Men on forum

"I appreciate given the demographic of GN you may be of advanced years, but that does not necessarily excuse a 19 th century outlook."

Only in your mind , marriage is alive and well for women in the 21st century. It's men that are increasingly questioning the sacrifices marriages involve, most women are not stupid, gaining a share of a husbands wealth is always going to be a gain.

The way the law operates still discriminates against cohabiting women. Thst must change

Come on RosiesMawAgain, David has made it clear that he knows best. Don’t be acting like a professional feminist with ideas above your station.
I have my father’s last name, mr I didn’t expect or want me to take his name when we married, I reciprocated. Our girls had both our names. One of them took her husband’s name on marriage, the other didn’t.

As for David’s entertaining views on professional women - I’m wondering which universe he lives in

RosiesMawagain

David49

"Why do some women take their husband's name when they marry even today?

For the same reasons that they marry, security and status, there are very few women who would refuse to be a wife if asked.

It's mostly professional women who use their maiden name

With all respect David that may be your experience but it does not make it a universal fact.
2 of my D’s, happily married, have retained their maiden name.

Your comment about “professional” woman is both sexist and ageist.
(BTW do you know of any “amateur” women? )
Status?
Don’t make me laugh!
Security ?
A good education, training, qualifications, their own talent and ability count for far more.

I appreciate given the demographic of GN you may be of advanced years, but that does not necessarily excuse a 19 th century outlook.

"With all respect David that may be your experience but it does not make it a universal fact.
2 of my D’s, happily married, have retained their maiden name."

That exactly my point they were asked and chose to get married for the extra security that gives then, as the vast majority would.

David49

"Why do some women take their husband's name when they marry even today?

For the same reasons that they marry, security and status, there are very few women who would refuse to be a wife if asked.

It's mostly professional women who use their maiden name

With all respect David that may be your experience but it does not make it a universal fact.
2 of my D’s, happily married, have retained their maiden name.

Your comment about “professional” woman is both sexist and ageist.
(BTW do you know of any “amateur” women? )
Status?
Don’t make me laugh!
Security ?
A good education, training, qualifications, their own talent and ability count for far more.

I appreciate given the demographic of GN you may be of advanced years, but that does not necessarily excuse a 19 th century outlook.

Galaxy

I had forgotten the 'shown your post to my colleagues" thing, that was very funny.

Yes the man was a legend in a weird sort of way.

Allegedly, Mrs Grandad, who didn't post strangely, but we came to know her vicariously, not only because she thought many comments on GN about their menfolk were appalling, but because she was the sort of woman who could be relied on to lend a hand with onerous household tasks, such as helping our hero clear his gutters. I don't think she was allowed up the actual ladder, she shuffled around at the bottom doing something or other, no doubt quite pivotal but not sure what exactly, anyway she was held up as a shinning example to the women on GN who didn't support their men folk sufficiently.

So there you are David, you've a long way to go before you achieve the heady status that man had on GN. He set a high bar, one you could only dream about, banned 3 times

"Why do some women take their husband's name when they marry even today?

For the same reasons that they marry, security and status, there are very few women who would refuse to be a wife if asked.

It's mostly professional women who use their maiden name

I had forgotten the 'shown your post to my colleagues" thing, that was very funny.

Galaxy

Ah grandad. I once got deleted for calling him a misogynist ( he had been banned for about the third time by this point). Hated teachers, and working from home.

Yes he was a bit of a one off, very strident, but conversely entertaining.

Ah grandad. I once got deleted for calling him a misogynist ( he had been banned for about the third time by this point). Hated teachers, and working from home.

Mrs D is very happy cheering Scotland on in the Rugby, not at all liberal, she probably voted Reform at the election, I didnt ask.
Confident and independant we are a very good match.

Not shipping, I think it was haulage, anyway suffice to say he was a self confessed super hero at the time. Making sure ample supplies of baked beans or whatever got through to all the far flung regions of the nation.

Allira

Terribull 😂

I wonder if "Mrs David49" is reading this thread!

Why do some women take their husband's name when they marry even today?

