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M0nica Wed 28-May-25 14:56:22

I have just had someone ring the doorbell, doing door to door canvassing for regular donations to Great Ormond Street Children's Hospital.

I gave my usual response, witha smile, 'We already have a portfoli of charities we donate to and we do not wish to change this.

All the time, inside, I am really cross, I have no hesitation in saying 'no' to people like this, however pleasant and honest they might be,but many people, even DH, though he is getting better, find it very difficult to look someone in the face and refuse to donate to a worthy cause like Great Ormund Street.

I think this way of gettng donations is much on a level with spamming, demanding money hidden with a smily outside.

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mum2three Mon 22-Sept-25 06:28:35

I'm surprised if anyone gives money in this way. It is an easy ploy to get bank details.

Grantanow Sat 23-Aug-25 10:28:23

They're a d.... nuisance.

hollysteers Sat 23-Aug-25 10:04:31

I’m delighted that a made a tiny regular donation to the Air Ambulance. They gave me a white round sticker with a large red H on it. It’s on my front windscreen and if ever I’m late back to my parked car, I like to think an official might think I’m on some medical mission!😁

It’s certainly going on to the windscreen of any car I buy in the future.

Flippinheck Sat 23-Aug-25 08:45:28

JohnnyMo

Remember if you are approached by a chugger, either in the street on at your front door they are on commission most of your first years donation will go to them.

As for some "worthy" causes like Great Ormond St unless you live in or around London there is a children's hospital local to you that needs your money more.

Absolutely.

Flippinheck Sat 23-Aug-25 08:44:11

This is why I love my Ring doorbell. It is hard to argue with a disembodied voice. Unfortunately the Jehovahs Witnesses who are currently plaguing this area have learned to knock rather than ring.

Chocolatelovinggran Sat 23-Aug-25 08:35:25

I understand your point of view, JohnnyMo, but would add that in my long involvement with children in a school for those with severe and complex needs, GOS performed some exceptional work at the cutting edge of paediatrics with some of our students. Many such treatments required long stays in hospital, and parents being able to stay nearby was important for the child's wellbeing.
That is why I support parent accommodation, and research at GOSH.

JohnnyMo Fri 22-Aug-25 21:04:34

Remember if you are approached by a chugger, either in the street on at your front door they are on commission most of your first years donation will go to them.

As for some "worthy" causes like Great Ormond St unless you live in or around London there is a children's hospital local to you that needs your money more.

henetha Sun 10-Aug-25 12:26:37

I filled up at my local petrol station recently and when I headed for the shop to pay there were two young men, very charming, trying to persuade me to set up a direct debit for their charity. ( a worthwhile one). "I need to pay for my petrol" I said. Nothing deterred them, they were really determined. But I managed to evaded them when other customers appeared and were pounced upon.
I really object to this. I support favourite charities and don't like being hassled into doing more. I do realise they are all struggling though. It's a difficult dilemma.

multicolourswapshop Sun 10-Aug-25 08:13:59

I have no hesitation in saying NO to these cold sellers even the Mormons who still keep coming around

Ellie Anne Sun 10-Aug-25 07:41:30

Charlie bb out. Supermarket is the same. It really puts me off.
I try to wait until they have accosted someone else and sneak past. But I did once complain to the charity when one of them was being a real nuisance.

Flippinheck Sat 09-Aug-25 15:11:52

M0nica

I have just had someone ring the doorbell, doing door to door canvassing for regular donations to Great Ormond Street Children's Hospital.

I gave my usual response, witha smile, 'We already have a portfoli of charities we donate to and we do not wish to change this.

All the time, inside, I am really cross, I have no hesitation in saying 'no' to people like this, however pleasant and honest they might be,but many people, even DH, though he is getting better, find it very difficult to look someone in the face and refuse to donate to a worthy cause like Great Ormund Street.

I think this way of gettng donations is much on a level with spamming, demanding money hidden with a smily outside.

This is where my Ring doorbell is so handy. I can see who is at the door and choose whether to reply via the microphone, open the door or ignore.

Happygirl79 Sat 09-Aug-25 14:08:39

vintageclassics

No. Is a complete sentence perhaps we all need to use it more.

