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My husband has dementia

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Septimia Sat 10-May-25 18:34:15

I'm really sorry - it's such a cruel disease and very tiring for the carer.

Use the Alzheimer's Society website for help and advice. There's also a good book of advice by June Andrews ("Dementia - the one-stop guide"). See if there are any local groups your DH could go to, to give you a break. If he becomes awkward about doing/not doing something, don't argue with him, deflect him by changing the subject.

Carry on doing as much as you can together for as long as possible. Going for walks is good for both of you. For yourself, it's important to get some time off, so do try to find some way of doing that, either by getting someone to come in and "visit" or by using a local group if there is one.

We have someone in our community who has Alzheimers. We all know and know how to cope with her, and make allowances. Some of your social circle might be able to do likewise.

Good luck and take care.

Mt61 Sat 10-May-25 18:29:38

Mt61

How long has he had dementia, also what type of dementia?
Is he bad enough to get a care package in place?
Maybe one of the family could sit in with him & let you go out.

I really feel for you- meant to add. 🫂

Mt61 Sat 10-May-25 18:27:46

How long has he had dementia, also what type of dementia?
Is he bad enough to get a care package in place?
Maybe one of the family could sit in with him & let you go out.

Juniper1 Sat 10-May-25 18:17:47

Feeling so lonely. Have done all the procedures, diagnosis, power of attorney. Thought we could beat it, seems I can’t.
Losing more daily it seems. Like having a child to guide, and “help” with things that were automatic. And such an intelligent person, it’s cruel.
Some family around, some times. Week ends are worst.
I now do all driving, which I hate. Will do local stuff but no distances. So travel limited to train or bus or foot. And lots of planning needed.
Any advice on how to keep myself positive. He’s whistling mostly! Afraid for the future