need a friend

jeni is speaking for herself, of course .

Hello Nuttynanna, I like you am looking for a friend as I am on my own now and I dont see my sons as often as I would like, I have tried looking at local social clubs to join, but its like walking into the land of the living dead, I dont mean that perhaps clubs in other parts of the country are the same its just where I live which is in Essex, near Southend on Sea, so If you live anywhere near I would gladly be your friend, I have a car so I dont mind travelling out of the county, I know that this site is good, but there is nothing like meeting out and having coffee or lunch and a good old chin wag with a real human being instead of " virtual " friends, although this site is a good form of communication, I like to go out ( if you know what I mean ) sometimes I get fed up with always being stuck indoors, mind you I am very glad of my " indoors " on wet and rainy days like recently, I hope you live in the south East, it would be nice to meet you

Thanks Jeni

Slightly batty was the polite version, stark raving sounds familiar though.
It is 7.45 p.m here, so G&T time.
Cheers.

kate2012 wellcome from me as well! There are quite a few of us from the medical professions, so you should feel at home. I'm not sure about the 'slightly' batty though? Stark raving would probably fit in best, particularly on party nights!
Enjoy!

Faye: I forgot to mention that, if you are a reader, and have moved to the wheatlands you might enjoy

'The Dressmaker " by Rosalie Ham. an Australian author.
" Dungatar is a small town like any other in the Victorian wheatlands - except that the woman dress like Paris models. ."

I think it would be fun to match your locals to some characters in the book, though maybe not mention it until you get to know them better.

Hi Kate, slightly batty is good enough for us! Welcome and enjoy the company!

Thanks kittylester for your welcome.
Just from reading here i can see that you are all lovely, warm people.
I will look forward to getting to know you all. Not sure which category I will fit into, but slightly batty is probably close.

Thanks Faye.
I am still in touch with friends I had in England, before we moved to Australia, and am on good terms with my now neighbours, but we are not friends.
Most of them are much younger than I, have children in school or day care, are busy with work & their own families and friends when not, but pleasant enough. We wave, smile, and do each other small favours, which is fine with me.

City living world wide doesn't give anyone much time for making friends of any age now life is so hectic.

I have always found country people very friendly too, even if some of them are wary of people from the Big Smoke - not sure why, but have never been around long enough to ask.
I hope you have landed on your feet now you have moved and will meet people you can build a friendship with.

I suppose it is a shock to the system after so many years of working with people from all ethnic backgrounds to suddenly come up against what seems like a brick wall when I hung up my spurs, so to speak, and became just another body. Not that I expected special attention, nothing more than I would offer to any newcomer anyway.

I know it is a common thing for people to feel invisible once they reach sixty, but why sixty, I wonder?

I am content with my own company, & have many interests, but it would be good to share them with at least one or two people, but so far no one has turned up, but I live in hope.



Welcome to all newbies. We are a kind, friendly, chatty, slightly batty (well the others are!), feisty, wise and wonderful bunch so plunge in wherever you feel like it.

Welcome Kate, I live in Australia too.

I have three good friends, one I met nearly forty years ago, she was my neighbour. Even though we don't always see each other we have always kept in touch. The second I met when our daughters attended kindergarten together thirty five years ago, our girls did not keep up the friendship, but we did. The third I met at work 18 years ago.

Recently I moved to the country in another state and I would love some friends of my age. My son in law plays Aussie Rules football and last week we went to his first game at a new club about an hours drive away. It is a wheat farming area and I guess for a lot of the people who live there, the only social life for they have for the week. I have never met so many friendly people, male and female and lots were my age and they came up and introduced themselves to me and had a chat. Usually if I go to a game to watch my son in law play, no one speaks to me unless it is someone D2 and sil know.

I just checked in and found all your welcoming posts - thank you all.

It seems strange to so quickly find friends on the other side of the world,, but I am very happy I took the plunge and posted here.

9.30 a.m here on a cool, sunny morning; 12.50 a.m for most of you, so sleep well. I will be back soon.
Kate

Hi Kate looking forward to hearing from you

Hello, Kate Welcome; I hope you enjoy GN as much as I do!

Welcome Kate2012 you are among friends

Pleased to meet you, Kate2012!

Kate2012 Come on in and chat to your heart's content. I could be lonely - but, thanks to a whole host of marvellous GNs, I'm far from it. We are here to share and care.

Welcome Kate2012. Maybe you could send us some of your sunshine . As you'll gather from many of the posts, it's RAINING with a vengeance across most of the UK, although officially we are in a drought!

Hi Kate and a warm welcome - look forward to chatting to you. Nice to have another Gransnetter from Australia

You are very welcome, Kate ! There are others here on GN who live in Australia, France and elsewhere in the world - distance is no object with the wonders of the internet .

Kate hello, good to hear from you, of course you can join us There are lots of us that do find it difficult to form relationships once we have moved out of the workplace.
I am please you have taken the step from lurker to poster.
As you will have seen there is always someone around to have a chat to, so now you have taken the plunge you have made lots of new friends here on Gransnet

Hello Kate2012 and welcome

We are many and varied as you will have already noticed and we share a joke or two. We also share the great and low moments of our lives sometimes, and the support on here is HUGE!

Occasionally we have "parties", which are to be "read" to be believed!!

You are among friends x x

Of course you may Kate2012! Welcome to GN.

Taps on door, may I come in too?
I am a long time lurker at GN, but as I live in Australia have always been hesitant to join in. Until today when I came across this thread, and discovered that others share my difficulties in making friends.
I too have a husband with mental health issues, and no inclination to do much about them so, despite living in a large city, we are a very isolated.
Until my retirement [I was a palliative care nurse in a teaching hospital] I was always surrounded by people, and thought making friends would not be a problem when I left.
Things haven't worked out that way and I find myself in the same predicament as many of you describe.
Fortunately, I enjoy my own company, so am not desperately lonely, but miss my work colleagues with whom I worked with for many years. Despite many overtures, I have found making new friends to be well nigh impossible We moved to be closer to the city centre and all that it offers, but I find now that, unless I go out on my own I rarely go near them.
I have recently had to stop driving, which restricts me even more.
Reading here today I thought - one more try, even though you are all thousands of miles away. I was born & worked in England until we moved here, so am familiar with your world.
If I may I would love to join you..

Hello and welcome veva