Oh Green same I could clown for Britain,and even now humour is my defence mechanism people do not believe I am shy,I will talk to people and make people feel comfortable....then go home and worry what they thought of me
We learn so much from each other. Underneath we are not so unalike...it's just that a few GN have confidence to spare and share 
Like HildaW I'm tall, too. At school I was the class clown and carried on acting the fool through most of my life, I think. It somehow seemed easier to do that than being totally ignored because I was shy!
More likely the women thought their husbands would fall for you, Greatnan! 
That's me to a T Hilda. I had to be super-confident on the surface before I retired, but for the whole of my career I had this notion that one day I would be rumbled and someone would notice I was a gibbering wreck underneath and say 'what are you doing in this job?'
I do talk too much when I'm feeling uncomfortable - I'm never sure if I've said enough to convince people that I'm being genuine or that they have understood me, so won't be offended if I say something that could be misinterpreted. Fortunately, I've got a couple of close friends who I don't have to explain myself to!
I think a lot of the time I look a bit like the 'confused' emoticon, Anagram - never very sure if I've said or done the right thing!! 
And some of us without even the 'bubbly exterior'!
There are a few of us, I think, SOOP !
green -'underneath the bubbly exterior...' there is a person who goes under the name of Soop
As soon as my very close friend's husband retired, she began to withdraw from the things we did together. We used to chat on the phone most days and drive off to do and see different things. I had a feeling that it would happen this way because he's quite a controlling person, so wasn't surprised when it did happen. Sometimes now, it's hard to carry on a conversation when we see each other because he's always there (!) and anyway, we no longer seem to have the same things in common, somehow. Like crimson, I often worry about if I'm taking up someone's time when I'm phoning or when visiting, and I'm wary of outstaying my welcome. People that I meet seem to think I'm a confident person, but that's really not the case - underneath the bubbly exterior, I'm wobbling inside!
carol -That's a great way of putting it!
Me too, glass. It's like popping into the village coffee shop and finding all your mates in there!
glass I cannot begin to thank Gransnet for all the good it has done for me. Whenever I log on, it feels as if I'm entering a comfortable room filled with welcoming people.
nuttynana Since I joined the happy band of Gransnetters, my lonely days are well and truly over...
Guess if you want to meet like minded people do the things that interest you makes sense.
nuttynana 
Another billy no mates here but quite happy and do not feel lonely. I would also like to be your friend and anyone else who belongs to gransnet.
Dear nuttynan ...and you have another friend. Keep chatting to us. You matter
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