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All alone on my birthday

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FriedGreenTomatoes2 Fri 01-Aug-25 20:07:50

Oh that’s hard. Your birthday falls in the school summer holidays so probably not easy to coordinate a get together. Be like the late Queen. Have two birthdays and on your ‘unofficial’ one maybe mid September? Plan something then & tie your family down. Good luck!

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BlueBelle Fri 01-Aug-25 20:03:57

Ahh that’s a shame CrazyH I understand how you feel
I ve been on my own for some years and on the whole quite enjoy it but when a birthday comes by it’s nice to have someone from the family to share it with.
I know it’s not the same but can you delay it a couple of weeks and arrange a belated get together
Do you think they realise ? Mad they are all going away same fortnight

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avitorl Fri 01-Aug-25 19:46:56

How about a second Birthday and celebrate when your family are available?

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hulahoop Fri 01-Aug-25 19:45:47

Arrange something with friends and enjoy.

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Spinnaker Fri 01-Aug-25 19:44:20

Sorry to hear this CrazyH. I don't think it's actually being unreasonable but more hurt feelings. It doesn't matter how old we get we all like to think we're considered when it comes to occasions. Totally understand too about your family's commitments - it's a difficult balancing act for sure.

Take the opportunity now, with a bit of time to plan, to do something a little different. Lunch with friends, drinks in the garden with a chosen few, lots of nice nibbles etc, to name a few. Hope the weather holds out too as that always makes a difference.

Enjoy your day and keep your chin up flowers

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crazyH Fri 01-Aug-25 19:36:10

I’ve always liked my birthdays. That’s the only day of the year, when I get a bit of attention. The rest of the time, I am the one who gives, gives, gives……. my time, my money, my attention.
My bday is on 14th August. It’s not a big birthday, All
my 3 children and their families, live locally. I see them regularly. However, they have all planned holidays (separate) on the fortnight of my birthday, and I am feeling quite hurt. I know they have young children and August is the only month, during which they can get away.
I feel guilty for feeling like this. I am divorced and live on my own. I have lovely neighbours and I’m sure I could ask one of them to go out for lunch with me but it’s not the same as family.
Btw this is the first time, that I will be alone on my birthday - hence these hurt feelings. AIBU ?

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