Feeling left out of friendship group

I’m the same. I was once left out from a group of colleagues they were younger and went out on a night out couple of times without asking me I felt terrible, it’s years ago but I still remember it. It toughened me up though. Have my own four friends we go out with now and never leave any of them out.

That is a nice gesture of your other friend to invite her to stay to cheer her up. Please don't feel left out. Just accept the situation and see in future if they still include you. Do they live closer to each other or have better transport connections? Is there a reason the other friend is feeling depressed and what age group are you all? One thing I have noticed in my friendship group is the older some people become, the less aware they are of what they do or say. They don't mean to offend but it can appear that way. I am quite friendly with one old lady and she really was quite revolting when it came to my birthday. She simply 'phoned and said that she had been so busy and so tired that she could not be bothered to send me a card so was 'phoning instead. I took it at face value and if she wants to contact me again, she knows where I am. In the meantime, I am busy doing my thing with my people. Hope the feeling resolves itself for you.

The fact that you know about this weekend and were told about it by one of your friends, actually shows that your feelings of exclusion are unjustified.

If they were excluding you, you would not have been told aabout this visit. It is likely of someone is feeling down, that a friend may well invite them round for a quiet weekend. I suspect that I would do the same in the same circumstances.

It probably never occurred to either of them that you would feel cut out, they would just think that someone dear is feeling down so you invite them round, not for a get together of girls, but as a hand reached out to a friend in distress. If you had been the one feeling down, not your friend, the same hand of friendship would probably have been offered to you.

Try not to let this upset you too much.

The issue with “friendship groups” is that members always get offended and upset when others sometimes want to do things in smaller groups or other people.

Move on and hopefully enjoy some more good times with them all in the future.

Your feelings are pretty common and natural, but probably unfounded.

My thoughts are the same as those of MOnica above. I am in a group of 3 friends that I worked in the past with. Sometimes they do things together and don’t ask me but it doesn’t worry me as we have plenty of nice meet ups all together.