Losing a Loved one

helshea So sorry to hear about your dad.
Mine died in April and I looked on the net for prayers/eulogies and hymns and found it very helpful.
In the end I wrote a short piece which the priest read out for me, and played Mozart's Requiem. No hymns, just a prayer.

There were only four of us there by my choice, and I know my dad would have been happy with my decision.

That's all that matters, that you do what is right for you and him.

Helshea, I'm so sorry you've lost your dad. Of course you want to do everything you can to make his funeral special enough for him and for everyone who loved him but try not to let this take over. Nobody will be marking his funeral out of ten. Concentrate on remembering the wonderful man he was, and be gentle with yourself

helshea deepest sympathy on the loss of your Dad. Thinking of you. Please take care of yourself.

I am so sorry to hear your sad new helshea. My mother died seven months ago and my sister wrote the eulogy but I changed a lot of it as it was very sombre and I know Mum would not have liked it. I instead put in interesting and funny things that had happened to my mother during her life It seemed to go down well and my sister and brother were happy with it. www.ehow.com/how_1384_give-eulogy.html

My commiserations - this poem by Christina Rossetti seems to give comfort to some people:

Remember me when I am gone away
Gone far away into the silent land
When you can no more take me by the hand
Nor I half turn to go, yet, turning, stay.
Remember me when no more, day by day,
You tell me of our future that you planned.
Only remember me, you understand
It will be late to counsel then or play.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
And afterwards remember, do not grieve,
For if the darkness and corruption leave
A vestige of the thoughts that once I had
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad.

helshea deepest sympathies for the loss of your dad. I'm sure there will be lots of helpful suggestions to trigger your own thoughts about how you would like the funeral to be held. Look after yourself and please keep in touch so we know how you're getting on.