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Greatnan Wed 18-Apr-12 10:29:37

I normally live in trousers and I do not attend any social occasions. However, in August the first of my ten grandchildren to get married ties the know it Kent. I have found a lovely trouser suit with a long-line jacket in a silky fabric, in a very pale green (eau de nil?) I had put it away several years ago because it is size 14 and I thought I would never fit into it again. I have lost 2 stone since I moved here and started energetic walking every day, and it now fits perfectly.
I was planning to wear it with a beaded cream top, but a friend on Facebook has sent me a pm to say she has never seen anyone wearing a trouser suit at a formal even in the UK for years.
My family accept that I am a little eccentric, and I will only be the groom's Nan - the suit is unworn - one of those buys you think you can squeeze into and then notice how unflattering it is to your wide bottom! Now is hangs beautifully and feels really comfortable.
The wedding is going to be formal, with the men in tails, numerous bridesmaids (including the couple's own two little girls) and it is being held at a very swanky hotel/spa in St. Margaret's Bay, Kent.
My daughter in NZ thinks the suit will be fine, but I wonder if anybody has any advice for me.

SOOP Wed 18-Apr-12 14:24:59

Greatnan Cream or ecru wedges offer a little lift together with stability. A small, neat handbag with a thin chain for hanging over the wrist (keep hands free for greeting and wine) ...you, my dear, will look amazing. smile

Greatnan Wed 18-Apr-12 14:34:07

Great,that sounds just right, and not too expensive! I am going to Manchester next month to bring my sister back to France for a holiday, so I will go shopping with her. She is also going to the wedding of her great-nephew and we can pootle round the Trafford Centre and have lunch together.

HildaW Wed 18-Apr-12 15:19:45

Greatnan, although I loathe wedges I have bought some nearly wedges to wear under my trouser suit as I felt I needed just a bit of height. I trawled through the web and found some lovely Gabor semi wedge sandals (I cant wear pop socks because of the veins so thought I'd have some nice sandals and show off my, still decent, toes!). The thickish sole and sturdy heel make me feel quite stable but do look elegant under the trousers. I'd just try on as many different styles as you can and go for what you feel right in. Good luck!

susiecb Wed 18-Apr-12 15:37:20

Definitely don't match shoes with handbag - very Margaret Thatcher!!!

HildaW Wed 18-Apr-12 15:48:32

Quite right susiecb...in fact think some folks use it as a chance to throw another colour into the mix just for fun!

Granb Wed 18-Apr-12 16:17:59

When DS1 got married I wore embroidered silk jacket with silk trousers and had my shoes dyed to match.

People don't seem to do matching handbags and shoes now but you could get an absolutely stunning and darling bag - and that with your tanned, healthy look will mean that no-one looks at your shoes which can therefore be the comfiest you can find in a shade that roughly matches.

My father is in his late 70's - ardent rambler and always slightly tanned. Nobody believes he is the age he is and you will find that people will be more interested in querying yours

Riverwalk Wed 18-Apr-12 16:58:57

Your outfit sounds lovely and perfectly acceptable, particularly as the jacket is long-line.

A few years' ago I attended a formal wedding at The Church of The Immaculate Conception in Farm Street, Mayfair and both the mothers, of the bride and the groom, were in elegant trouser suits.

Janeygranny Wed 18-Apr-12 16:59:10

This is my first time on Gransnet and only my second post so Greatnan all I can go on is your previous posts about your lovely trouser suit and you certainly don't sound like a "know it all", as long as you feel comfortable and it feels "right" then go for it and have a lovely time. smile

SOOP Wed 18-Apr-12 17:10:41

Greatnan...I agree with not having "matchy matchy" accessories. If your shoes are neutral [not white] you will appear taller. I would go for a very chic smallish bag in an eye-opening colour...beaded would look good, or embroidered. Accessorize may have some worth looking at. Wish I could join you. Sounds fun grin

GoldenGran Wed 18-Apr-12 17:24:04

Greanan I have been to several weddings un the last two years and there were several trouser suits, it will be perfect.I agree with the small eye catching bag, matchy matchy is a no-no nowadays.

johanna Wed 18-Apr-12 17:46:24

greatgran

Agree with oldgreymare about the colour of your top. Cream and eau de nil are not a good combo. Too wishy washy, and can sometimes look cheap.

