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fancyflowers Mon 23-Mar-26 13:31:31

I can remember, in primary school in the late fifties, there was a boy who got the ruler nearly every day. He couldn't pay attention for long, he disturbed other pupils and was generally disruptive.

Today, he would be diagnosed, probably with ADHD, which wasn't recognized at the time. He probably needed more specialized teaching in a setting suited to his abilities.

Lathyrus3 Mon 23-Mar-26 11:44:13

I mean why isn’t that regarded as the norm and sticking at something for a long period of time, regarded as diverse.

Or why are both just not normal but different personalities.

Lathyrus3 Mon 23-Mar-26 11:40:39

Honestly, I don’t understand why getting into something, pursuing it to the highest level you can and then moving on to something new is neuro-diverse.

That’s what Ive done all my life and I think I’m quite ordinary.

butterandjam Mon 23-Mar-26 11:36:02

petra

goose1964
Your description is exactly what my step daughter does.
We have gone from cake making with wonderful designs. She made her father a birthday cake shaped as a tool box. Then sewing. Not happy with just a machine, no, all the gizmos that go with sewing. Then to deep sea diving, then to gardening.
I will add that she is brilliant at everything she takes on.

teabagwoman Your perfectly correct. In days of yore neurodiverse people were just thought of as odd.

Goose1964 (and Petra's stepdaughter) sound just like me DH, our kids, extended family, many long-term friends and work colleagues because... those are exactly the kind of people we're drawn to and like spending time with. Energetic people with an ever expanding skillset who are always making or planning something new.

Until this thread I've just regarded us as very capable people who don 't know the meaning of boredom.

Sarnia Mon 23-Mar-26 11:07:17

winterwhite

But is there not in any case an increase in neurodiversity that deserves examination? I can't recall anyone being thought odder or weirder than anyone else when I was a child/at school.

In my school days in the 50's I can remember children who clearly struggled with learning. They were called backward then. One boy who went all through Primary school with me was a very timid boy who always looked untidy. He sat on his own at a desk right in front of the teacher and spent his time, colouring, making things out of plasticine and raffia. Sad, really.

David49 Mon 23-Mar-26 11:03:39

Looking back to my schooldays there were plenty in the C and D streams that had learning difficulties, they didn't have labels on them, after school they took practical jobs that they could do. Many started their own businesses, a few made a lot of money.

winterwhite Mon 23-Mar-26 10:55:40

But is there not in any case an increase in neurodiversity that deserves examination? I can't recall anyone being thought odder or weirder than anyone else when I was a child/at school.

Margiknot Mon 23-Mar-26 09:50:32

Science and medicine have moved forwards with genetic testing and recognition of neurodiversity- but some elements of society have not caught up yet!

Jaxjacky Mon 23-Mar-26 09:10:16

It’s getting the diagnosis, CAMHS have horrendous waiting times.

GrannyGravy13 Mon 23-Mar-26 09:02:05

We have neurodiverse family members, diagnoses, in most situations help navigate their school years.

In our experience there are still senior school teachers who either have little knowledge, experience or emotional maturity when dealing with neurodivergent students.

petra Mon 23-Mar-26 08:57:42

goose1964
Your description is exactly what my step daughter does.
We have gone from cake making with wonderful designs. She made her father a birthday cake shaped as a tool box. Then sewing. Not happy with just a machine, no, all the gizmos that go with sewing. Then to deep sea diving, then to gardening.
I will add that she is brilliant at everything she takes on.

teabagwoman Your perfectly correct. In days of yore neurodiverse people were just thought of as odd.

Sarnia Mon 23-Mar-26 08:41:04

Having 2 neurodiverse GC, I am a firm believer in getting a professional diagnosis to see what that person needs to go forward in education and life.
My 2 GC have come on leaps and bounds since their diagnoses years ago. They went to specialist schools and were no longer round pegs in square holes. They both had specialist teachers with the appropriate resources and much smaller class sizes to give them the best chance to achieve their potential. I shudder to think where they would be now if they had been left to flounder in mainstream education.

teabagwoman Mon 23-Mar-26 07:34:16

I’m neurodiverse and have several family members who’ve been affected. I know what a major difference a diagnosis can make.

I hear all the negative comments too. No there weren’t any neurodivergent people when we were children simply because no one recognised it, we were just odd or simple. Yes, some people have seen it as a bandwagon to be jumped on which is making it much more difficult for us. Finally, the world moves faster and expects more which makes it harder for us to fit in with the normative world

Look at it this way, normative people are jogging along on the flat while the neurodiverse have to run uphill and jump hurdles to achieve the same end.

Whiff Mon 23-Mar-26 06:01:40

Thanks to genetic testing I finally found out in 2022 aged 63 after my neurologist having my whole genome genetically tested what my disability is and it's rare . I have a mutant gene in my brain receptors. Just thought I was weird for 63 years. Found out thanks to my cardiologist when I was 62 I was also born with hole in the side of my heart. But where it is it's safer to leave alone unless I get chest pain luckily I don't .

Only reason I finally found these things was because I moved over 100 miles to the north west in 2019 and joined a GP practice that cared and sent me to see the consultants I had needed and they cared . They didn't fob me off . And on medication to help with both conditions but no cure for either .

But for my hereditary neurological condition found a group who also have this rare hereditary condition. I was the first ever patient to have it at the top neurological hospital here . But having the group which is worldwide but started by a Brit over 15 years ago as he didn't know anyone with there are just over 1,100 of us there . Spread all over the world . Many like me had late diagnosis. Luckily the mutantion I have means my parents where carriers and had 50/50 chance of having a child with it . Because of my mutant means I have it but not a carrier for it . My brother doesn't have it nor a carrier..So our children and my grandchildren haven't got it or carriers but there are different mutantion letters and numbers for same condition which means if one or both parent has the neurological condition then they are carriers and their children will have the condition and are carriers and can run through generations . But we have same symptoms but like anything even though people with same letters and numbers because all humans are unquie we have things that are unquie to us .

For me my whole life makes sense I like others with this hereditary neurological condition have visible and invisible disabilities. Most noticeable is body movements have what is called a strange walking gait 😂😂😂.

goose1964 Mon 23-Mar-26 00:14:15

It appears today nearly everyone one has some form of neurodiversity and I hear comments like, no-one had them in our day. 2 of my children have autism/adhd.

Guess what else does .Me.
Without the safety that goes with diagnoses i was known as odd and my friends would say i would get obsessed with things until I was done and then something or someone else.