Hello
I am 13 weeks pregnant. At the weekend, we told my brother on the Friday and then my parents on the Saturday. My Dad isn't the easiest to get on with. He makes jokes non stop, he interrupts, he says inappropriate things... he means well but sometimes he makes situations all about him. After revealing my pregnancy, my dad did say a few nice things but then turned the conversation to himself while winding up my little brother.
After 2 hours of this, my bf was quiet, and snapped at me when I asked what was wrong. He said "I have reached my limit, you know why". I knew he was annoyed with my family but felt he took it out on me. When I said I wasnt happy with how he spoke to me, he exploded. Telling me I was picking sides and that I needed to shut up.
He then cancelled our pregnancy reveal with his sister the following day and said he didnt want to see me.
I took my seatbelt off when I got to my house (he was driving) and he intentionally done a harsh 3 point turn so I would hit the dashboard. He then called me an idiot for taking my seatbelt off. He later said he done this intentionally as he felt I was making a point of taking my belt off.
He then said he didnt want to speak to me the following day, and went home. The next day I did expect an apology. He never got in touch in the morning so I, wrong I know, continually called him (about 60 times, literally) forcing him to speak to me. We did speak, over 6 hours – in this time we would see eye to eye then we would argue again.
We went to bed on okay-ish terms. Before bed he said he doesnt want to speak about the weekend until he has had time to think and cool off.
The next day (Monday, yesterday), I texted and asked if I could go over, have dinner with him, stay and discuss the weekend. He said okay. I then text saying a conversation would be good to put all this to bed. He hearted this message. When I got to his house. I said I had written down points to discuss. He then said he didnt want to talk as he is too tierd from work and hasnt eaten yet. I said he agreed when I texted and he said he didn’t fully read my message. I asked if we could talk for a bit and he agreed. We finished talking after 1.5 hours and went to bed at 1am. This morning he looked very grumpy and tierd.
He kissed me goodbye and said he loved me.
On my way home, he texted saying last night and this morning morning felt off. That he didnt want to talk last night and I pushed it. Which has meant the work he didnt do at the weekend is still not done and now he is too tierd. He asked me not to contact him and that he is rethinking if we should visit his parents at the weekend (down south) to revleal the pregnancy. He asked me not to call him but I did.
On the phone he said he didnt want to talk until he got in touch with me, I said I wanted a phone call later tonight even about general stuff, he said "maybe".
I have since sent him a text saying I am confused and if he still wants to be with me as I feel I am getting mixed signals.
Last night he said I was his one and he wasnt going anywhere. We were discussing planning for maternity leave and budgeting… to now this. I don’t understand.
I dont know what to think or do.
Do you think he still wants to be with me?
Thanks
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