Friend pulled out of show we have ticket for and wants me to find someone to buy her ticket

I can see you wanted to share the experience with a friend.
I hope that if your friend sells her ticket it's to someone really interesting and jolly and that you thereby find someone new to go to shows with.

M0nica

She is the one is that dropped out. She is the one who finds someone to take her place and if she doesn't, she pays for the ticket. There is no alternative.

I could agree more...Love people who really speak up.

A dying breed,

Cambsnan

My friend paid for her own ticket but the problem is I am now left to find someone else to buy the ticket or go with whoever she sells her ticket to. Not much fun going with a stranger.

Well, at least you’re not out of pocket……..it wasn’t clear from the start whether OP or the friend had paid for friends ticket. Personally, I would go alone if I wanted to see the show…….after all you’re there to see the show, not actually socialise with people during the performance.
It is not your responsibility Cambsnan to find someone to buy the spare ticket, that is the friends responsibility if she wants her money back………alternatively suggest she gifts it to someone who really wants to go and can’t get a ticket.
Have the conversation with the friend and tell them to sell their own ticket on

Well you re not out of pocket so that’s a positive
No it won’t be the same experience if you go and sit with a stranger but it’s that’s or sell your own ticket to someone else

I d go with a stranger, who knows that stranger could be a friend in the waiting and maybe you ll enjoy it and if not you’ll never have to see her or him again
I ve been to shows alone and all though it’s way better with a friend you can enjoy the show just as much and I always get chatting to the person besides me whether it’s someone I know or not
Try and turn this negative into a positive
It’s happened you can’t change it so make the best if it and don’t go to any more shows with her in future she’s a ‘let er downer’

My friend paid for her own ticket but the problem is I am now left to find someone else to buy the ticket or go with whoever she sells her ticket to. Not much fun going with a stranger.

Whatever happens with the ticket, I'd be sure not to deal with this rude and selfish person again!

Depending on my understanding of why she let me down and didnt want to go, even though she had agreed previously, she might by now be an exfriend!! It is definitely down to her to deal with the ticket not you, and it would only be a saving grace if she admitted that she had let you down and gave the ticket to whoever could use it. Dont put yourself in any bother doing her dirty work for her. If and it would be a big IF I felt that this had not been at a whim but couldnt be avoided I might in the future go with her to something else, but more likely, would remember her cavalier attitude and either let the so called friendship fade, or just buy your own tickets to things, then if she choses to buy a ticket and also go the the show, you might meet her for a drink in the bar at half time, but certainly find your own way there, do as you want to do, and never rely on such a person in the future!!

Forgive me if I’m wrong but I am guessing that the OP and friend decided to go to the event together. If the friend doesn’t go then the OP either goes on her own or doesn’t use her ticket either. It’s not always much fun going alone, a totally different experience IMO.
So I feel that the friend should give her ticket to the OP so that the OP can still enjoy the outing with a different friend.
It’s what I would do.

Slightly different but we had tickets for a concert which we had booked well in advance. Sadly my husband became terminally ill quite close to the event so we donated to the hospital unit where he was being treated and they were used by staff who were fans and thoroughly enjoyed it
On another note I had tickets to see Nutcracker with a friend who was unwell on the day. Not wanting the ticket to go to waste I took my granddaughter to see the ballet. My friend couldn’t take any money for her ticket but I did treat her to a lovely afternoon tea when she was well enough

Yes, the friend should bear the loss, and TBH if you don't fancy going alone she should pay for your ticket too, IMO. Changing the parameters of a night out in that way is just not on. I would be wary about making arrangements to go anywhere with her again.

This happened to me once. The friend offered to pay but I thought I could offload it on the night. Unfortunately I was not able to give back a single ticket. There was a queue for tickets but they had enough dble sets returned and had no interest in the single. I spotted a friend at the concert and she took up the spare seat for the second half as it had a better view.

Sarnia

That is so rude. You do a lovely thing buying her a ticket and then she decides to do something else instead!!! She should give you the ticket so you can invite someone with manners.

Where does it say the poster paid for the ticket Sarnia …it doesn’t
Has the friend paid for the now spare ticket or have you ? I m guessing the friend has so if she no longer wants to go ( and isn’t in hospital dying) she should incur the loss No question

Who paid for friend's ticket?

If friend paid, the ticket is her problem.

Unless you have paid for the ticket up to them to find someone or lose their money

I was passing the theatre showing South Pacific a few years ago and on impulse I asked if there were any tickets left for that same day matinée starting soon.
There weren't but a woman came up to me and gave me her spare ticket. Her friend had called off.
What a treat was that! They were good seats and at the end I gave her £20 or something although she had insisted it didn't matter.
Kindness of strangers!

Tell her to sell it on twickets then . It's very easy .

If she paid for her ticket, I would just say that I did not know anyone who was able to use it and refuse to be responsible for it.

If I had paid, then I would try to find someone who wanted the ticket, but I would not at a later date pay for tickets for the friend you were originally going with.

your friend should find someone else to pay for her ticket- if not- she should give her ticket away to one of your friends that will go gratis.
I went to a show once as a friend let me down. it was either go alone or not at all. pleased to say i had a good night & glad i did it.

How very rude of her !
She wanted to go now she's changed her mind and you're stuck with the ticket .
Not easy but I think that I'd tell her to find a buyer for the ticket or she'll be out of pocket !
This is the kind of nonsense that I used to put up with !

She is the one is that dropped out. She is the one who finds someone to take her place and if she doesn't, she pays for the ticket. There is no alternative.

Oh dear, has she still not sorted it out amicably with you?

It's not your responsibility to find someone else because she has changed her mind, it's up to her to give you the ticket so you can go with someone else or at least offer it at a reduced price.

A ‘friend’ bought 2 tickets to an event then changed her mind with only a couple of days to go. She offered them to me but I declined as it wasn’t something I was interested in. I assumed they were free. She then offered them to another friend who had recently lost her husband, who asked me to accompany her. Despite friend who bought the tickets knowing I was reluctantly going, she charged us both full price although she would have lost the money on them.
Cambsnan suggest to your flaky friend that you can sell them for a nominal amount, but expect that you will be paid in full by her.

Has she paid for it already?

I’ve twice offered a spare ticket to various people after dh has unexpectedly been away, but it’s always been a freebie.

Her responsibility to sort it out herself. In these circumstances she should ideally gift you the ticket to take a friend - not a good friend to shift the burden to you.

It's her ticket so her responsibility.