For becoming a delivery woman 🤨

^What you describe is shocking Babs.
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I have learnt, from GN actually, that if some people are unreasonable, they will not even be apologetic, let alone thankful.

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It can become a nightmare. I had a neighbour who redirected parcels to my address without my permission. First was a small parcel but over weeks the items became larger and larger. One day it was a television, a couple of days later a bicycle and we were having building work done in the house. The final straw was when a company delivered live fish.

From now on just say NO to delivery men as it is not convenient for you. Your neighbours can nominate a safe place on their property or make other arrangements. Not your problem...You are too nice.... say NO! Good luck

Babs03

Well I did have to go to the neighbours houses again this time, bar the one who actually did come for her parcel, and mentioned to each one that they would need to track their parcels and mention a safe place because my house was becoming a sorting depot. I kept it light and made a joke of it and most of them apologised. One who is not so friendly or nice and has a big angry dog he has to restrain at the door just shrugged and shut the door.
Anyway let’s hope that’s an end to it, will just tell any delivery persons from now on that am not taking parcels anymore.
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That should have resolved the problem, Babs. 👍

Just don't answer the door.

I agree, taking in parcels should be an occasional favour, but not an expectstion and a neighbour's name and address should never be given as an alternative delivery address without very express consent.

Until recently I lived in a row of 4 houses on the same access road, and we all on occasion took in each other's parcels, but I doubt whether I took in more than 6 or 7 a year, and it would have been just the same for the others. Sometimes I took them round, but usually they were collected.

When someone knocks my door I look at the doorbell camera to see who it is. If its a courier and I have not ordered anything I allow them to go on their merry way and find somewhere else to leave it. I dont take in parcels for other people because Im disabled with arthritis and if I wanted to be a postal depot I would apply to open one!

We live in a very friendly little close and we all take in parcels for each other or retrieve them if left on doorsteps. We have a WhatsApp group so that we can tell people that we have a parcel for them. Unfortunately though most people, instead of sending the message to individuals, they WhatsApp the whole group. A bit annoying but I don’t like to say anything.
As Madgran77 says why not ask for your neighbours’ phone numbers so that you can text or phone to tell them you have a parcel. If they then still do not collect them you have every right to accept them in future

I always think of forthright Biglouis when I see a thread like this

I stand my ground these days and will take in a one-off parcel but not more and the delivery people have learned. I really hate it when my address is given as an alternative to the delivery company and will not accept after such an imposition

Well I did have to go to the neighbours houses again this time, bar the one who actually did come for her parcel, and mentioned to each one that they would need to track their parcels and mention a safe place because my house was becoming a sorting depot. I kept it light and made a joke of it and most of them apologised. One who is not so friendly or nice and has a big angry dog he has to restrain at the door just shrugged and shut the door.
Anyway let’s hope that’s an end to it, will just tell any delivery persons from now on that am not taking parcels anymore.
Thanks for all helpful replies 👋🏽

We take in parcels for all neighbours bar one who have been a nightmare in the past. When the delivery drivers knock at our door we tell them we won't accept parcels for "X" but will for anyone else, the delivery people are great, very understanding

I asked my neighbour to have her parcels delivered to her workplace instead of me being woken up or otherwise disturbed by parcels arriving.
She agreed immediately. She had never given it a thought.

Tell your neighbours nicely that from a certain date, say the next Monday, you will no longer be able to take in parcels for them as it is causing you problems, especially now your DH needs so much care

Then when a delivery man comes to your door you just tell them that you cannot take in any parcel for your neighbours, and shut the door.

They are a fire hazard, and your insurance won't cover them.

It sounds like you have a good relationship with your neighbours, so I wouldn’t refuse to accept parcels. I’d still take in the parcels but tell your neighbours, that they need to collect them asap . Explain that you’re taking parcels for lots of neighbours and that they’re piling up and it’s a trip hazard. I’m sure your neighbours aren’t aware that you’re doing this for other neighbours as well.

Speak to the neighbours and say that you will take them in but not deliver. Ask if you can have their phone no. so you can text and tell them you have a parcel. I know cards are not always put through doors even when claimed that they are.

Depends a lot on how many neighbours involved and how well.you know them or how much you might sour relations. If you can.tell they are in, lights on etc you could send a cheery text saying you'd left their stuff on your doorstep for them to collect. Or WhatsApp all the offenders with a pic of your hallway. Say collection time is eg 5 pm on Friday, at which point the lot will be put in your front garden or wherever for collection.

Amazon deliver to Amazon lockers for no extra charge. Other companies generally deliver to various safe lockers too. There's really no need to take in neighbours' deliveries.

Just read you last entry - I was going to say that your neighbours probably have no idea what is going on. Ask them come along pronto to pick up their parcels or you'll have to return them to the delivery man. They sound nice - take a pic of your hallway and say 'If one of these is yours please pick it up as I won't be delivering in the future as I'm too busy'.

I do have nice neighbours but one did just pop round for a parcel - surprise surprise, maybe her ears were burning - I showed her the stash in the hallway and asked if they could track their parcel and have it put in a safe place, she was totally ok with this and apologised for being thoughtless, so now to my other thoughtless but nice neighbours. Let’s hope they turn up this time but won’t hold my breath.

You say they are lovely neighbours Babs03 so perhaps instead of delivering the parcels to them you could give them a quick ring or text asking them to come and collect them. I agree with others that taking a parcel in once in a while is okay but becoming the drop of point and cluttering up you hallway is unacceptable as well as being a trip hazard. You really do need to talk to your neighbours and tell them very clearly that you are no longer able to do this.

the delivery man usually takes a photo of the parcel being delivered and will email the customer letting them know where it's been delivered to, you should not need to deliver it . we always take our neighbours parcel in when they are working, they always come for it .

I can’t believe I’ve just lost a long post!!

Briefly, we took in an expensive item for our (awful) neighbours - DH had to sign for it, courier left card. It was a mobile phone.

Numerous attempts to deliver it, but despite being at home, they never used to answer the door and made no attempt to call for it either.

Eventually, DH delivered it (this was over an Easter weekend) then on the Tuesday, we got a call from the phone company, almost accusing DH of stealing the new phone! Needless to say we put the company right as they were about to despatch another new phone to them,

Goes without saying that we never accepted another parcel for them right up to them moving away 2 years ago!

There are parcel collection points at most supermarkets and post offices. Perhaps your neighbours could arrange for their parcels to be delivered to whichever of these is most convenient for them?

We occasionally take in a parcel. I put a note through the neighbour’s door saying that I have the parcel and will be in eg, after 2, and then they collect it. I don’t carry parcels about in case I drop them.

Good luck with finding a solution that works for you.