Husband does so much without me.

Of course if you are married it's reasonable to want to spend time doing things together Nadinevillage. I hope you'll be able to let him know how you feel .

Having read your last post*nadinevillage It seems to me that the only way to resolve this is to sit down and talk to your husband and explain how you feel. Make sure he realises that you do not want to stop him enjoying his other activities but that you would like to share a few things together.

Thank you for your input everyone. Seems to be a bit of mixed opinions.
To answer a couple of questions.
@sillymoo we've been married over 30 years.
We do sleep in the same bed and have cuddles and sex. I'm sure he loves me, and there's no back story.
I don't want to be joined at the hip @lacrepe.
@Caleo I do realise how lucky I am, and I'm not envious of my husband, I don't know where you got that idea from.
I know we are all responsible for our own happiness, but I think if you are married it's reasonable to want to spend time doing things together.
Thanks again everyone.

keepingquiet are you married ?

You really need to have that conversation Nadinevillage, as unless you suggest spending more time together, your husband probably assumes you’re happy with things as they are.

What Lacrepescule said..... better than I could.....

A busy husband who is out of the house most of the time? Sounds like the perfect marriage to me!

Find things you enjoy and get out and do them!

Jackiest

It is normally the woman that has the busier social life with coffee meets and ladies lunches. Arrange meeting family and friends. Always make sure he knows he is invited as well or you will end up having separate lives just living in the same house.

Yes, and at the same time as what I said.

Depends what the rest of the week is like, do you sleep in the same bedroom, bed.
Plenty of chats, cuddles, perhaps sex!
Watch tv together, or do things in separate rooms.
If you do everything separately, may be a problem there. Yes I would be having a chat for sure. Sounds like you are just rubbing along under the same roof, tbh.

Feelings are never unreasonable, and you have a right to feel what you do.

If your uncomfortable feelings are based on the belief that husbands and wives are responsible for each others' activities then your belief is unreasonable. Moreover envy of your husband's good fortune will do you no good. A man like that is to be cherished , do you realise how lucky you are?

You must take responsibility for your own activities.

It is normally the woman that has the busier social life with coffee meets and ladies lunches. Arrange meeting family and friends. Always make sure he knows he is invited as well or you will end up having separate lives just living in the same house.

Talk to your husband and explain how you feel . And plan to spend more time together just the 2 of you. You don't want to have any regrets if he dies before you . None of us knows how much time we have left .

I was lucky my husband did most things to together he just went to the old gits drinking club on Friday night well that's what I called them . But my husband was younger by 15 -20 years than them . He only had half a pint as he drove the other 3 . He hated anyone else driving him . We spent rest of the time together when he wasn't at work. Me and the children were his world . Even simple things like going for a drive or going to our favourite sweet shop 20 miles away for us all to get a quarter pound of our favourite sweet. A proper sweet shop big jars of sweets and toffee that had to be broken with a toffee hammer . And their home made ice cream with lots of sorts of toppings the old fashioned sort . And sat by the river when dry to eat our ice-cream. We had 29 years as a couple married 22 he died aged 47.

Don't waste time that you want to spend with your husband . Tell him and make memories just of the 2 of you . Men aren't mind readers . You are unhappy so talk .

How long have you been married?

Yes you are. You say you have your own interests so what’s the problem? Do you have your own friends too? “On top
of this he goes to work social things once a fortnight.” You think this is an issue, seriously?? It sounds like you want to be joined at the hip and are dependant on him. When my dad retired it took my mum a very long time to adjust, because he was always there.
Or maybe you feel unloved but for different reasons. Try to feel happy that he’s so engaged with life - he’s relatively young so don’t turn into a grumpy old woman or he might start to resent you.
You’re asking strangers this question and we don’t know you so forgive me for being blunt. But if I were a man and married to you, I’d feel trapped and want to escape. I’m very happily single and grateful that I don’t have to rely on a partner for my happiness.
Work on yourself - he’s not responsible for your happiness. If there are deeper issues which you haven’t mentioned, that’s different. But you don’t mention any.

Maybe you should try something new too...
Swimming maybe?
It's the bi-werkly socials I'd be fed up with to be honest - can you go with him?...
I'm sure you could go on the cycling events - even if just for the novelty of a night away.

He sounds very keen on keeping fit, the gym and cycling.

I take it this is not an interest you share, as you don’t mention doing any of this.

Those activities will take up quite a bit of his time.

Unless you talk to your DH he isn’t going to know how you feel because he is so busy and distracted to actually notice. It is time to have a conversation.

If you have plenty of interests and friends of your own perhaps he feels you are as happy as he is with the situation, or if you have a conversation about this he might actually feel like you do and want to spend more time with you as a couple.
Only one way to find out. Talk about it. Let him know how you’ve been feeling and make a plan to ring fence time on such a busy calendar to spend together.
All the best with this.

It sounds like he lives the life of a single man so yes there does need to be a conversation.

If you’re unhappy it’s time to have the conversation.

No, you are not being unreasonable for feeling neglected and this is something you need to talk to him about how you feel. Being married means doing things together; not everything all of the time, but it doesn't sound as if there's much you're doing as a couple .