Gifts for grandchildren

No you're not being unreasonable at all and your daughter shouldn't have asked.
At their ages, 11 and 12, your grandchildren are old enough to understand the situation: your grandson has waited for his second gift but that doesn't mean your granddaughter gets a third one.

Your grandson has done well waiting, your daughter is being unreasonable, not you, she shouldn’t have asked.

Of course not ! Your DD should not have asked. Both children have had equal amounts spent on them . Do not buy another gift !

No, I would explain to your granddaughter why not.

You are most definitely not being unreasonable. However, your daughter is! You are treating your grandchildren fairly.

This reminds me that my DGD’s other grandparents buy each of our GC a present on their birthdays. We only buy for the child whose birthday it is.

I agree dragonfly, buying a child a birthday gift on their siblings birthday is ridiculous!!!

Your grandchildren are very lucky that you are sharing your good fortune with them, and your daughter should know better.
Explain to your daughter why you are not buying your grand daughter another gift.
Instead of asking for more gifts they should all realise that this is your money and it is only thanks to your generosity that they are getting anything at all.

Shelflife

I agree dragonfly, buying a child a birthday gift on their siblings birthday is ridiculous!!!

This happened with one of my grown daughter’s friends who, when a second baby was born, insisted everyone should buy presents for her two year old instead, because he might get jealous.

Babs03

Shelflife

I agree dragonfly, buying a child a birthday gift on their siblings birthday is ridiculous!!!

This happened with one of my grown daughter’s friends who, when a second baby was born, insisted everyone should buy presents for her two year old instead, because he might get jealous.

More than once I’ve bought a little present for a toddler, or for 2 small children, as well as for the new baby, when it arrived.
I don’t see any harm in it. None of the children have become spoilt or demanding.

Same as Witzend - I always give a little token present for the other child as well. As a matter of fact, it’s my little grandson’s birthday tomorrow. He gets the ‘big’ present. His brother and cousins will get some colouring pens. What’s it going to cost other than bring a smile to little kids’ faces ?

Nope, you’re being perfectly fair AND your GC are old enough to understand.

IMO, the unreasonable one is DD

dragonfly46

This reminds me that my DGD’s other grandparents buy each of our GC a present on their birthdays. We only buy for the child whose birthday it is.

Completely agree! It’s one child’s “special day” and siblings have to learn this.

No you're not and your daughter was naughty to ask tbh.

I did that when mine were younger. Not know though