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Moral blackmail

(113 Posts)
Elowen33 Wed 28-May-25 16:57:49

There are very few collection boxes for cash, emails are sent to spam folders, post is considered junk mail, adverts on TV are rarely seen so what else is there?

It must work to some extent or they would not use this way of collecting.

Allira Wed 28-May-25 16:25:54

AGAA4

Allira I would have given a one off donation but I don't want any more direct debits.
I wonder how much money charities are missing out on by not accepting an on the spot donation?

My friend used to make a monthly donation to the Red Cross, then they rang her up and suggested she increase it to £50 pm.

The man was so persistent and quite aggressive that she cancelled her direct debit altogether.

GrannyGravy13 Wed 28-May-25 16:18:21

I think GOS must be having a collecting purge at the moment, they were outside our small co-op all week last week.

We nicknamed them the smiling assassins very pushy and preying on the more elderly people.

AGAA4 Wed 28-May-25 15:34:20

Allira I would have given a one off donation but I don't want any more direct debits.
I wonder how much money charities are missing out on by not accepting an on the spot donation?

Allira Wed 28-May-25 15:26:45

AGAA4

I was stopped in the street this morning by a man who blocked my way and asked if I would sign up to a charity that I'd never heard of.
I told him I have some regular payments to charities and couldn't take on any more.
He was fine about my refusal but I felt bad for not taking on yet another charity. I don't want to feel like that when I am doing my shopping.

I was stopped in the street by a very persistent young man trying to get me to sign up for Save the Children. When I said I donated to two children's charities already he dismissed them as rubbish.

It's always difficult to say no to people who want you to sign up to make monthly donations. If they'd accept one-off donations too, I'd happily give something.

WelshPoppy Wed 28-May-25 15:24:27

I say that we already donate to the charities we wish to, thank you and good night.

Allira Wed 28-May-25 15:23:48

winterwhite

I agree MOnica and don't think that established charities should be doing this, often relying on finding older people at home during the day. Hmm.

On the other hand I find it hard to wave away the men with huge backpacks selling dusters etc who are really down on their luck it seems to me. Those schemes are exploitative and I usu give the man a tenner (shutting the door while I go for my bag).

Beware of the Nottingham Knockers, winterwhite

www.oprepeat.co.uk/nottingham-knockers/

Although I must say some old-fashioned oven gloves I bought from one of these salesmen many years ago (before I knew about this) lasted for about 15 years.

AGAA4 Wed 28-May-25 15:22:26

I was stopped in the street this morning by a man who blocked my way and asked if I would sign up to a charity that I'd never heard of.
I told him I have some regular payments to charities and couldn't take on any more.
He was fine about my refusal but I felt bad for not taking on yet another charity. I don't want to feel like that when I am doing my shopping.

woodenspoon Wed 28-May-25 15:16:52

We had the same a few months ago. Late at night, when it was dark, men knocking on doors in our village asking for donations to Great Ormond Street. I emailed their fundraising team who outsource this to other companies. They agreed that late calls should not be occurring. It was unusual enough in our area for warnings given to neighbours on the local social media.

winterwhite Wed 28-May-25 15:09:38

I agree MOnica and don't think that established charities should be doing this, often relying on finding older people at home during the day. Hmm.

On the other hand I find it hard to wave away the men with huge backpacks selling dusters etc who are really down on their luck it seems to me. Those schemes are exploitative and I usu give the man a tenner (shutting the door while I go for my bag).

Galaxy Wed 28-May-25 15:07:14

I wonder how effective this is overall, yes the charities will be able to judge how many donations they get per number of door knocks, but there is no way of knowing how many people are put off from ever donating to the cause because of these tactics.

Georgesgran Wed 28-May-25 15:02:43

Yes - I had a chap here one night last summer trying to get me to sign up to GOS. I declined, saying I preferred to donate to local causes and others like Sense and SmileTrain. He actually suggested that I could easily add GOS to my list and was, in a way, quite passive aggressive. I held out with ‘sorry no’ and I wondered if he was on a commission for every one he could sign up.

M0nica Wed 28-May-25 14:56:22

I have just had someone ring the doorbell, doing door to door canvassing for regular donations to Great Ormond Street Children's Hospital.

I gave my usual response, witha smile, 'We already have a portfoli of charities we donate to and we do not wish to change this.

All the time, inside, I am really cross, I have no hesitation in saying 'no' to people like this, however pleasant and honest they might be,but many people, even DH, though he is getting better, find it very difficult to look someone in the face and refuse to donate to a worthy cause like Great Ormund Street.

I think this way of gettng donations is much on a level with spamming, demanding money hidden with a smily outside.