Just so upset

Enjoy your day. The weight is a different issue. My ex made comments about my weight for year but after we divorced he married someone much larger than I ever was! Putting me down was his power I guess. Anyway two years ago I took the weight loss jabs (had to lie on line as I was not really fat enough for them). I lost three stone and did all the exercises they recommend to prevent muscle loss. Paying all that money is a real incentive to stay a healthy weight and I have not regained the weight. I feel better and have more energy. If you want to do it, do it!

I am short at 5ft 2in. Told all my life that I’m enormous. I’ve always weighed less than 10 stone except when I was in a wheelchair for a short time. I recently went down to 8 stone due to lack of appetite and looked dreadful, gaunt. I’m now back to 10 stone and I am happy.

It’s incredibly painful when family doesn't show the same level of care or effort that you’ve put in over the years. You aren't being unreasonable to feel let down, but sometimes we have to step back and protect our own peace of mind when the appreciation isn't there.

Please repost a pic when you get 5 Narnia?

Yes, do that because the day is not about what you wear. It's about your wonderful heart and person being invited to witness the forever union of the bride and groom. The day is about them. You already had your day some time ago. Be a lovely guest. It's a celebration.

@ me too x

Oh I missed the picture

You look beautiful narnia really pleased you had a lovely day. Lots of memories made

You look lovely Narnia

Picture hasn't cropped, and i can't delete!

So pleased it was a good day!

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Hope you had / are having a lovely day, Narnia.

I don’t normally comment but felt I couldn’t pass by!
Dear narnia I really felt for you! I hope you’ve had the most wonderful day seeing your beloved daughter get married.
With regard to the weight loss injections I second trying them..15 months ago I was very overweight actually I was obese. I’ve lost almost 5stone and my health has improved no end. I paid privately it’s been worth every penny..as someone has said it’s your body your health your decision.
All the best 💕x

What all say
And was going to say, "book a light make up and hair".

Then what madgran says

"Go and enjoy the day. Afterwards you and hubby probably need a long chat about the realities of your situation together; how he feels; how you feel; lots of listening to each other. Then develop a plan together and agree how each of you can support each other going forward to put the mutual plan into action"

I agree about pretty scarves and jewellery. I bet you will look great and, as someone said, all eyes will be on the bride anyway. Have a wonderful day and a few drinks to help you relax.

Your daughter wants you there as her lovely Mum. And your grandchildren will love it seeing you. And hour husband knows it was tactless.

Go and enjoy the day. Afterwards you and hubby probably need a long chat about the realities of your situation together; how he feels; how you feel; lots of listening to each other. Then develop a plan together and agree how each of you can support each other going forward to put the mutual plan into action. 💐

I found a dress that i felt ok in, and everyone seemed to like it on me.
You felt happy and confident in that dress so it will be absolutely fine! Once you have your hair and makeup done too (less is more!) you'll feel much more confident.

Husbands can put both feet in it sometimes and you're both having a stressful time with moving at the moment.

Go and enjoy yourself.
Everyone will be looking at the bride anyway!! 😀

I am so glad that you have resolved to enjoy the day...
That's the way to go!
Don't feel obliged to have a hairdo or makeup that do not feel like "you" .... comfort above all!
Come back and tell.us all.abpit the day ...

Sounds to me like your husband is quite concerned about your health, hence his comments re weight and not wanting you to take the risk of having weight loss injections (but is not coming across as very tactful!).
Having your hair and make up done will boost your confidence tomorrow.
Enjoy the day!

Narnia a low heels of say one and a half to two inches will help your back problem on the day much better than flats.

Sago

If you want weight loss injections then do it.

It is your body, not your husbands.

Please go and see your doctor after the wedding.

Yes, you must do exactly what you need to do for you! Have you been tested for type two diabetes?

Luckygirl3

It all sounds a stressful time.

Please try and put it all behind you tomorrow and throw yourself into enjoying the wedding day. You will look wonderful if you smile and fill your DD's day with love. Forget what you look like and rejoice in your DD finding a good partner and committing herself to him publicly with those she loves around her.

She is not inviting you because you are slim, but because she loves you and wants your support on her special day.

Losing weight can be a soul-destroying enterprise for everyone and can make people very sensitive and inclined to interpret any comments about it super-negatively when this might not be how they were meant - there can simply be concern for your well-being. Your OH has said it came out wrong (and maybe you interpreted it a bit wrong too).

You have no reason at all to dread tomorrow and every reason to be happy for your DD on this super day. She does not want you there being miserable!!

You have some challenges but do not focus these on this important day.

Enjoy the day and save future planning on slimming/moving/future moves for later. This is going to be your day off from all those concerns!

I am sure it will be a joyful occasion.

What a lovely, and sensible answer 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
For anyone on here who considers themselves a ‘larger lady’ I can tell you as I have made many dresses and alterations for clients in the past, that a dress that skims your curves, rather than clings or is a vast tent is the ideal.
Comfortable low heels in shoes or sandals is a must and so is a confident outlook.

Oh for sure, easy on the makeup!
I can always smell it on my face🤢
Definitely going to be saying very light please !

Narnia

Just read all your lovely messages, thank you!
I tried on so many things and this was the only thing i put on and felt "nice"
I never wear dresses or makeup so the whole thing is way out of my comfort zone .
I have got a hair and makeup apt tomorrow.
I have had a very serious back condition in the past, which has caused a lot of nerve damage and linited mobility. I have been trying to exercise and was feeling much stronger, then i injured my knee and now I'm in a worse position than previously!
When we first knew about the wedding, less than a year ago i said i would like to go to ask about weightloss injections, DH went mad and said absolutely not (he still says the same)
My gorgeous Grandchildren 6 and 3 I'm sure will be excited to see me in dress as they never do!
I will put my big knickers on (literally) and enjoy the day 🩷

Top tip Narnia, Easy on the makeup!

Look forward to pics ( with scribble on your head for fear of identification!)