Travel dramas update since arriving home

I’m now going to give an update of the return trip from Hell .

It has been & still is traumatic to me the whole damn trip from start to finish & still is .
The Moody One has become a sender of vitriolic Whattsapp messages .
From declaring things as inane as I spoilt her holiday to the fact that I drank wine that she brought .
Her messages were so awful that I stopped reading them . She told me never to contact her again .
I blocked her from all my social media accounts.
She then asked “why” I didn’t send her a birthday card !!
I thanked her for the 1st payment she made to me 2 weeks after we arrived home .
She asked “ What “ was I saying thank you for !
I then ignored the further sporadic payments that arrived in my bank account & were only noticed when myself or DH were accessing the account.
I was accused of not “ acknowledging “ those payments.

Eventually with £300 plus still owing my DH suggested I let her know the balance outstanding !
I basically balked at this suggestion as said it would be like poking a stick in the fire .
I reluctantly relented & after weeks of non contact I sent the shortest message ever . I wrote that DH was willing to forgo the larger payment if she made a further £100 payment.

OMG 😨
That started off another round of abuse well actually her response started with
“ You’ve got a nerve “& proceeded to send a total of 17 Messages during an 2hour period all repeating what she has already spouted .

Of course I added fuel to the already burning fire & that’s when the accusations of not saying thank you not sending a birthday card deleting from FB etc etc were made .

She really is deranged! You tell someone emphatically “Never to contact me again “
And then rant that they haven’t !!
Of course I didn’t just take those insults & stupidly messaged back probably in the process making it worse .

But I had nothing to lose .

I think she has now given her sob story to our brother as I haven’t heard from him since before she gave these last rants ( 4weeks ago)
Though we always chat intermittently so I am not that worried.
Having just had a TKR I also have other things on my mind . Interestingly when The Moody One had her Gallstones procedure in December I kept in daily contact.
That’s just who I am making sure she was ok .
When another brother had his hip replacement in March 2024 again I kept in touch & let the rest of the family know how he was doing ( not too good at the time btw)
I have made a point of only telling that one brother ( hip replacement) of my upcoming surgery.

So be it I’ve had it with my siblings.

This particular Sibling the Moody One hasn’t spoken to our youngest sister since they went on a trip to Graceland 16years ago !
The Brother who came to NZ with us also hasn’t spoken to our other brother & partner since a multi city USA road trip some 15years or more ago .
Are you sensing a theme !

23 years ago I did the same NZ trip with another sister & hip replacement brother , we all still talk & never had a cross word while away

The Moody one was a nightmare before our trip not communicating & saying what she wanted to do , yet still maintains she didn’t go what she wanted .. oh yes that was a Hobbit Town visit that should of been booked months prior to travelling. Did I suggest that , yes as did our brother . Did she do that no .

Another interesting & sad fact is that the whole purpose of this trip was to visit family members.
Well that was not a how it panned out .
Looking back at my many photos it’s clear that the pair of them spent more hours together looking for “gifts” for grandchildren. Which to be fair is fine but the extent to which these too went about it was extreme , as outlined in the timeline of my photos . I am an avid photographer & like to collate them when I get home from a holiday so it’s not something I’ve not done before.

I have 4 Sisters & 4 Brothers & am the eldest , which seems to be an issue for some .
Oh & then yesterday another payment received into the bank of £100 .