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Use of words and younger generation

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Patsy70 Mon 01-Jun-26 09:37:26

You are not being unreasonable SpinDriftCoastal. It would seem that certain younger people are ultra sensitive and looking for a chance to react to ‘words’ and to strongly voice their personal opinions. Nothing wrong with the words ‘naughty’ and ‘dark’. 🙄

Bellanonna Mon 01-Jun-26 09:36:39

I wonder if the second woman, while experiencing “dark” times in her life, looked upon them as a beautiful experience and was learning from them. How odd. As for naughty, well she can call it disregulated if she chooses to, it’s just a different adjective and I think she was being a bit pompous.

eazybee Mon 01-Jun-26 09:34:55

No, not changing vocabulary, more that some parents believe in never condemning their children for their actions, as in 'we never tell him what to so, we always negotiate' as a parent told the Reception teacher when the child refused to join the class to go into the Hall, or the father whose tiresome elder son was attacking his younger brother; he squatted down in the middle of the bookshop blocking access to the bookshelves behind, and cuddled the bully then told him to breathe deeply, that's right, in and out until you feel better, I know you didn't mean to hurt him.

nanna8 Mon 01-Jun-26 09:24:05

What rude young women you have encountered. Weird with it. I haven’t come across anything like it and if I did I would probably get very huffy. They both sound as though they have mental problems.

Franbern Mon 01-Jun-26 09:19:15

language is always changing and meaning of words do so also.
So words like 'Cool', 'Gay', etc have changed their meaning, so why not others?

I am now in my 80's, but can remember my Dad saying that at times he thought I was using a foreign language when I was in my teens.

When you watch QI, they often show many words that have completely died out of our language. They get a laugh out of their panels trying to work out what they ever meant.

Nothing confused about it - just the way of language development and change.

Grammaretto Mon 01-Jun-26 09:08:31

How rude and ridiculous that young woman was! Spindrift
Sounds like she is the one with the confused attitude, not you.

What I hate is the use of the F word by all and sundry. I still cringe when I hear it not only on buses and the street but by young parents and on the radio.

Beechnut Mon 01-Jun-26 09:01:04

Umm. I don’t think you are being unreasonable. Just seeing and saying things how they were for you and others see and say the same.

SpinDriftCoastal Mon 01-Jun-26 08:50:48

I was on the bus the other day and there was a young mother with her child. She spent most of the journey trying to get it to spell words etc. Fair enough. She then smiled at me and started a conversation. We said what fun children are and I added that I still love them even when they are naughty. Well, all hell broke loose. She said she did not believe in the word 'naughty' and that children were disregulated and had to be regulated instead. Met another young woman a few weeks ago in a social situation and we were talking about the 70s. I said I experienced some dark times and she went bonkers on use of the word 'dark'. She said she did not believe in 'dark' times and said that it was a beautiful experience to learn from difficult situations. Is it me who has gone bonkers or are we living in a dystopian society where meaning has changed so much? I dare not open my mouth for fear of using the wrong word. AIBU?