Absolutely!

charliebb Sat 09-Aug-25 13:54:14

Over the last couple of weeks, every supermarket I've visited has a charity desk set up right in the entrance. The people running them are approaching everyone who goes into or comes out of the store. I find this more than irritating and have to restrain myself from being unpleasant. I thought it was against the law for these charity reps to approach people.

Jane43 Mon 04-Aug-25 20:01:41

I have found the latest thing is when you pay by debit card you are asked if you want to donate a sum of money to a charity, it usually rounds the amount up to the nearest pound but it can happen several times a day and I feel mean when I press the decline button.

Desdemona Mon 04-Aug-25 19:54:27

There are a group of chuggers that like to hang around near to Cabot Circus Shopping Centre in Bristol.
It is something to do with the homeless (alledgedly) and the other week my teenager and her friends were hounded for the last of their money (this "charity" took cash) after they had told the man they had no spare cash. He said they "couldn't care about homeless people" if they didn't donate.
This week he was there again. My daughter told him that she and her friends had spent all their money and wouldn't be donating today!
These people really wind me up.

Ellie Anne Mon 04-Aug-25 18:10:46

I’m staying in my daughter’s house for a few days . Had a young man at the door this afternoon from the make a wish charity. I told him I don’t live here and he said well you live somewhere in the uk don’t you.
I just told him I don’t want to talk to you and closed the door.
Last week I was approached in the super market by canvassers for cancer research. I told them I already donate to Marie curie. They wanted to explain what they did that was different. I think I already know that.
Nearly every week there is someone there asking for money. If they took
One off donations I would be happy to help.

icanhandthemback Tue 17-Jun-25 14:57:52

Rosieroe

When paying by card in a shop yesterday I had to press red on the screen to actively reject adding a charity donation to my purchase. I could easily have just tapped my card and ended up having paid the larger sum. I get really annoyed at being asked to donate every time I purchase something.

Me too.

Rosieroe Tue 17-Jun-25 14:35:03

When paying by card in a shop yesterday I had to press red on the screen to actively reject adding a charity donation to my purchase. I could easily have just tapped my card and ended up having paid the larger sum. I get really annoyed at being asked to donate every time I purchase something.

Sadgrandma Tue 03-Jun-25 10:52:09

sassenach512
I always say thank you, I’ll give you a donation but do my own packing.

I get annoyed when charities send me begging letters and include a free gift. I always bin them but, even if the gifts only cost them pennies, it’s still wasted money.

Eloethan Sun 01-Jun-25 10:47:24

Great Ormond Street Hospital is, of course, a very worthy cause, and particularly pulls at people's heart strings. I believe they do very well so far as donations are concerned, and there are probably many similarly worthy charities which can't afford their vast advertising campaigns.

icanhandthemback Sat 31-May-25 02:56:44

If GOS knocked my door, I would tell them exactly why I didn’t want to donate. Parents with children with the congenital condition my children have, have been reported to Social Services quite wrongly. They also won’t diagnose the condition because they don’t want children labelled. Nope, I’ll keep my money in the bank ready to give to other charities who I value more.

Maggiemaybe Fri 30-May-25 16:58:23

A group of neighbours near us must have got a job lot of big stickers saying “no cold callers, no flyers, no junk mail, no charities”, etc, etc. The whole street has them and I just have a welcome break walking along it when I’m out posting leaflets through letterboxes for our annual charity jigsaw festival. One lady was gardening last year and asked me what I was delivering. She was very cross that she knew nothing about the festival, that’s been running for years. I got the impression it was all my fault. smile

Allira Fri 30-May-25 16:20:48

M0nica

I feel that 'Cold calling' stickers advertise that someone elderly lives in the house, so could be an advertisement for vulnerability if anyone with eveil intent saw it.

My neighbours had a brass plate.

They were in their 40s and both quite able to defend themselves if needs be.

Delila Fri 30-May-25 13:40:57

I answered the door to two little boys offering to sell me a small, used, cushion for £3, the proceeds to be shared between them and a “local dog shelter”. I had a lengthy discussion with them about the rights and wrongs of their venture and they went away to think about it.

About an hour later they returned to tell me that, as they had been unable to find a local dog shelter they had decided instead to support Oxfam, again keeping half the proceeds for themselves. I had another discussion with them, resulting in them deciding to go away and have another think about it (dream up another scheme). It’s a tiny village, I know them and they’re nice boys, but they’re budding little con artists - they’ll be busily polishing up their act for the next attempt.