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Nandalot Wed 09-Sept-26 12:23:13

DD has just returned from a doctor’s appointment with her son. The doctor is an exceptionally good one but told DD something surprising. DGS has two referrals to different specialisms and has been waiting over a year for both. He told DD that he would chase them up because DS hits 16 in three months and then hits a strange zone when he is too old for child services but too young for adult ones! This just seems unbelievable but I do trust him.

SueDonim Wed 09-Sept-26 13:02:29

I know from friends with severely disabled children that they can fall down various cracks in late teen years due to different institutes operating under different definitions of Child/Adult. It’s very difficult for them.

petra Wed 09-Sept-26 13:12:13

Nothing surprises me any more with regard to our National Health “Service” 😪

Elusivebutterfly Wed 09-Sept-26 17:26:22

It is complicated as some child services will take you initially up to 18. CAMHS in my area does. Other child services will not take you on in late teens, but will keep you until 21.

In a different field, hotels will not usually allow 16 or 17 year olds to be in a room without an adult, but many will not allow more than one teen to share a family room.

lovethepuppies Wed 09-Sept-26 22:26:29

That's odd. My son developed a medical condition that was diagnosed at 17. At that time he was just seen by a specialist who worked only with adults. Close enough.

NotSpaghetti Thu 10-Sept-26 00:35:03

My son had a similar problem at 16. His constant choseto keep him (somehow) till 18 and then, through his GP referred him to herself in a different area where she had adult patients with the same condition.

nanna8 Thu 10-Sept-26 04:04:21

We don’t have a NHS , just a sort of hybrid service and just to make you feel you are not alone, our system is just as bad, private and public. Plus we have a smaller population so no excuses.

25Avalon Thu 10-Sept-26 09:31:03

Yes we found this with services cut when my son reached 18. The transition from children’s services to adult services still needs improvement particularly for long term conditions.

JdotJ Thu 10-Sept-26 14:01:22

Nandalot

DD has just returned from a doctor’s appointment with her son. The doctor is an exceptionally good one but told DD something surprising. DGS has two referrals to different specialisms and has been waiting over a year for both. He told DD that he would chase them up because DS hits 16 in three months and then hits a strange zone when he is too old for child services but too young for adult ones! This just seems unbelievable but I do trust him.

I was a medical secretary for 20 yrs before retirement 10 yrs ago and dealt with all the referrals.

The years 16-18 within the NHS unfortunately became a wilderness for where/who to refer to.
Each service would try to pass the buck and refuse the referral, much to mine and the parents/child's annoyance.

It would seem nothing has changed.

Patsy70 Thu 10-Sept-26 14:33:04

My great niece is a NHS sister on a paediatric ward and treats children up to 18 years old.

Colls Thu 10-Sept-26 14:55:27

petra

Nothing surprises me any more with regard to our National Health “Service” 😪

Our
'deliberately destroyed and quietly being sold off and destroyed by PFI debt interest' wonderful NHS. angry sad angry sad angry sad

Milest0ne Thu 10-Sept-26 15:40:23

I expect not many children’s A&E will deal with a strapping 6ft rugby player. (age15)

win Thu 10-Sept-26 17:33:59

SueDonim

I know from friends with severely disabled children that they can fall down various cracks in late teen years due to different institutes operating under different definitions of Child/Adult. It’s very difficult for them.

16-18 is called the transition period, when they gradually moved over to adult care, they often drop into a hole in system, so be careful is your waiting time is longer than expected, you need to push and push for these appointments, as it is sadly a very difficult time for these teenagers.

Momac55 Thu 10-Sept-26 18:38:24

Milest0ne

I expect not many children’s A&E will deal with a strapping 6ft rugby player. (age15)

Only if they are tanned

NotSpaghetti Thu 10-Sept-26 20:19:04

My son's constant always booked him in at the very end of the clinic.
This was many years ago but that's how she "held onto" him a bit longer.
She was very careful managing his transition to Adult services.

I'm truly grateful.

CarrotTop Thu 10-Sept-26 20:26:16

Will the switch-over from one umbrella to the other affect him, though? Is there a reason why your GS won't be treated just as well as an official adult patient as he is currently being treated as a paediatric patient? (Clumsy sentence, sorry, but I'm sure you'll get the gist.)
I hope he gets what he needs quickly, whatever else happens.

GreyKnitter Thu 10-Sept-26 20:27:40

I think my family found exactly this problem when my grandaughter was that age. Very frustrating.

NannyC1 Thu 10-Sept-26 21:37:47

Momac55
Erm what do you mean?

Milest0ne Thu 10-Sept-26 21:41:20

Momac55

Milest0ne

I expect not many children’s A&E will deal with a strapping 6ft rugby player. (age15)

Only if they are tanned

Or Charming