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Partner can't say he will always be there for our little girl

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BlueBelle Tue 03-Jun-25 20:03:44

You do sound rather immature keep pushing and pushing why not just get on with looking after your little bundle hopefully he ll fall into fatherhood too your basically asking him to look into the future which of course he can’t do and you are niggling away at him
I think he’s right he can’t see into the future and you constantly pecking at him will just make him back away Stop the hypothetical questions no one knows what the future will hold
Live the present and relax and let him get on with learning how to be a good dad without you constantly questioning his ability

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butterandjam Tue 03-Jun-25 20:03:39

Unmarried parents need BOTH present at birth registration for both their names to be on the child's birth certificate.
Make sure he accompanies you to register the birth..

If he's registered as her father then it will be easier to claim Child Support after he bunks off.

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Lathyrus3 Tue 03-Jun-25 19:55:59

Nobody can tell what will happen in the future.

I agree with him. Stop creating imaginary scenarios and trying to control a situation that actually only exists in your own head. And expecting someone else to enter into your imaginary world is just not reasonable.

Maybe seek some help on how to live in and enjoy the present.

It’s the secret of a happy life!

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valdavi Tue 03-Jun-25 19:30:54

I think you are. If he says "No", what does that change? Your little girl is here.( congratulations) & he has done his best to take back his heated comment from before she was born.
His mind obviously works in different ways to yours over this (hypothetical) question.

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MaxieF Tue 03-Jun-25 19:25:14

My partner and I have a 3 week old.

During pregnancy during an argument he said it would be easier to pay child maintenance and have nothing to do with me. I was a little controlling. That obviously didn't happen. He said he onky said that as our little girl is an extension of me and he would want nothing to do with me. He also said there is now a little person here and he didn't have a bond with her when she was in the bump.

I have asked him about this lots of times if he can promise for sure that he is always going to be there for our little girl and he can't say for definite as he doesn't know the circumstances or why we would break up etc. He said im red flags for even thinking about us breaking up in the future. I've said that he's rhe red flag as he can't say, as her dad, that he will always be there for her, even if we break up. I then said as her mother, I can say ill always be there why can't you? He then said "mothers belong in families"

Is my questions strange or would you find his responses strange? Why can't a dad say first sure he will always be there for his child?

He keeps going on about never thinking we will break up and we are solid and that he is fed up of these alternative universes I keep creating.

Aibu??

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