Neighbour dilemma

I expect it's not done to annoy.
This is just who he is!
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Sadly nothing you can do except move house! He may be doing it expressly to annoy you, so if you ignore it then it may stop.

Sounds like mynah birds which will sing, whistle, talk loudly and incessantly even without a human present.

“Invite him round for a mushroom Wellington supper!”
I love it watermeadow !

The best suggestion by far to eliminate the problem for good!

The blackbirds round here learned to mimic the distinctive whistle I used to recall the dog. It's just possible justwoke up is right & it's not always him whistling but birds copying...

friendlygingercat

My feeling is that the only good neighbour is a dead one. I would love to live next to a cemetery.

Try putting a "spell of banishment" on him. You can Google how to do it. The idea is to make him move away or completely lose interest in you.

Thank you so much for all your comments. Really helped. This made me laugh

My feeling is that the only good neighbour is a dead one. I would love to live next to a cemetery.
Goodness, you're unlucky!

Our next door neighbours have just put their house on the market. They're very quiet but friendly and we know they're there if we need them, vice versa. We're hoping we don't get new noisy neighbours.

EbbandFlo, there are planning regulations regarding the height and proximity of sheds etc to neighbours' borders. Contact your local CC Planning Department.

As for the whistling, buy a loud whistle. When he whistles, you blow yours right on the border!!

We had a neighbour who sounded as though he was whistling all the time but in fact he had lung problems. It was really wheezing.We have a large garden but he could be heard throughout. He gardened a lot but did go in for meals. I sympathise.

Blinking heck, whistling, I hate it 😩
I stopped shopping at our local Tesco’s years ago because one the staff members use to whistle, it would set off my tinnitus.
Like Sarnia says it can affect stress levels.
I think if you have room I would plant some laurels as a sound barrier, plus privacy.

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NotSpaghetti

It's a height issue I think you'll find Astitchintime.
We recently replaced a wooden shed with a brick one. It had to be below a certain height if within a metre of the fence in order to not need planning permission.

Probably is a height thing…….but still needs researching 8n the local council website

friendlygingercat

My feeling is that the only good neighbour is a dead one. I would love to live next to a cemetery.

Try putting a "spell of banishment" on him. You can Google how to do it. The idea is to make him move away or completely lose interest in you.

Our neighbours brighten my day. A cheery wave or a little catch up on how the family are doing.

He needs to be ignored,he knows he's irritated you previously and that would make him worse,if you don't take notice he'll get bored,it's the reaction he wants

It’s probably a silly question but are you absolutely sure it’s the man who is whistling? Wolf whistles sound a really strange thing to do but birds such as parrots do that are really good (and loud) mimics. Does he keep birds in his shed? If you’re sure it’s him then I would go with the noise cancelling headphones for routine gardening and try to time sitting out for when he seems to be out.

I would be so tempted to play music, of my own taste, quite loudly in my garden.

I’d also go with the trellis and climbing plants and the noise cancelling headphones.

Honestly, he sounds very irritating.

My feeling is that the only good neighbour is a dead one. I would love to live next to a cemetery.

Try putting a "spell of banishment" on him. You can Google how to do it. The idea is to make him move away or completely lose interest in you.

We recently bought a new doorbell from Amazon and one of the sounds was barking dogs.

Maybe he'd stop if he thought his whistling was causing dogs to bark in your house.

Yes, you are correct. Yet I can't help how I feel. My garden is my haven. Maybe that's my problem but some consideration is not an unreasonable ask. I have lived here for nearly 40 years. Hand on heart, never a cross word with any of my lovely neighbours

He’s a bully, trying to intimidate you. Maybe try putting your radio or cd player on with music, a play, a discussion, foreign language programme at a normal level. If he thinks you are listening to something and not listening to his whistling he might just get tired of trying to annoy you. The birds and bees will still be there when he gets fed up of taunting you.

I meant "and go in your garden at other times" - was interrupted mid type!

I agree with NotSpaghetti's comments. Also, could you maybe take note of when he is usually out and about, whistling, and go in your garden then, once you establish his routine? The other thing I thought, maybe playing some nice soothing music in the kitchen when you could possible hear him. I hope things settle down for you soon.

watermeadow

I’m afraid I’m a noisy neighbour. No whistling, BBQs or parties but I have a small dog who barks a lot. She’s not left to bark for hours but barks at every singe noise she hears.
My neighbours have never ever complained. I have nice tolerant neighbours, you have a nasty inconsiderate one. I suggest you invite him round for a mushroom Wellington supper.

The Aussie recipe, obviously.

Whistling ruins enjoyment of birds. I think there are many worse things that could happen.

I do sympathise.
We had horrible neighbours here some years ago.

I couldn't use my garden for maybe 4 or 5 years as the stress was huge, and 24/7.

Eventually they were forced to move. The father went to prison.

Even though they moved, our car was trashed the day that he was released (3 years later).
We had helped his partner leave him by taking her belongings to meet her mother in a service station quite a distance away.
It is only now (many years later) I'm feeling safe in my garden and trying to feel it's mine again

If, having done all the things suggested above it doesn't improve I think I would move.

Lesson learned. We wouldn't try to sort anything or be "reasonable" again, sadly.

I’m afraid I’m a noisy neighbour. No whistling, BBQs or parties but I have a small dog who barks a lot. She’s not left to bark for hours but barks at every singe noise she hears.
My neighbours have never ever complained. I have nice tolerant neighbours, you have a nasty inconsiderate one. I suggest you invite him round for a mushroom Wellington supper.