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Valentine’s Day, is becoming like Halloween.

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Sago Fri 06-Feb-26 13:01:07

Over a week from 14/2 and my feed is full of Valentine meal deals.

The DT has articles on what to wear on Valentine’s Day, where to buy the best flowers etc.
I caught something on the radio regarding the most romantic stays.

St Valentine is the Patron Saint of beekeepers and epilepsy.
I’m not quite sure how he became associated with tacky cards and teddy bears but for another year I am going to refuse to get swept away with all this nonsense.

AIBU?

Fallingstar Sat 07-Feb-26 11:23:20

I think if people enjoy it where’s the harm?
Is a huge commercial rip off but then so is Easter and Christmas and I presume adults know this and will either be happy to pay or perhaps find a different way to celebrate. We never really celebrated Valentine’s Day, I think when we were courting, back in the midst of time, we sent cards to each other but cannot remember doing anything else.
Would just advise against red roses, vastly inflated in price, and put a few bunches of daffs together wrapped in a red ribbon. Daffs are presently a £1 a pop in Lidl but you would need a fair few bunches, even so would work out cheaper.

Fallingstar Sat 07-Feb-26 11:23:48

* back in the mists of time

keepcalmandcavachon Sat 07-Feb-26 11:30:22

Allira

Oreo

Is it something in the British psyche that keeps them so down on having fun?

A real pumpkin is better than plastic that!

Likewise, chocolates rather than teddy bears (unless it's a Steiff one, of course!).

Oh dear my non Steiff Teddy has just flounced off and I've had to promise to make him a new love heart waistcoat if he is to make an appearance for St Valentine's Daysad
And in a month or so it'll be time to start the pumpkin seeds off, all and every festival celebrated here!

RosiesMawagain Sat 07-Feb-26 11:31:53

It’s as easy to ignore as Mothers Day (when for most of us, our mothers may be long dead)
Articles “full of what to wear” ? Meal deals? Why not take advantage, there,any be some good offers.
So are the magazines about beach-ready bodies - irrelevant if you are holidaying on Shetland.
Just because it’s in the media doesn’t mean you have to read it

Grannmarie Sat 07-Feb-26 11:39:24

Thank you, blue14.

henetha Sat 07-Feb-26 11:40:40

Valentines day, it means a lot to some and is rubbish to others.
I used to love getting a beautiful card from my partner back in the day. He's gone now.

Whatever floats your boat, surely.

RosiesMawagain Sat 07-Feb-26 12:56:46

Oreo

Is it something in the British psyche that keeps them so down on having fun?

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Or in the Gransnet psyche?

Oreo Sat 07-Feb-26 13:04:57

Well…. That’s quite possible 😁

Norah Sat 07-Feb-26 13:06:19

We celebrate February with Bridgewater heart crockery.

I make no apology for joyous festive weeks.

Allira Sat 07-Feb-26 13:09:26

Norah

We celebrate February with Bridgewater heart crockery.

I make no apology for joyous festive weeks.

I've made two crochet blankets, called Emmas's Hearts

rafichagran Sat 07-Feb-26 13:14:58

I don't buy presents for Valentines day, just a card and a meal deal, good value fir money.
Being cynical, I go to the supermarket and buy the things that are a day in date snd half the price. So another very cheap meal.
I also buy the deserts to freeze. X

rafichagran Sat 07-Feb-26 13:15:59

Sorry the kiss x was by accident.

Dickens Sat 07-Feb-26 14:11:06

Fallingstar

I think if people enjoy it where’s the harm?
Is a huge commercial rip off but then so is Easter and Christmas and I presume adults know this and will either be happy to pay or perhaps find a different way to celebrate. We never really celebrated Valentine’s Day, I think when we were courting, back in the midst of time, we sent cards to each other but cannot remember doing anything else.
Would just advise against red roses, vastly inflated in price, and put a few bunches of daffs together wrapped in a red ribbon. Daffs are presently a £1 a pop in Lidl but you would need a fair few bunches, even so would work out cheaper.

