BIrthdays are just a date on the calender. Working parents with school aged children have such a balancing act with regards to holidays, do not think that my birthday should be a consideration for them.
Next year (if I make it) I will be 85. AND.....that falls neatly on a Saturday. So, I decided to splash out and have a lovely big family celebration with a boat outing on the Saturday afternoon, and a lovely meal that evening - all paid for by me. Not possible, as my birthday falls towards the end of the exam season and three of my younger g.children will be involved in their GCSE's.
So, cancel that birthday celebration - actually I have postponed it by a fortnight, so it will not interfere with these exams. Does it matter that it is not actually on my birthday? Not at all More important that they should all be able to come and join me - probably for the last time for such a large family get-together (looking at 24 plus people).
It is all part of being a parent/g.parent.
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Ah what a lovely day in the end 
I’m an owl and can’t sleep. so I thought I’d let you kind ladies know how the day went. It turned out to be an ok day.
I invited a few of the neighbours (ladies only) for Prosecco and nibbles - I took out samosas from the freezer, popped them in the oven , had some crisps etc - an impromptu party. I didn’t let on it was my birthday, although one of them knew .
My middle son FTd me from Turkey, I spoke to him, d.i.l. and GC, They also arranged for flowers and goodies from Moonpig, which I received later.
Received a text message from my younger son and d.i.l. I would have liked them to FT me, so I could see the GC. but it was just a text
My lovely daughter, then, picked me up late afternoon. We drove to TKMaxx - she bought me a beautiful Vase and a bottle-green top. Following that, she treated me to Dinner with more Prosecco 😂
Returned home and felt really sleepy. Slept for a couple of hours and during that, I had a ‘missed call’ from my youngest son. So be it. A bit of an after-thought I would say.
I’m wide awake now writing this.
Thus ends the saga of my birthday. Thankyou all once more for sharing the day with me. You deserve some 
Must try and 💤
Looks like you ARE having a happy birthday! Well done 👏
And here are my best wishes to add to all the others
Oh dear I didn't get that right. You were supposed to have a pretty posy,Sorry but send you Many Happy returns and love
on your Birthday.
CrazyH HAPPY BIRTHDAY 
xxx
I remember, years back, planning a holiday and said; can't go then, it's Father's Day So your AC were thoughtless, they must have known the others were going at the same time. You need to cultivate a good friend, that you will be happy to go on your birthday meal with, on the day. As you get older, I think that's what you have to do.
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