Some advice please

I think I too would notice something like that. I once had some super comfortable knickers I bought in the US and they went missing. When the washing machine was pulled out when I moved they were underneath it! So we are familiar with our underwear. And that you suspected your underwear had been moved about a bit - well, it doesn't bode well.

This is a difficult one given he's in the middle of a job. Is it likely to take long? I suppose option 1 would be not to leave the house, which may be inconvenient, or may make you uncomfortable?

Option 2 would be to fabricate a reason for him not to return - not something I would normally suggest but this is a bit out of the ordinary. You would then have to go through the process of finding someone else, and I would tell them that for "personal reasons" the decorator doing the job couldn't return. That doesn't implicate him (as it could be his or your own personal reasons) and is believable. Not many tradespeople are keen on stepping into the middle of a job but will if there's a credible reason.

Someone else may come up with a better option!

I’m a bit confused, looking through past posts it seems you have a husband and a wife.
Could one of them have moved your underwear?

Weird. Would have a good old search for the missing knickers first though, could they have accidentally been put in another drawer or fallen somewhere.
But if you can’t find them and have a gut feeling that your underwear was tampered with would do as the other poster suggested and cancel the decorator, just say you are unwell and would rather not continue, pay for the job he completed and then hire someone else.
Better than feeling anxious and uncomfortable.

Where did you find him? Was it through a recognised site/trader. Have you read reviews on him? It depends how uncomfortable you feel. Could a friend come over whilst he finishes the job. Part of me would feel I'd go out each day he's there and let him get on with it or as ferry said try and get someone else..which could be a pain. Go with your gut feeling.

Sago

I’m a bit confused, looking through past posts it seems you have a husband and a wife.
Could one of them have moved your underwear?

Oh!
You posted just as I replied.
Even more weird.
Hmmm….

I have heard of this happening with younger workmen, according to a joiner I use to date.
He said some fellows would be prancing around with the persons knickers on their heads 😩
Since then I make sure my washing is done before we have work done, which thankfully isn’t often.
Failing that, you could always set up a hidden camera.

Sago

I’m a bit confused, looking through past posts it seems you have a husband and a wife.
Could one of them have moved your underwear?

ferry23

I think I too would notice something like that. I once had some super comfortable knickers I bought in the US and they went missing. When the washing machine was pulled out when I moved they were underneath it! So we are familiar with our underwear. And that you suspected your underwear had been moved about a bit - well, it doesn't bode well.

This is a difficult one given he's in the middle of a job. Is it likely to take long? I suppose option 1 would be not to leave the house, which may be inconvenient, or may make you uncomfortable?

Option 2 would be to fabricate a reason for him not to return - not something I would normally suggest but this is a bit out of the ordinary. You would then have to go through the process of finding someone else, and I would tell them that for "personal reasons" the decorator doing the job couldn't return. That doesn't implicate him (as it could be his or your own personal reasons) and is believable. Not many tradespeople are keen on stepping into the middle of a job but will if there's a credible reason.

Someone else may come up with a better option!

I couldn’t imagine my knickers or bras ending up under the washer/ dryer. Size of them 😂

Sago

I’m a bit confused, looking through past posts it seems you have a husband and a wife.
Could one of them have moved your underwear?

I did have a husband. We've seperated now.

Thanks for everyone's comments. The underwear is not to be found. The more I think upon this and the more sure I am that things have been tampered with, the more uncomfortable I feel about having him in the house again. I'll settle up and provide a plausible reason and then think how I will finish the project!

There we are then🤔

Nyman1962

Sago

I’m a bit confused, looking through past posts it seems you have a husband and a wife.
Could one of them have moved your underwear?

I did have a husband. We've seperated now.

What about the wife that was a funeral celebrant?

I have had stuff taken from the garage but not underwear.One very blatant theft was a new spray of weedkiller I had just taken out of the car. As the gang of men had left I couldn't pin it on one of them.