Beds in the study?

My MIL has a camping bed in her study-slash-bedroom. One of her sons and even I have slept on it without complaining.

But this is your son and your grandchildren, if you feel you have good relationship with them and want to please them all, do put another type of bed. This won't be that expensive or bad for you all

I use a z-bed for my grandson, it fiolds away to look like a small console table , a couple of them would serve quite well.

I wouldnt allow it personally.

Your house - only that few days per year they stay in it. I presume you use your study as your study - as in 365 days a year (minus their few days staying). Your son can't just TELL you what to do in your own home - how very presumptuous of him.

Why on earth would anyone rearrange a whole room for the sake of his wants for that few days? Worst case analysis could be a new sofa or something that YOU want anyway in the sitting room and that converts into a bed and that would do the trick.

I’m thoroughly confused here. The children are happy. The issue is being discussed between their parents and uncle and you’ll be told the outcome? all feels very heavy handed towards you kirkcubbin.

I’m back to my previous thought . Unless those two lads are used to sharing a bed putting them to sleep together when they haven’t asked to do so is a recipe for many arguments. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with the self inflating air beds (eg Aerobed), very comfortable and big enough for adults.

The room used not so much as a study but for computer wotk was long ago to accommodate bunk beds for two grandchildren. Now one is so tall I feel he has outgrown even the 6'3" bunks. I feel he woukd manage in something wider being able to lie across a bit more. Really interested in the blow up beds, which would be accommodated in another room. I had a sofa bed years ago to accommodate a son on his visits. Wouldn't go down that road again even though it was a high end make, just not confortable for sleeping.

Yes Win. I'm wondering if the family have asked him to intervene. They are discussing it now and we will decide after the holiday as they are not coming till August.

knspol

RosieandherMaw

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I have one like this but without the headboard and when not in use it has a bright bedspread and cushions on, looks OK to me.

So why are you even having this conversation with other son who is not the parent. Does he have children of his own that wish to stay or does he wish to move home? Tell him to but out and if you really want to discuss it with the parents without the other son around. Is there a chance. the parents have said something to the brother? Either way you do as you please as it is your home

Why wouldn’t you? They’re your grandchildren for heavens sake! Put the computer desk elsewhere and get the bunk beds. I’ve had them in my third bedroom for years, my desk is in the kitchen. They grow so fast, embrace it while you can!

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A trundle bed should work and needn't be unattractive.
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The parents will be in the second bedroom. The 3rd room is small and once 2 beds go in there will be no room to move. They will either have to fold up or slide underneath.

We have a single bed with a trundle underneath. It works well. Ours is from John Lewis.

We had a lovely study with one wall of books but gladly gave it up to fit a single bed with a trundle bed underneath for our gran children . When the books were still there one of them said she always worried about them falling on her so we gave away the lot .

We have a tiny spare room so invested in a single study bed which is so easy to switch to a desk which is the full length of the bed and makes a fantastic workspace. The desk always stays horizontal so even a fish tank would be ok being switched under the bed! We love it.

They arent his children


Why does he have any say on it then?
I'm quite confused here?

...and the children haven't complained.

RosieandherMaw

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I have one like this but without the headboard and when not in use it has a bright bedspread and cushions on, looks OK to me.

I’d go bunk beds or a day bed with a trundle bed underneath or a Murphy bed that converts from a wall based fitted desk/shelving unit to a double or single bed For the parents and put two singles in the 2nd bedroom for the grandchildren

What about folding beds? Some have wheels so could be moved around easily & if dimensions permit you could use your existing blowup beds as extra mattresses. It might help to change the table for a folding one, perhaps like a garden table, so that way you still have the use of your 3rd bedroom as a study.

M0nica

What is the son doing thinking he can dictate to his mother like this? The children visit twice a year, so he expects her to be inconvenienced for the whole year just to pander to his children.

Stand up to him and just say 'no'. Or is he used to running roughshod over you?

They arent his children.I shall discuss it with their parents and let them decide. The kids haven't complained.

I’ve slept on one of those rising air beds, they are really comfy!

If it was twice a week I’d understand, but don’t have a sofa bed if you don’t want one, get two of these riser beds!

So, this other son is going to help get a pull out bed or sofa…….does that mean he’s going to pay towards it? Why does he think that blowup mattresses aren’t suitable for children?

Do ensure that you can actually get this sofa bed up the stairs before buying anything……..I was assured by a sales person that the one we chose would manoeuvre round a 90 deg turn on our narrow landing………No, it wouldn’t! And it didn’t come apart either to take it up in pieces.

I settled for an Ikea one in the end……….its been used twice in 12 years.

At most 6 nights a year as they go to another relative for a couple of nights too. Also on the blow up beds.Mmm.

I'm thinking perhaps a fold up or fishing bed. It could be stored in the garage.

I've used blow up beds for occasional visits from grandchildren over the years and never had a complaint. They are now aged between 6 up to 20 and all happy to sleep on them. I've also slept on them on occasion, perfectly well.
I always think that kids that go camping, say, with Scouts or Cubs, are given the tools to deal with minor inconveniences!

What is the son doing thinking he can dictate to his mother like this? The children visit twice a year, so he expects her to be inconvenienced for the whole year just to pander to his children.

Stand up to him and just say 'no'. Or is he used to running roughshod over you?

Maybe use third bedroom for nothing but a double bed for guests . A six feet by eight foot room could hold a double bed. Then use the second bedroom for computer work / spare room with two single beds for the grandsons. It may even be possible to use a curtain to draw across the two single beds in the computer room. There are single beds with truckle beds stored under .