Friend - reconnecting after 1 year

Sometimes it can be helpful to get the perspective of older folks. 😊
Anyway, that young woman is a “friend” best avoided, I think.

Thanks NanaTuesday- just going to say this myself.

NanaTuesday

Don’t want to be rude , but have you posted on the wrong site ? This is Grananwt , I’m sure Mumsnwt would be more suitable 😘

Maybe it’s on mumsnet and OP didn’t like the responses?

Don’t want to be rude , but have you posted on the wrong site ? This is Grananwt , I’m sure Mumsnwt would be more suitable 😘

I'm going through this nonsense now and I only have myself to blame as one of my friends makes me thoroughly unhappy .
I make excuses for her .
She's not normal -most people think that she's mentally ill .
Her husband is mean with money and selfish .
Two of her three kids are a nightmare .

The point is meeting up with her isn't enjoyable .
I'm sick of listening to the illnesses , the phobias and being snapped at .
The last time I saw her she was indescribably rude

It's getting worse .
It's time to give her the heave ho .

This so - called friend that you have isn't your true friend .
In your pregnancy you need rest , a good diet , gentle exercise and the company of normal people .
You'll meet them at ante - natal classes .

She’s really not your friend. Don’t waste time feeling annoyed or irritated by her behaviour, the only person bothered by that is you, she neither knows nor cares!

It sounds as though you have other, better, people in your life, so write this person off as a lost cause and concentrate on the exciting times you’ve got ahead of you. Hope it all goes well!

Thank you everyone for your best wishes 😊 and all of your advice xx

When the chips are down, she won't be there for you. Enjoy the friendship of your true friends, enjoy your pregnancy. You are worth the people who love you and respect you. This woman is flakey. I've seen it all. Congratulations on your good news. !

I woldnt be going anywhere near her, or have anything to do with her, as a "friend".

Confusedfriend

To confirm, no one except me and my partner knows about my pregnancy. So friend doesn't know sickness is related to that. I'm keeping it quiet until we get the 12 week scan. I'm too nervous something will go wrong before then x

I know lots of women who have felt just the same. Is your news to tell so do it when you feel comfortable doing so.
One of my daughters was very sick from the get-go, am afraid it is just the luck of the draw, but it should diminish after the first trimester.
Wishing you good health and no stressful episodes with so called friends.
xxxx

To confirm, no one except me and my partner knows about my pregnancy. So friend doesn't know sickness is related to that. I'm keeping it quiet until we get the 12 week scan. I'm too nervous something will go wrong before then x

Thank you. I am and will continue concentrating on my pregnancy. It's my 1st time and didn't expect sickness to be so bad this early on. I am a slightly happy whenever I feel ill, though, as I know everything is working away and my body is adjusting to changes. Thank you for your congrats, I am very excited and counting down the days to my 12 week scan 🥰

Why is this person a close friend?
She sounds like a bit of a nightmare.
Also is she perhaps intentionally being a bit mean asking you if you wanted to go along when she met a mutual friend then not getting back about it only to text on the night she met this friend alone in order to let you know she had not included you?
If she has caused trouble with friendship groups before and is known to be a bit of a drama queen when others cancel plans with her, am struggling to see what she brings to the table as a friend other than a lot of grief.
Would concentrate on your pregnancy - congrats on that - and not play her games anymore. You sound as if you have other friends so spend time with them and if she texts again just keep it civil/light and don't arrange anything.

I know. Just winds me up. I hated cancelling, especially as I haven't seen her in a year but this morning sickness is not fun and I can barely eat any meal at the moment. I said to my other friends I'll come along tomorrow if I manage dinner tonight and breakfast tomorrow. If not, then there's no point meeting for dinner. Plus, It's not just feeling sick, I've been sick after some meals too. Awk see, this is how she makes me feel, I am justifying everything!!

With friends like her you don't need enemies. Shes shown you what she is and you've been fine for 12 months. Look forward to this pregnancy don't give her another thought. Look forward not back.

Just annoying as I have plans with friends tomorrow and have given them the heads up I might cancel as I feel so ill. They've been absoultely fine, asking how I'm feeling, and have insisted that we all rearrange to meet when I suggest that they meet with out me so we don't all miss out.