Glad you have had a positive update ferry but to me this sounds like serious neglect and I would be taking it further..
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AIBU - Is it fair for me to live like this?
(420 Posts)Some of you will know my health problem from my thread in Health about a paractice nurse not reading my notes and administering treatment against my wishes.
I'll not go back over the whole thing but suffice to say I've been living with a wound to my leg since before Christmas which just won't heal.
I do have a referral to the Vascular Unit but no idea how long that will be.
We are starting a new treatment today of trimovate cream which has to be applied every day for the first 5 days so I have to get to the surgery every day (about 3 miles away).
I've been going to the surgery initially twice a week since January and three times a week since beginning of June.
Lots of troubles with dressings slipping away from wound and bandages falling down or unravelling.
Although I'm told they're using the most absorbent dressings, within hours of a dressing change, fluids from the wounds have seeped through 3 layers of dressings and pads & the stockinette. .The volume is so great that it starts to pool around my ankle and the weight pulls the dressings down my leg. It look like I've got a tyre around my ankle - if this makes sense.
Once I get dressed it seeps through the trouser leg and often onto my shoe. If I get the angle slightly wrong, than even getting my knickers off can mean the knickers get pulled over the wet bandage and I then have wet knickers for the rest of the day. I can't go out as everything moves down my leg and anyway, it looks as if I've wet myself as the fluid seeps through my trousers.
I've just entered the next three weeks appointments with the nurse in my calendar and out of interest, I looked back to see when I actually went out socially. I've been out twice since the end of February.
Despite agreeing with one of the senior practice nurses that continuity of care and treatment by qualified nurses only is number 1 priority, I will be seeing 4 different people over the next couple of weeks, one of whom is a Health Care Assistant.
So I'm basically stuck at home staring at the walls sitting with a wet, cold, soggy mess of dressings and bandages around my leg and ankle. In considerable pain as the fluid is toxic and burns my skin as it collects in the dressing and rests on my leg for two or three days. I haven't been able to shower properly for months. The leg cover that you can get for showering is no good for my dressings.
I've now got to go through the rigmarole of trying to get myself dressed and into the surgery - having to go via the chemist to pick up the trimovate cream as they didn't deliver it to me on Friday and can't deliver until late this afternoon.
So my question is, am I being unreasonable to expect a better quality of life? I'm quite down in the dumps about it this morning as I've had this soggy mess of dressings, pads and bandage bunches up around my lower leg and ankle since Friday lunchtime. I'm not sure how much longer I can live like this.
Honest opinions please, if you think I should just suck it up then please say so. I genuinely would like to know if I really am being unreaonable.
Pleased to read your update ferry23.
If it’s possible could you maybe take a photo on your phone of the dressing and bandages looking their worst before you leave the house tomorrow?
The doctor is likely to arrive in the room once the nurse has removed the dressings ready for him to examine your leg. It might be helpful for him to see the predicament you are enduring between visits when the dressings are sodden and slipping down your leg.
Please try to tell the GP how much this situation is affecting you just as you’ve bravely shared on this thread. Tell the doctor how difficult it is for you to dress and make your way to the health centre with your dressings sodden and ask why you cannot be visited by the district nurse.
Sorry.
Just read your update - had started writing before I watered the garden.
Good news.
Good to hear this, ferry - feel free to add chocolate to that wine .
I had a problem at my surgery regarding waiting ages for a referral to a spirometry test and was told it was not the fault of the surgery who had made the referral to the other surgery (who had the equipment).
Eventually I phoned and just asked to speak to the practice manager and was called back the same day. I just said I had a problem I wanted to discuss with them.
I didn't go down the "complaint" route- just said I was exhausted with waiting and things were not going to improve with nothing going on.
It's not nearly as desperate as your case that's for sure but I really wanted to say that I think a simple phone call first may get changes rolling - especially if you are honest and say how totally miserable this is making you.
Going down the formal route is what I'd do after trying to get the manager to resolve it.
As someone else said, there may be a leg clinic you can get referred to.
🤞
It all sounds horrendous though. 
Thinking of you.
That all sounds a lot more positive. Hope you sleep well tonight and that it's onwards and upwards from now on.
So pleased to read your update ferry.
It’s good that the GP will see you tomorrow and hopefully suggest something to make your treatment more bearable.
Enjoy your glass of wine - little pleasures!
Chin chin!!
ferry23
Just a little update. I've just had a call from a very lovely GP. He was kind and empathetic. He was able to explain in layman's terms everything I queried and he listened to everything I said. He was sympathetic to me feeling fed up and disheartened and we discussed how best this might be addressed and he is acting upon it.
