What's your Bucket List of to do's before you die?

Why is it a bucket list? This has puzzled me for ages.

After spending half my life in foreign country - a country which I now love dearly- I am no longer interested in travelling. What I have not yet seen I can leave unseen.
I have outlived all my family who all died in their 60s so I'm quite happy to continue and hope DH and I make it for a while longer. I don't want any stress about doing things I've not yet done.

Live for the day that is my maxim. I can't imgine how it must be to be wishing months and years away waiting to go somehwere else years in advance.
Saving up for Xmas in July and even buying presents.

So there is nothing on my list at all.

I hope for good health to carry DH and I into 'very' old age and to travel whilst still able to , i.e. get insurance, walk, remember etc.
Would like to see Argentina, Iguassu Falls, Vietnam and Cambodia, among other long hauls and then start discovering nearer to home.....we are so lucky to have beautiful places in Europe as well as in our own country.
I could go on and on but I might bore you all!

No, Gaga, fortunately my other daughter is very loving and close, even though she lives in New Zealand, and so are her six children. It was her suggestion, and her husband's, that I should go and live in a cottage in their garden. She has also been cut off by her sister and nephews and one niece. My estranged daughter's eldest daughter remains a friend on FaceBook - the other three blocked me - but she says she does not want to get involved .
I sent a very loving letter to my daughter about six weeks ago, and got back another eight pages of malice in return. There is nothing I can do and nobody who is willing to help. She has no friends (she always found it hard to make friends, unlike her sister, who has kept her friends from childhood) and her three children who still live with her (Aged 28, 21 and 16) either believe her monstrous accusations or they are just afraid to disobey her. She is supporting all of them financially.

Life is very short so I tend to live in the moment,I dont make plans,so I cant be dissapointed,I tend to wander where life leads me...we have had yesterday it has passed, tomorrow isnt ours yet.But before I shuffle off this mortal coil I would love to see GD with a nice man and family,or sucessful and happy and settled then I can rest.

Greatnan xxxx

Like soop, just enjoy every day; "gather ye rosebuds while ye may.." After cancer, I woke up to life.

Dear Greatnan the situation with your daughter is obviously a source of deep sadness to you and it must be made so much worse because you don't know what she thinks you have done (or not done) to her. Would it be worth one more try - by letter or even by using a go-between to heal the rift? It would be so sad if you emigrate to New Zealand, as you plan to do, with the matter unresolved and the possibility of never seeing each other again. Could your other daughter help or is she too estranged?

Thank you all for your good wishes. It doesn't hurt so much any more - it is more absolute bewilderment at how she could have interpreted all my love and kindness as something evil. No, I don't want her to suffer terrible regret if (when!) I die but I don't think she will. Of course, I could easily outlive her as my own health is much better than hers and that would really be sad.

greatnan hope your wish happens soon.

Oh good on her I get it , how come she and I think the same ? [wink wink}

Greatnan How I wish that I could make your dearest come true. That would be wonderful

Nonu absent is immortal

absentgrana has delusions of immortality, Nonu!

Absentgrana , don"t get your drift

Die? What? I don't think so.

Soop - I think they are my wishes for my own bucket list, too. I don't fret about my own future - only the future of those I love.
Glamma - it's as if you were given another chance at life, wasn't it? So you 'got out there' and enjoyed it - and you still are doing!
And Greatnan, I do so hope the last, (but not least, by any means) wish comes true for you very soon.

Soop , true , true

Greatnan this is such a horrible situation you find yourself in and I sure I am not the first to sympathise . I suppose the only thing is that she she will be left with regrets if you don"t make up , don"t get me wrong I would guess the last thing you would wish for is for her to feel pain

Glammana I am so glad you took the decision to go abroad, why not ? at the end of ther day we have to do it "my way " Frank !!!

My best moment has been,it was the 12 yrs ago when my lovely surgeon told me that I was free of the nasty C and I vowed that I would never worry about anything again and live life as best I could,that made up my mind to move abroad a thing that we where going to do when the children where small but never did,so when I got my good news I thought this is our time and we enjoyed the experience,maybe we where selfish I don't know but we did it so now I take every day as it comes and don't worry.

No burning desire to do anything specific or to travel anywhere in particular.. but just to be interested in and enjoy any new or 'old' places that I find myself in. Am not get planner but it works for me.. seem to keep busy get out and about and see a film/play/ concert at least once a week!

Seeing my family regularly and enjoying the DGCs grow & develop

Nonu and nanachrissy This moment is the only true reality. Deep breath.

Relax and stop worrying about unimportant things, and have a few more lot of wild times.

SOOP how wise you are , there is no good in looking back , I have taught myself not to go on any "pity parties " any more just keep looking forward to what ever the future may hold and we might just find that it is "okay" ! x

Release myself from painful memories. Enjoy the moment. Cease fretting about the future.

Enjoy life to the full , which I am doing anyway

Visit as much of Europe as possible before emigrating to New Zealand.
Visit as many South Pacific islands as possible when I am living in NZ to snorkel on coral. Visit Vietnam, Cambodia and China.
Visit the Milford Sound and Fjiordland.
Have another go at cross country skiing - I got too cold this year.

See my estranged daughter and her three children. Find out what she thinks I have done to hurt her.