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TheSunRisesInTheEast

David, this is GRANSnet. You are a grandad. Some of us said that we don't mind if men join in with this forum, but actually you have shown that the appeal of being amongst only women is entertaining, relaxing, friendly, understanding and relatable, and men don't add anything of worth to it. If we want the opinions of men, we can speak to our husbands, brothers-in-law, sons, sons-in-law and grandsons. Men on a mainly women's forum completely change the dynamic and atmosphere. Isn't talking with your wife enough for you? Quite why you want to spend your time on here is beyond me. I would seriously question why my husband would want to visit Gransnet or Mumsnet, may I suggest you start a Mensnet forum (maybe there already is one, if there is, I have no interest in visiting it.) Let us women have our own space 😉.

I think you have entirely tge wrong end of the stick.

GN is open to anyone, of any gender, grandparents or not. It was aimed at grandparents as an 'offshoot' of Mumsnet.

I wish we had more male members.

paulow

To be honest, as a man I as a bit hesitant over whether I would be allowed to join in the first place, but it all seems ok. However the last thing I would do would be to send an unsolicited private message to anyone, it doesn't strike me as acceptable behaviour anyway.

I think it depend on the content of a PM whether it was appropriate or not.

I have received many kind ones after posting on the bereavement thread after my husband's death, and have tried to send sympathy there and on other threads when it seemed right to me.

There are certainly more women than men on here, judging by names and the contents of messages, but it is often relevant to hear a man's point of view.

So please don't hang back.

I'm a man in my late fifties and feel more comfortable on here than other forums with younger people, where I might not know what they're talking about.

Well, I think knowing when to quit is an admirable trait, David49.

I decided I baited enough yesterday and don't propose to continue today.

I’d ignore the flak if I were you David49, most of us welcome men on here, and if some of us think your views on some things are outdated, or wrong, that’s no different to what we all think about the views of some of the other women on here too, it’s not a sex specific issue.

TheSunRisesInTheEast

David, this is GRANSnet. You are a grandad. Some of us said that we don't mind if men join in with this forum, but actually you have shown that the appeal of being amongst only women is entertaining, relaxing, friendly, understanding and relatable, and men don't add anything of worth to it. If we want the opinions of men, we can speak to our husbands, brothers-in-law, sons, sons-in-law and grandsons. Men on a mainly women's forum completely change the dynamic and atmosphere. Isn't talking with your wife enough for you? Quite why you want to spend your time on here is beyond me. I would seriously question why my husband would want to visit Gransnet or Mumsnet, may I suggest you start a Mensnet forum (maybe there already is one, if there is, I have no interest in visiting it.) Let us women have our own space 😉.

The SunRises in the East: your attitude to social life is extremely gendered. Do you not realise this/

What demographic is Gransnet aimed at? And if not aimed at grandmothers only, what new name for the forum would be better?

Do most contributors self identify primarily as grandparents?
NB some contributors are not grandparents nor wish to be grandparents.

Marriage usually provides legal security to both parties. The fact our legal system isn’t up to speed on the rising number of long/life long couples who don’t choose to marry. Difficulties if the relationship ends can be avoided if the couple draw up agreements and get it formalised by a solicitor.

My experience and that of other posters (except David) is that people marry for love and commitment

Allira

^Quite why you want to spend your time on here is beyond me^.

David49 is perfectly entitled to join Gransnet if he wishes, QuoteTheSunRisesInTheEast, as is any man.

After all, we do need educating, putting right where we have erroneous opinions and being reminded of where our place is from time to time.

I’m with you TSRiTE in wondering why some men need to,pontificate on gransnet, towards a group of grans, all of whom seem to have the temerity to both hold and express opinions.

If we want the opinions of men, we can speak to our husbands, brothers-in-law, sons, sons-in-law and grandsons.

If they would talk!
Only half joking.
Some really dont talk much.
Not about the topics on here.

😂

Quite why you want to spend your time on here is beyond me.

David49 is perfectly entitled to join Gransnet if he wishes, QuoteTheSunRisesInTheEast, as is any man.

After all, we do need educating, putting right where we have erroneous opinions and being reminded of where our place is from time to time.

David, this is GRANSnet. You are a grandad. Some of us said that we don't mind if men join in with this forum, but actually you have shown that the appeal of being amongst only women is entertaining, relaxing, friendly, understanding and relatable, and men don't add anything of worth to it. If we want the opinions of men, we can speak to our husbands, brothers-in-law, sons, sons-in-law and grandsons. Men on a mainly women's forum completely change the dynamic and atmosphere. Isn't talking with your wife enough for you? Quite why you want to spend your time on here is beyond me. I would seriously question why my husband would want to visit Gransnet or Mumsnet, may I suggest you start a Mensnet forum (maybe there already is one, if there is, I have no interest in visiting it.) Let us women have our own space 😉.

Iam64

I’m increasingly stunned David believes women in 2026 marry for security and to ensure they can take half his money 🙈

Im incredulous that women don't see marriage as security call in my opinion if you like.

As for getting 50% some do many dont, especially if they have assets or wealth of their own.
If they aren't married they get nothing.

Iam64

I’m increasingly stunned David believes women in 2026 marry for security and to ensure they can take half his money 🙈

Just half? 😲

I’m increasingly stunned David believes women in 2026 marry for security and to ensure they can take half his money 🙈

David49...why did I marry?cos I love him and want to be known as his wife,cos he asked me and wanted me to be his wife cos he loves me....it's not the security, we've both been married twice before,we have our own money but work well together,we are best friends,we both bring things to the table as it were,..

David49

Thats over 2 pages of feminism Im doing really well.

Women get married if they can because if they don't both have the freedom to walk away with just maintenance for children. In bereavement a partner can be left with nothing, thats really silly.

So why do men get married? If they can, that is?

Aw, bless

Allira

kittylester

We married 55 years ago, I didn't marry for security even all those years ago. I married DH because I wanted to be with him. Security never crossed my mind.

Ditto, kittylester.

I married for love both times I had to promise to look after them both times and I have.

Iam64

Me three

I could hae had my pick 😁

Just saying!!

Me three

kittylester

We married 55 years ago, I didn't marry for security even all those years ago. I married DH because I wanted to be with him. Security never crossed my mind.

Ditto, kittylester.

Iam64

Welcome to gransnet Mrs Bennet, you’re just the sort of lady David believes in

These days as long as they are happy that is the best you can hope for, not everyone finds or even wants to find a good partner married or not.
4 of my GC have got long term partners, eldest is 26 so only one married, 1 GD is drifting failed to find a graduate job after Uni, she has taken a job in Ireland, new start, pastures new, I hope it works out for her whichever way she chooses