Men on forum

Stillness, are you sure that the man who sent you the unwanted message was actually a regular poster? Sometimes there have been threads where several people have told of having had such messages from some inadequate with nothing better to do. I think a recent one was called Robert. (Don't know what's wrong with me, but I never get them, nor have I been offered a fortune by some Nigerian prince. Hey ho.)

Thanks for the replies. The post wasn’t offensive as such, but requested we correspond etc (not sure what my husband would make of that..). I dont think any of my posts have suggested that I am looking for a relationship. I did think it was a female only forum though. The name is a bit misleading and especially if it’s also available to people that aren’t even grandparents. Perhaps it needs to be renamed.

Stillness

AIBU to expect this forum to be for just women? At least that was my impression but after receiving a (unwelcome) private message from a man, I’m wondering if I’ve got this wrong? (And yes, I have blocked him).

Hi Stillness
When I joined a few years ago I thought the name Gransnet literally meant the net for Grans, but no I was mistaken. There are, however, very few men on here that I have come across - not that I have much against men! It's good to see a different perspective when they do comment.

As I understand it, non-grandparents have always been welcome too. Generally, GNers are of more mature years, compared with most (but not all) of those on MN, but that is a case of self-selection rather than of rules.

As said, this is an open forum and men are as welcome to participate as women are.

Anyone who is extremely insulting and/or sends unwelcome private messages whatever their gender, should be reported and blocked, but otherwise, anyone should be able to post and be welcomed.

This is actually classed as a “grandparents” forum, not as “grandma’s” forum, but that in itself, is a little misleading because anyone can post, grandparent, parent or not, (which I completely agree with).

Plus the name “Gransnet” suggests to some, I feel, that it’s meant only for grandma’s, which of course, it isn’t. I’m not sure how it could be renamed, though.

Well said, paulow. Please join in the chats though- we need more men.

Paulow don’t you worry most of us welcome a man’s point of view don’t be shy

To be honest, as a man I as a bit hesitant over whether I would be allowed to join in the first place, but it all seems ok. However the last thing I would do would be to send an unsolicited private message to anyone, it doesn't strike me as acceptable behaviour anyway.

As said, this is an open forum and we welcome input from men.

Obviously, not strange pms from strange men. Was it offensive?

I have had perfectly normal pms from both women and men which is fine.

It’s not for women it’s for any grandparents
I think it’s a real laugh when men send a message usually telling me how interesting I am ??? Obviously if it was anything worse I d report it but they are usually just ‘tries at engaging’ and just needing to be ignored
We have a few genuine men posting
We should have more

There have always been men and women on the forum, as far as I'm aware. If I received an unwanted message from anyone, I'd block and report them.

Yes - it’s an open forum and anyone can join, irrespective of age or gender. There are often posts wishing there were more male contributors.

Many here have had PM’s from various males - usually treated as a bit of a joke, (if you read the pertinent thread) and simply deleted and blocked.

It’s an open forum, so anybody can join, and men are welcome - but anybody who sends you unsolicited private messages which aren’t appropriate obviously isn’t, be they male or female. You did the right thing to block and report.