I'm so glad I'm not alone in finding much of this unintentionally hilarious I think I can always rely on you Allira in that respect

Bring on the men I say! A huge void was left by Grandad whatever he called himself who once posted frequently GN, often admonishing many of the posters for their outright misandry and then throw in a veiled threat of "I've just shown your post to my colleagues" Allegedly worked night and day something to do with shipping, saving us all from the worst excesses of Brexit such as mass starvation, or so he told us, whilst simultaneously reading the riot act to many women on GN for dissing their men folk. He had real fire in his belly, made our very own Professor Higgins come across as a mild mannered pussycat.

I wonder if "Mrs David49" is reading this thread!

She could be a regular poster on here, for all we know.
[No, I am not Mrs David49].

Terribull 😂

I wonder if "Mrs David49" is reading this thread!

Why do some women take their husband's name when they marry even today?

David49

Allira

I think David must be wielding his wooden spoon because he knows full well that Gransnetters, who are mainly women, discuss all kinds of subjects and he joins in the threads too. Perhaps he's not keen on women having opinions though.

Don't fall for it 😂

Women can have opinions but don't assume they are always right, only my wife is always right.

only my wife is always right

She must be Superwoman if she's more righter than wot you are 😂

(Yes, I know that is grammatically incorrect.)

"Women can have opinions but don't assume they are always right, only my wife is always right"

Surely not well possibly right about some things, such as how to produce a batch of succulent spam fritters, but don't let her loose any where near discussions you and your male companions may have about the Gold Standard she might start chattering on in minute detail, about something she may not have the mental capacity to grasp. Perhaps kindly ask the chattering women, you may find yourself surrounded with, to kindly retire with their sewing in a mixed company scenario to another room, just whisper furtively "you're a woman and you need to know your limits" Be firm but kind. Calmly assert your masculine authority and do cut her off before she starts some sort of insufferable womanly wittering about heaven knows what, work or cars, boats even, like the Gold Standard they're certainly subjects that women need not worry their pretty heads about.

harry enfield sketch women know your limits

I had one of these moments last night and just could not remember what I had backed up on the hard drive, my brain was definitely fuzzy. 6am it all came back and I remembered.

why do women copy mmen, try to be equal, to be more like a man

Hands up you stroppy feminists, admit it, you want to be just like David

Allira

I think David must be wielding his wooden spoon because he knows full well that Gransnetters, who are mainly women, discuss all kinds of subjects and he joins in the threads too. Perhaps he's not keen on women having opinions though.

Don't fall for it 😂

Women can have opinions but don't assume they are always right, only my wife is always right.

Im not going to change, I get along fine just as I am why would I change.
The comment " why aren't women more like a man" is funny, why do women to copy men, try to be equal, to be more like a man.

I certainly want women to be different, they have their own way of doing things, that's fine. It not me that has a problem I get on well with the women around me, thats all any man can hope for, so I don't take notice of feminist opinions.

I think David must be wielding his wooden spoon because he knows full well that Gransnetters, who are mainly women, discuss all kinds of subjects and he joins in the threads too. Perhaps he's not keen on women having opinions though.

Don't fall for it 😂

Oh dear David, dinosaurs still live amongst us.

TerriBull

"women will chatter on in minute detail at any opportunity" OMG! feckin' hilarious! Gee thanks for the observation Professor Higgins we just don't recognise ourselves half the time do we fellow chatterers? Because we're all absolutely the same us women, our behaviour, it just isn't nuanced in the way men clearly display theirs. It's what we do, us women just chatter on, on in minute detail about handbags, makeup, fluffy kittens, knitting patterns, lovely frocks, high heels, bad hair days, how to make the perfect Victoria sponge cake, all in minute detail. We know this because a man has told us so, So it must be true. Vaccinated with a gramophone needles, so we can't really help ourselves can we?

So unlike the men, who of course all know when and where to shut up! Why look no further than the world stage some wonderful examples of gobshites of stoicism.

Yes loved the Harry Enfield dinner parties "women know your limits" do stop chattering on in minute detail

The spirit of Professor Higgins is alive and well on GN. I'm wondering if there's a subliminal message a sort of "Why can't a woman be more like a man?"

😂

And yet - this particular man joins in the threads on Gransnet, joining in with fluffy-headed women and generally putting us right on all kinds of subjects on which we dare to have an opinion.

RosiesMawagain

Now, now ladies!
Show respect where it is due!

😂😂😂