ft.

Many years later, one of my school friends, (by this time my son's GP) and I were discussing about the cleavage revealing dress I wore to the sixth year ball. He said my bust had been described as the eighth engineering wonder of the world, no-one could understand why I didn't topple over.
Unfortunately, when I made the dress, I underestimated how low it would look.
What a hussy!

( Sorry about the typos. I cant edit for some reason.)

GrannyGravy13

MissInterpreted

If you have big boobs, sometimes it actually looks a lot worse if you try to cover them up.

I am in that category. Think Dolly Parton without the hair or money 🤣🤣🤣

5’2” size 10 bottom half accompanied with a 32HH bust.

Shopping for dresses is a nightmare, and I wear dresses 50% of the time. V neck is far more flattering than a high neck.

I’m 5’2” with slim hips and can equal/beat your bust size with 36F 😂 You are not alone. I’ve spent most of my life squashing my boobs into bras that were much too small but now have found the right bra: Anita Active Extreme Control. But I rarely show cleavage. Jackets are my thing. And long scarves. So a good distraction.
I bet up you look lovely in your dresses. Plus a little jacket? Very feminine.
Women often envy us you know. They don’t think of all that extra weight to be carried around. And not always wanting to look sexy!

Oh these emotive words that get thrown around these days 'shaming', 'hating, it is a form of moral blackmail to stop anyone saying anything the person wielding this weapon doesn't like. Like a two year old throwing a tantrum.

I am quite free to criticise hw anyone I see dresses, male or femail, including people making invidious comments on how I dress. These are my personal opinions and I am free to speak them.

Of course, everyone does it when it suits them. Remember the cricicism of Boris Johnson, what clothes he wore and how he wore them?

Criticsm is only wrong when it is done to make someone a figure of ridicule or when used as a weapon to denigrate someone, which a simple comment, good or bad, about how someone dresses does not do.

I also think no sleeves and low cut tops presenting the weather annoys me it's not appropriate it's not really scorching hot

Norah

I have a ridiculous amount of boobage on a slim frame - I wear minimiser bras and keep covered outside my home, because that pleases me.

Others do what pleases them. "You do you" springs to mind.

Exactly, it's 2024. Stop shaming other women for what they choose to wear.

Oh dear this is heading in the direction of that infamous thread about the choice of clothes by a certain female politico. Time to get out the popcorn. Who will be reported and banned this time????

Too much skin in any workplace (professional especially) is off putting to me. Time and place ladies please.

The thing is, many of the younger staff favoured them. The rest of us favoured granny knickers. We had to set an example.

I accidentally bought a thong once. (knickers to match a bra came thong or ordinary, all on the same rack, I picked the wrong one up). I wore them for about an hour and never again, uncomfortable was putting it mildly, cheese cutter is exactly how it felt.

@Marydoll
They don't call thongs cheese cutters for nothing, I can't think of anything more uncomfortable to wear.

I was the designated Apprpropriate dress code enforcer in my school.
Telling a young teacher that her thong was showing, when she bent over, because her pelmet was too short, required great diplomacy.

I of course, could not be faulted. 🤣

A young teacher I know was told by senior staff that her low-cut, very revealing tops weren't appropriate in the primary school classroom and she needed to cover up.
Her mother was most offended.