I have never met my Grandson

That is very sad for you.

I'm so sorry Ndizzy . Have you still not seen him? If so, that was very insensitive of your sister.

What is wrong with these people? What do they get, by hurting their parents / in-laws !! 😡
So sorry N-dizzy.- I have been down that road and in a way still do. I have 6 GC, two of who I only see, when my d.I.l. decides, and that’s not often, even though they live a 5 - 10 minute-drive from my house

If you’ve now seen/met your grandson and are able to see/hear about him regularly, take this and hide your inner feelings

Is there some reason your son hasn't brought the child to see you in 2 years? He should be arranging this, as your son. Not the DIL

I feel your pain

Hirilain

Is there some reason your son hasn't brought the child to see you in 2 years? He should be arranging this, as your son. Not the DIL

This. Indeed, ask your son not dil.

How awful. But cant you ask your son what is the reason for this

Why hasn’t your son arranged visits for you with his child? Why is he not parenting?

I'm so sorry to hear that. Sister's especially if they are older are really insensitive at times. I don't think there is a family I know who hasn't been upset by one person or another in their extended families. We should all learn to be kind as it costs nothing.

So very sorry for you how upset you must have been to be told about this. How unkind and inconsiderate your sister is tactless behaviour in my opinion.
I do feel your pain as I am sure most people would who are deprived of seeing grandchildren.
I hope in the near future you finally meet your grandchild.

Is your sister usually so insensitive? It's a sad fact that we can't control how others behave towards us. I really feel for you,

Not surprising that you are feeling upset. Yes your sister is insensitive. I agree that you should talk to your son about all this and ask him to bring his child to see you.

However, if this is not possible (for whatever reason) and your experience of your DIL to date is that she is an ordinary person and not a monster - could you not send her a card with your phone number - saying how much you would like to see them both, whatever has gone wrong between her and your son?
She may just be thoughtless, not cruel. What have you got to lose by asking ?

Emelie321

Not surprising that you are feeling upset. Yes your sister is insensitive. I agree that you should talk to your son about all this and ask him to bring his child to see you.

However, if this is not possible (for whatever reason) and your experience of your DIL to date is that she is an ordinary person and not a monster - could you not send her a card with your phone number - saying how much you would like to see them both, whatever has gone wrong between her and your son?
She may just be thoughtless, not cruel. What have you got to lose by asking ?

Well said Emelie

That was very insensitive of your sister, I feel for you and unfortunately you are not the only one on Gransnet in this situation. I eventually got to meet my Grandson when he was four, we now have contact and can see him whenever but the relationship isn't great because we didn't build that bond, he is a lovely boy and enjoys visiting but it must be so confusing for him and he actually calls us by our first names.

Is your sister aware or insensitive?
What is the back story to this situation please.

I don’t see any confirmation in the OP that the sister is aware the poster hasn’t seen the child at all, so saying she’s insensitive is presumptuous for now. On the surface it’s odd that the great-aunt of the child would get a visit before the grandmother. As someone who was in a similar role as the aunt in the past, I would withhold judgement until the OP gives more detail. Seems as though there is a complicated backstory. We have an absentee father, a grandmother without a relationship with her direct grandchild, and an aunt with an open line of communication to her nephew’s child and his mother. Definitely not a cut and dry situation. Based on the very limited OP, the only clear cut victim here is a child who for right or wrong does not have contact with direct lineage family members. I hope the OP comes back to clarify the dynamics. Hard to give advice with only breadcrumbs.

We don't know the circumstances, whether it's her sons or daughters child but we do know her pain at not seeing her grandchild. The sister was insensitive but maybe not intentional.
I am sorry Ndizzy it's very hard for you and hope things change for you. I would say to some, don't judge you don't know what led to this.