He asked that when I see the nurse tomorrow, she contacts him and he will come and see me and look at the wound himself. He also said that I am in very capable hands with the nurse that I see most of the time.
So after his call, the time I had with the nurse earlier and the amazing words of kindness and support as well as some really useful advice from all of you on here, I am actually feeling a little more positive this evening. And as I am now 4 days from the end of my last antibiotics and as my darling Dad would have said, "well, if there's a "Y" in the day" - I'm having a glass of wine.
Hurrah to what has happened today!
Enjoy that treat, ferry, you deserve it. I’ve read all the very supportive posts on here and I’m so glad you are now seeing a more professional and sympathetic nurse. Glad, too, that the GP will go along when you next see the nurse. I hope you see some improvement before long so that you can get your life back again. Keep posting and updating us. The GNs are with you! Lots of hugs and good wishes.
Charleygirl5
ferry I hate to say it but you should not be taking alcohol when on a course of antibiotics.
I finished the course of antibiotics last Friday - hence the treat tonight
So pleased to read your more positive post ferry. Sounds as though your GP
is taking care of things. You are having a very tough time. ((((( hugs ))))).
Goodness me ferry , I cannot belive you are literally in such a mess. This is dreadful . Is it possible to show your OP on GN to a medical professional because it paints a true picture of just how bad this is !? Perhaps you have a family member or friend who could accompany you to your next appointment and help to fight your corner? The medics need to know that this distressing physical condition is having an effect on your mental health.
Chocolate has made a very generous offer , I am sure that lifts your spirits a little. Thinking of you.
ferry I hate to say it but you should not be taking alcohol when on a course of antibiotics.
Missed your update - that sounds more positive.
Could you request that a district nurse visit and deal with the dressing?
Just a little update. I've just had a call from a very lovely GP. He was kind and empathetic. He was able to explain in layman's terms everything I queried and he listened to everything I said. He was sympathetic to me feeling fed up and disheartened and we discussed how best this might be addressed and he is acting upon it.
He asked that when I see the nurse tomorrow, she contacts him and he will come and see me and look at the wound himself. He also said that I am in very capable hands with the nurse that I see most of the time.
So after his call, the time I had with the nurse earlier and the amazing words of kindness and support as well as some really useful advice from all of you on here, I am actually feeling a little more positive this evening. And as I am now 4 days from the end of my last antibiotics and as my darling Dad would have said, "well, if there's a "Y" in the day" - I'm having a glass of wine.
ferry; can you email your MP? And also contact a local newspaper or radio station? I know in the past that I’ve done both of those for various issues and have had a result. Even GP’s don’t like bad publicity.
So very sorry to hear how much you are suffering ferry23. The nurse you have seen today sounds as if she is ‘on the ball’ and understands and sympathises with your situation, ensuring that you will receive a call from the GP later today. As she advises, don’t hold back, tell the doctor exactly how it is, and what you need to be put in place. I really hope your leg heals soon, with proper treatment and the support of your lovely nurse. 💐
What a terrible time you have had ferry. I am glad to hear you had some kindness and efficiency today.
Is there a volunteer service in your area to give you lifts or collect prescriptions. I had lifts to and from chemo treatments by our volunteer service. For a donation to their charitable status. The receptionist at the GP should know. Ours is called "Care in xxxx my town name".
It all sounds very unfair and I think even the most buoyant person would feel ground down by it all. I hope you told tbe GP exactly how you feel. It would be good to put it in writing to the GP practice. Copy and paste what you have told us.
I hope the new cream improves the wound and it begins to heal.
I’m so sorry you are going through this I hope you can get somewhere soon.
This might be thinking outside of the box and totally useless but would improving your circulation help you?
I’m disabled and can’t stand or walk far but I pedal on a little exercise bike for hours everyday whilst I sit on settee and watch tv. My diabetic nurse is surprised that I’m maintaining a good blood supply to my feet.
It should help move the blood circulation in your lower legs which brings more oxygen to the skin.
Little bikes are available for under £30 on amazon,
That sounds like an improvement, ferry.
Please keep us informed as to progress, and if I can be of help, let me know.
I am often welcomed as a visitor, as I usually arrive bearing chocolate 🍫.
So pleased you were treated professionally and kindly today. What you’re going through is just terrible. I wish you lots of strength and good luck 
She also said I mustn't hold back when a Dr. calls me later
I'd add to that, make some notes of everything you want to say or a timeline so you don't forget anything.
Best of luck x
She also said I mustn't hold back when a Dr. calls me later
Definitely do that.
Dont hold back!
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