Autism.

Nonu, if you google autism you will find lots of interesting information. Many autistic people have unusual skills, especially in maths or design. Did you see Rainman, with Dustin Hoffman?

How "new" is the new baby? It seems a bit early for someone to get that idea.
I think there is a proven genetic element with relation to the Aspergers end of the spectrum.

Aspergers has affected my DHs abilty to hold down a job, despite being very good at Maths and with a masters in information technology.

Autism/aspergers is a spectrum which encompasses a wide range of behaviour and abilities. it can only be wait and see.

My ten year old grandson is on the autistic spectrum.
It's impossible to know at 3 months. They do not get diagnosed until between 3 and 4, if it's obvious. Some of the first signs are abnormal reactions to noise and people. Often they do not reach milestones at the same time as other people.
I remember when he was 2 we would take him into York, and he told us what he wanted by kicking. It was usually to get us to take him away from crowded places. He would hide his head in my shoulder or in my lap.
He would scream when an ambulance or police car went past and it would take ten minutes to pacify him.
If we were in a store and a baby started crying, he would cry louder than the baby and we'd have to take him out.
He had very good hearing and would hear an aeroplane or a helicopter and be pointing up to the sky well before anyone else heard it.
He still has a 1 to 1 assistant at school. Although he is good at tables, he often does not know what to do with it. He can also decode words, so read but without understanding. He has always been better with adults than children. I put that down to us having a guest house. If he did not like someone, he would pull my apron to make me take him out of the dining room. At other times he would line up his cars on the dining table so they could play with him. I remember a doctor who was a guest getting down on the floor with him and playing with his toys.

nonu No baby can be diagnosed as autistic at 3 months. A teacher friend who specialises in autism has a child who has recently been tested for autism. He is 7. He will not be told he is on the spectrum, as he functions quite well and his communication has gradually improved. If he should need any particular resources, this will be reviewed. 240,000 schoolchildren have been unnecessarily assessed as being on the autistic spectrum in recent years, and the authorities have recently restricted the range in the light of this, as children who were showing behavioural and communication deficits were being labelled for no good reason. The sort of behaviour that would be looked for does not show in a baby so young.

Sounds like it doesn't it. Not understood the doctor? Cerebral palsy is more likely to be suspected at this age, or a genetic problem, but not autism.

I am pretty sure that autism can not be diagnosed at 3 months. They are reluctant to diagnose even at two years. It is assessed by looking at their interaction with others, eye contact, and many other things. Certainly none of these would have any relevance at that age. What gives them the idea it is autism? Think they may have got it wrong.

Autism is definitely NOT life threatening! One of the symptoms can be not making good eye contact, but my DS1 when a really young thing, was not inclined to make eye contact. The doc said that he was easily over stimulated.

He is now 34 and is and has always been a perfectly normal (as much as he can be with me for a mother) chap.

Proper diagnosis needed - difficult to diagnose in a "baby" I would have thought - it depends how old.

Hi PHoenix , it is not my DD "s baby but her friends !

About 3months ,

Have to say , I am not totally sure what autism is , is it life threatening ?

Nonu , how old is the baby, and what has led this "friend" to suggest Autism?

I've read that you have written 'might' It is too early for a diagnosis. I thought my GS was autistic and read on-line that if it is not so obvious to an outside observer, there may be chance that it will not develop so much as to prevent him holding down a job. My GS on his first birthday did not look one visitor in the eye and behaved as if he was quite alone, sitting in his high chair at the table. Very distressing.
But he is now nine and although he doesn't chat to people, he talks to other children and has a deep relationship to his mother and father. He completely ignores the family dog and would ignore me if I didn't make a point of talking to him.
He is good at maths and these days that is where the jobs are.

Wait and see what the future brings. It may be just a tendency like for my GS.

Not neccessarily. Many computer people have autism

Nonu , it would depend on the degree of the condition, or what is often referred to as "the spectrum".

A friend of mine has a twin brother who has recently been diagnosed as having Aspergers Syndrome, at the age of 50! He has always worked, admittedly not in very high powered jobs, but employed just the same.

There are so many degrees of Autism, so until more is known in this particular case, it is not possible to even guess at what might lie ahead, but much love to you and your family.