Lovely ladies etc - what about the men?

Because of usernames some are clearly women but some who I thought where men turned out to be woman oops. So you don't always know what sex a person is . But does it really matter . I welcome a man's prospective on matters. But as we all now men do not chatter like women do and men don't find it easy to open up about what's bothering them . General matters they are fine had great advice from granddad's shed from men and women . But try getting a man to open up about health or emotional issues you need a can opener.

On some bereavement threads men have been on as they are lost . And those who go on those threads try to help but the men never stay long . They think they have to be brave or as I call it the silver backed gorilla attitude . My husband was like that. He only wanted to talk to me .

I wish there where more men on GN as I like talking to men . Lucky some other groups I am on have interaction with men who aren't afraid talk about emotional and health matters and we all help eachother.

To be equally fair Allira, who knows if we might not all be men living our lives as women and blaming our polycystic nonexistent ovaries for our facial hair. 🧔‍♀️

Galaxy

I think it us best if I avoid the Mensa thread that's going on.

😂

To be fair, you never know. I might have a girlie username but I could be a 6' 4" man with beard and muscles 🧔

I think it us best if I avoid the Mensa thread that's going on.

Galaxy

Crikey I am dense, I hadn't even thought about the fact that info man was .. a man

The clue's in the name Galaxy
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Well I d say at least 80% of the chats on here figure subjects men would not want to be anywhere near…. hysterectomies, menopause, pee pads etc etc etc missing the grandkids, falling out with children, moaning about husbands not cooking or washing up

Well, we could talk about prostrates, mid-life crises, wives not cooking or washing up and men missing out grandchildren etc etc.

But I don't want to talk about pee pads. The adverts annoy DH and me!!

This is true. That's what happens when words don't have meanings it confuses me

You can’t always be sure these days Galaxy 🤪

Crikey I am dense, I hadn't even thought about the fact that info man was .. a man

Who’s discouraging them?
I asked what you’d do to encourage them.

It bothers me when people assume they know what other people might be doing based on a smidgeon of evidence.

I’ve only noticed about three or four men on GN and two of them, Mick and infoman don’t say much, Mick talks about the weather and infoman deals in facts as his name suggests.

Well I d say at least 80% of the chats on here figure subjects men would not want to be anywhere near…. hysterectomies, menopause, pee pads etc etc etc missing the grandkids, falling out with children, moaning about husbands not cooking or washing up
They might enjoy some of the politics and news threads and it would be welcome to have some male views
The logo makes it look totally geared to females not to both grandparents so doubt you ll ever tempt many lads to come on here, if it was the opposite with a heading showing three generations of men and most of the threads were about footy, rugby and motor racing there’s no way I d venture on it.

I don’t really care either way but maybe if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it ?

It hasn't really been a mixed site though. There are very few men on here. It is a predominantly female site.

It bothers me quite often when women assume that the only people they are talking to are other females.

GN has always been a mixed site and, in fact, the Good Morning thread is started daily by Mick, but it would be a shame to discourage other men from joining in

kittylester

But not to say, 'Can I ask you lovely ladies' or the equivalent.

Have you just watched Les Mis?
Lovely ladies
Waiting for a bite
That’s the only reason I can think of.

What’s made you think of this now kittylester? Has a man that you know complained he wasn’t welcome here?
As it’s called Gransnet and the logo is women I can’t think that men would be much interested really.

Personally you can call me whatever you like l’m happy to comment whatever. Working I always had a predominantly female work force, plus a wife and 3 daughters, even the dogs were bitches, I survived all that unscathed.
As for other men, most wouldnt be interested in the topics or over emotional responses, although many would benefit understanding women’s point of view. For men it’s work or football, cars, golf, rugby or whatever they do in spare time.

Many of my friends are retired a lot widowed, some work part time like myself, we have hobbies, meet others, usually in the pub, have family locally as well, loneliness doesn’t seem a problem for most but I’m sure there are some.

But not to say, 'Can I ask you lovely ladies' or the equivalent.

Skydancer

winterwhite

I don’t think it very important either way. Nothing wrong with a forum primarily for grandmothers. Why not?

Agree. I actually like to think I’m chatting to women.

I think a persons gender is irrelevant it is what they have to say that is important and we should never discourage anyone from posting because of their gender.

fancythat

You can try.

Personally, my OH wouldnt come within 10 miles of this site.

Would your's?

Probably not 🤣🤣
Other men always welcome.......

So how are you going to make men do something they’re not interested in kittylester?
Knowing a working answer to that would be amazing, and not just for GN

^But you can’t make men post on it unless they want to do so.
There are millions of women who don’t post on here either.^

But we shouldn't just address other females.

I would definitely welcome hearing from men. I spent most of my working life among men and got along with them all very well. My DH is not a typical male (he knows what spark plugs are but couldn't do anything with one!). He'd never join a mens'shed for example. He actually gets along better with women, especially if they appreciate his witty humour, but he'd never join a group like Gransnet.

winterwhite

I don’t think it very important either way. Nothing wrong with a forum primarily for grandmothers. Why not?

Agree. I actually like to think I’m chatting to women.