I think if people enjoy it where’s the harm?

... here?

Would just advise against red roses, vastly inflated in price

grin

Without wishing to come across as over-thinking this, I have an instinctive feeling that the commodification of such traditions / events, etc, could ultimately stifle human creativity and ingenuity - even sort of 'commoditise' raw emotion itself, IYSWIM?

I'm thinking of the occasion when my son, fifty odd years ago, came home from school clutching a 'plant-pot holder' he'd made for me for Mother's Day (I was a houseplant enthusiast). Maybe there's no time for such inventiveness now for people who have to work with their nose-to-the-grindstone?

My 'theory' is that as a society we are becoming dumbed-down by modern consumerism that places performative social-media culture above traditional family / community events.

Brutal Capitalism has us keeping our shoulder to the wheel, often with little reward, and has devised ways in which to organise our social and cultural events which we can now 'purchase' - win-win for the corporate world!

... but this is just a personal point of view, and I haven't given it that much thought... smile

keepcalmandcavachon Sat 07-Feb-26 14:12:24

I like your style rafichagran. I love a bargain too, makes everything taste nicergrin
XXXs (not accidental!)

Allira Sat 07-Feb-26 15:04:17

rafichagran

Sorry the kiss x was by accident.

Oh, thought it was for St Valentine's Day!

Stillness Sat 07-Feb-26 15:22:33

I do think it’s a lot of nonsense really…and money making nonsense at that. We have always exchanged a card and maybe flowers or chocolates, just a token. But over and above that seems a bit much. I saw a supermarket marketing a meal delivery offer that was literally hundreds of pounds and I feel for all those people who don’t have that sort of money. It all just puts pressure on people…and as someone else said, a lot of the plastic tat is so bad for the planet. (And after that it’s Easter. There’s no let up is there.)

Stillness Sat 07-Feb-26 15:22:53

Oh, I tell a lie, we have Mother’s Day first!!

Maremia Sat 07-Feb-26 15:37:12

That must have been gorgeous, Granmarie, having a snowy day wedding. Here are some flowers for you and grumppa and henetha and B9exchange
💐 💐 💐 💐 and another, in case I have missed someone 💐

keepcalmandcavachon Sat 07-Feb-26 17:59:16

This is exactly how it is Dickens, and I am sadly seeing a definite lack of confidence in a fair few younger people re DIY &house maintenance too. Birthday cakes from a local baker are £120 ish and look great but would they still be ordered if the toddler's party wasn't to be on social media?
My visit to Tesco this week was an eye opener, alongside St Valentin's cards you can delight your loved one with any number of themed wines, gift sets, cookery equipment and even PJsgrin
"The thought that counts" is so last generation dahlings, now its the 'likes' that count!

kittylester Sat 07-Feb-26 18:42:10

It might be commercialised but I would be hugely disappointed if I didn't get a card at least. And my friend who owns the card and gift shop in the village will probably remind DH if he hasn't been in.

Oreo Sat 07-Feb-26 18:44:38

rafichagran

Sorry the kiss x was by accident.

But very welcome 😁

eazybee Sat 07-Feb-26 18:47:59

The most romantic stays?

Do you mean corsets?

Grannmarie Sat 07-Feb-26 19:29:02

Thank you, Maremia.

RosiesMawagain Sat 07-Feb-26 21:21:47

I saw a supermarket marketing a meal delivery offer that was literally hundreds of pounds

Do tell us which one?
In order
Waitrose
Tesco
M&S. illustrated.

“Literally” hundreds of ££££££??? Flying it in by gold plated jet I suppose. hmm

fancyflowers Sat 07-Feb-26 22:14:46

I recently watched 'Picnic at Ayers Rick's which began with the girls' Valentine's celebrations. It seemed to be a huge event in their schooldays.