Do you mind being addressed with Aw Bless!

I have an excellent carer, she’s young, late thirties and an experienced kind person who looks after me. She treats me with respect, calls me by my name after I told her she could, and always refers to me as Mrs C when speaking to someone one else about me eg doctors, phone enquiries. I treat her the same, I use her name and always thank her for her care when she leaves. We always start the day asking each other how we are and usually end up laughing. It’s a mutual respectful relationship and I would hate it to be any other way. I always give her a small gift on her birthday and Christmas and she brings me flowers or a plant she thinks I would like. I might be old but I still have feelings and having been in the funeral business for years I always treated my grieving families with respect and to me it’s just total good manners.

Don't care either, I could be called worse.

A person I know ( male and half my age) often says ''Aw bless you'' when I make a statement abut something. Ii irritates me very much, especially from him.If I described him on here it may out me as he is the most condescending and annoying person around.

I actually don't mind other terms of endearment it's just 'hun' that makes my toes curl.

I hate “aw bless” and “hun” (a receptionist at our GP surgery called me that) and I also detest “hello lovely” which is used far too much.

Another is men addressing me and other women as “mate”.

I’m not fussed. It doesn’t irritate me. Anyway I’m ‘northern’ so ‘alright love?’ is routine.

I had to call the internet provider recently (Geordie based) as got ‘pet’.

I quite liked that term of endearment.

I really do not like “can I help you my lovely” or “thank you my lovely” makes me cringe. Maybe I’m just being a grump.

Aw that what one of the ladies at the M&S cafeteria says when we go for our hospital appointments. She’s such a kindly, caring lady. I truly couldn’t take offence Jimjam1

I think it's much more common in UK than here in Canada. I never hear it.

One thing I was confused about when I visited a cousin from Jersey. "Are you all right?" was used as a greeting. Here if someone asks if you are all right they suspect that maybe you are not! The first few times I was taken aback, thinking I must look ill or worried.

On my local Nextdoor I am frequently called darling, pet or dear. My instant reply is I am not your dear, so do not address me as such.

Most people call me by my first name when they first meet me and I have got used to that. I suppose times have changed and Mrs seem to be a forgotten word.

At 74 I was in hospital for 3 weeks a couple of years ago and never once heard any of this. Just the odd ‘love’ from porters wheeling me about back and forth like Lady Muck.

Primrose53

I hate “aw bless” and “hun” (a receptionist at our GP surgery called me that) and I also detest “hello lovely” which is used far too much.

Another is men addressing me and other women as “mate”.

The one that really get us my nose is ‘You guys’, especially when they’re addressing either an all female group of retirees, or a mixed sex ditto.

It’s probably the only thing I do dislike; people can refer to me in any other way and it doesn’t bother me.

I don't mind in the least.
I don't like being patronised, but I don't find any of these terms inherently patronising.
I surprise myself sometimes by using "bless" or "sweetheart"! But not very often.

I've never heard of anyone addressed as Bless or Aw Bless. To me its just a very minor acknowledgement of sympathy.

" My little boy has measles" " I missed the train"
"Aw, bless"

Many years ago an elderly polite farm neighbour used to address me as "Mistress". It was old fashioned Scots even then haven't heard it since.

I couldn’t care less. I believe it is usually done with the best of intentions.

Definitely object to ' aw bless ' very patronising. I was brought up in Yorkshire so ' love ' is fine ' everyone is love there !

I don't mind what people call me as long as it's meant in a kindly way
In fact, I quite like it.

I don't mind luv, my lovely, dear, duck, pet, even hun and have been called darl (presumably short for darling), Missus, perhaps even dear.

However, I really think "Aw Bless" from a GP when you are telling her about your ailment sounds patronising.

Aa I get older, I love to be called my title and surname. Its inappropriate to call someone you dont know "hun" or "darling" but strangely I don't take offence to a man calling me "love" if I see that person regularly, e.g. the postman.

"Ah bless" or "bless" is something a person says directly to an adult when they don't know how to respond intelligently. Or if they are clever, used to shut down further conversation. Best yo just smile sweetly

I was 20, recently married when the new children who had just moved in next door addressed me as Mrs grammaretto. I wondered who they were talking to.

'Aw bless!' gets the response 'Are you religious then!'

As I age I'm angered and amused by the way that I'm treated.
For no good reason a man literally started to drag me across the road after I came out of the Post Office .
I don't want to cross the road I protested .
And please let go of my arm .
Coming home on the bus a man lifted my shopping trolley onto the platform and ripped off the handles.