Yes, matchy matchy is very old fashioned, but you cannot have BOTH your shoes AND your handbag a different colour from your outfit.
One of those has to be the same colour as outfit.

Greatnan Wed 18-Apr-12 18:06:00

I have a silver top as well as a heavily beaded cream one - would silver be too light to go with the suit? I can't think of any strong colour that would go with eau de nil.

SOOP Wed 18-Apr-12 18:14:53

Greatnan silver may work very well. I'm also thinking along the lines of deep rose...also, for my son's wedding, I used a silver antique purse on a fine chain. So different. I would love to lend it to you. It's been wrapped in tissue and doing nothing very special for three years. I think it's to be seen on the wedding photo that I uploaded. I'll take a look. smile

jeni Wed 18-Apr-12 18:15:06

I think silver would be good. I was wondering about silver before you posted.

Greatnan Wed 18-Apr-12 18:24:33

What a lovely offer,Soop. I am trying to see your photos but when I click on your pink bar nothing happens. Am I doing something wrong?

jeni Wed 18-Apr-12 18:26:39

I've looked. Yes it would look good.

SOOP Wed 18-Apr-12 18:27:48

Greatnan photo showing bag [finely knitted silver] is on photos. On the day, I had a sprig of Freesias with a wee magnet attachment...looked lovely on the bag, not on the lapel. smile More I think about it...I'm thinking - silver.

SOOP Wed 18-Apr-12 18:29:18

Greatnan click over Soop...I've just done the photo for you.

Grannylin Wed 18-Apr-12 18:34:24

....yes that's nice....(Soop and bag)! and if you've got time have a look at Next website for small bags/occasionwear for more ideas...M&S good too.Hey this is much more fun dressing someone else!

SOOP Wed 18-Apr-12 18:37:09

Isn't it just - Grannylin? I'm having to disappear shortly. I'll be back for update on Greatnan's special outfit tomorrow.

Greatnan Wed 18-Apr-12 18:43:28

I loved your photos, Soop! How elegant you are in that goregous deep purple outfit. What was the occasion?
I am now more or less decided on wearing my suit with my silver top, cream/ochre sandals with a small wedge, and a silver handbag. I think my sister has just such a handbag or I could trawl her local charity shops. If all else fails, I will call upon Soop's generous offer, but I don't want to put her to all the trouble of packing and posting if I can find one myself.
I used to love wearing hats when I used contact lenses, but I am not sure they go so well with glasses. I might give the hat a miss.

petallus Wed 18-Apr-12 18:45:36

The trouser suit sounds lovely and perfectly appropriate. Might not wear a hat with it though. Perhaps a fascinator?

jeni Wed 18-Apr-12 18:49:42

A fascinator! Oh yes! Perhaps to match the suit? Or even silver again? But might not show against your hair if it's the same colour as mine!

dorsetpennt Wed 18-Apr-12 19:46:50

It's the only time I wear a dress - to a wedding. Then various people make remarks 'oh you do have legs!' - haven't worn a trouser suit for decades. With my short hair I'd worry about looking like an elderly gent too. Though I do wear smart trousers and dressy tops. However, at a wedding, dress and fascinator it is - I used to think the latter was stupid. However, we were invited to an extremely posh wedding where some sort of hat was de rigieur . Hats don't suit but a fascinator did and I have found a couple of really nice ones.

granjura Wed 18-Apr-12 19:47:56

Trouser suit will be great- but perhaps the black patent shoes would be too stark a contrast. A cream pair of sandals would look much better I feel.
Hope you have a wonderful time.