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Gym Changing Rooms

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AGAA4 Sat 22-Feb-25 14:06:35

Maybe it's one of those basic instincts we have. If someone is already in a certain place then it's safe and there's safety in numbers.
I think it's the same if you see say an empty cafe. I'm quite happy to go in and sit alone but once people see someone else is there they come in.

4allweknow Sat 22-Feb-25 13:27:09

Sassenach 512 Having been a caravanner for over 40 years I'd suspect you picked the best spot (for various reasons) so others will find something about the area too hence the follow suit mentality.
Can't figure out the changing room synario though unless perhaps best spot for privacy, security, nearest showers.

Babs03 Thu 20-Feb-25 22:14:21

I get this on trains. In a completely empty carriage someone plonks themselves next to me. Why? They don’t want to chat or anything, they just decide to plonk.
Am really not tolerating this anymore. The past couple of times this happened I got up and went to sit elsewhere. Is just daft.

Cossy Thu 20-Feb-25 17:12:32

I hate that! I feel it’s an invasion of personal space.

Same in car parks, on buses, on trains, on park benches, in cafes!

Why, oh why, when there is space aplenty do people do this?

Caro41 Thu 20-Feb-25 17:10:14

This reminds me of being on the beach as a child when my father always complained about people “ formating “ on us .
This was an RAF expression he used during the war , referring to the Luftwaffe flying a bit too close for comfort.

Calendargirl Sat 15-Feb-25 07:34:48

Witzend

There are only a few cubicles at my David Lloyd, but since I like my privacy I always use one. What’s annoying is the odd person who thinks the can ‘bag’ one by leaving all their stuff in it.

Next time I see this, I’ve got a good mind to shove it all in the nearest empty locker - always plenty of those since I don’t go at very busy times.

This sometimes happens at our swimming pool, despite notices saying that you shouldn’t do it, and that stuff left will be put into lost property, which never happens. Lockers are provided, £1 which you get back each time. There again, some stick their stuff in lockers but don’t lock them, meaning you open half a dozen only to find they are in use.

This type of behaviour irks me.

One leisure attendant told me to just move stuff out of cubicles if left in there, but really don’t like to do that.

The staff should, it would soon put a stop to it.

Witzend Fri 14-Feb-25 21:57:11

There are only a few cubicles at my David Lloyd, but since I like my privacy I always use one. What’s annoying is the odd person who thinks the can ‘bag’ one by leaving all their stuff in it.

Next time I see this, I’ve got a good mind to shove it all in the nearest empty locker - always plenty of those since I don’t go at very busy times.

Grannybags Fri 14-Feb-25 18:34:45

Astitchintime

I notice similar behaviours in car parks..........it can be almost empty but I can guarantee the next vehicle to arrive will park RIGHT NEXT TO ME! Bloody morons!

That always happens to us. We say our car must have a magnetic personality!

Thoro Fri 14-Feb-25 18:27:55

Maybe you were sitting next to the locker she always uses - I have noticed (and do it myself) that people like to use the same locker or area each time they come.

Astitchintime Fri 14-Feb-25 18:23:05

I notice similar behaviours in car parks..........it can be almost empty but I can guarantee the next vehicle to arrive will park RIGHT NEXT TO ME! Bloody morons!

RosieandherMaw Fri 14-Feb-25 18:19:14

Bring back Social Distancing!
(You could hint that you've got Covid by some serious coughing )

25Avalon Fri 14-Feb-25 17:57:22

Dh used to get sooo annoyed when he was taking photos of steam trains. He would arrive an hour early find a good far from people spot and wait, only to have someone come and stand in front of him just as the train was about to go pass.

Jaxjacky Fri 14-Feb-25 16:41:48

Beaches are the same Panglas ✅ in fact any open space, most odd and at times irritating.

welbeck Fri 14-Feb-25 16:31:00

Ì thought from the title that this would be about male bodied people walking about naked in women's changing rooms.

Pantglas2 Fri 14-Feb-25 16:12:58

It happens to me/us in bars, restaurants, cinemas, on beaches all the time

I would never park myself down next to other folks unless the place was absolutely jam packed.

Shelflife Fri 14-Feb-25 15:53:25

I understand how you feel . Last week on the bus that was almost empty a woman sat beside me - and she had a load of shopping bags too! It wasn't as though she was lonely and fancied a chat , she never said a word. There were lots of empty seats !!

Barleyfields Fri 14-Feb-25 15:52:34

I do like my space. I wouldn’t sit or park next to you if there was space elsewhere!

welbeck Fri 14-Feb-25 15:50:09

Maybe they have stowed their stuff in a locker you are sitting in front of ?

Grandmabatty Fri 14-Feb-25 15:47:21

I wonder if some people panic at the amount of space available and just go to where others are?

keepingquiet Fri 14-Feb-25 15:46:28

People are funny aren't they?

I never could figure out why people parked as close the gym building as they could and then went in to get some exercise!

Kateykrunch Fri 14-Feb-25 15:01:29

sassenach512

I wonder if it's the herd mentality Katey? some people just subconsciously like to be near to others. We get this so much when we caravan, we set up in a open area, lots of pitches to choose from and you can bet by the end of the day we'll have a caravan either side of us and someone sitting in their caravan watching us eat dinner! it's called 'sod's law' smile

Oh yes, now I think about it, its the same in car parks isnt it lol.

sassenach512 Fri 14-Feb-25 14:41:42

I wonder if it's the herd mentality Katey? some people just subconsciously like to be near to others. We get this so much when we caravan, we set up in a open area, lots of pitches to choose from and you can bet by the end of the day we'll have a caravan either side of us and someone sitting in their caravan watching us eat dinner! it's called 'sod's law' smile

Kateykrunch Fri 14-Feb-25 13:56:47

Just back from my fitness and aqua class (go me lol), there are very spacious changing areas with benches, so why, oh why, when I was the only person in area, did the next person to come in actually plonk all her stuff and herself right, right, right next to me and the next one to arrive actually sat on my gym bag! I moved but just don't get why people cluster. Thanks for reading lol, phew, dont all crowd in with your responses, leave room, thanks x