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Greatnan Mon 19-Nov-12 22:18:12

It is natural for anybody who feels unwell all the time to lose their appetite, and also we probably need less food as we grow older. However, I agree with everyone who has said that he must tell his doctors about this.
Can you have your own meals separately - it is important for you to be properly nourished as you obviously have a lot to cope with.

gracesmum Mon 19-Nov-12 22:10:47

We live at doctors' or rather Royal Free Hospital where he has 2- monthly liver transplant clinic and 2- monthly gastro clinic and 6- monthly heart clinic appointments not including ENT appointments and twice weekly blood tests locally to get his INR right. But you are absolutelyright, they need to be told. In the last 3 weeks he has had 4 days as an in-patient, an endoscopy and heart, liver and gastro clinics. It is all connected therefore worrying so I may be trivialising it in being frustrated, but I am also concerned it may become a habit.hmm

kittylester Mon 19-Nov-12 20:54:55

Can't offer anything but sympathy, but loads of that.

Smoluski Mon 19-Nov-12 20:40:53

I can't help much gracesmum but send sympathy for both you and mr grace it must be frustrating for you and as a person who likes her food empathise how miserable it must be for him to not enjoy his meals anymore flowersxxxxlove nellie

janeainsworth Mon 19-Nov-12 20:34:31

Can only offer sympathy gracesmum, I think london is right.

MiceElf Mon 19-Nov-12 20:26:26

Could you persuade him to seek a consultation with his doctor or a dietician to see if there is a reason for his loss of appetite ? It must be so dispiriting for you both.

Have you noticed if its one food group that is the problem such as dairy or example?

Anne58 Mon 19-Nov-12 20:24:56

She's right, you know!

london Mon 19-Nov-12 20:23:55

gracesmum a would go back to doctor .thats not much advice .but best be safe flowers

Anne58 Mon 19-Nov-12 20:16:42

Oh dear gracesmum , no advice, other than asking him what he fancies?

gracesmum Mon 19-Nov-12 20:13:33

DH used to be the type of person who colud pack away 3 hot meals a day, a "little something" round about 4.30 and a huge mug of Horlicks at night. Having UC he never put on any weight - seethe, seethe! However, just recently he has lost his appetite. I amwas a keen cook and enjoy(ed) cooking because it was usually appreciated and always eaten, but now he asks for small portions, looks glumly at his plate, pushes it away and just isn't eating enough. He's not wasting away but is probably losing weight. He sometimes even retches although he doesn't bring anything up. He has had an endoscopy so there is no problem at that end of his digestive system, but does suffer from indigestion, probably not unconnected with the cocktail of drugs he is on. I have tried concocting delicate liitle morsels to tempt him, prepare light easy-to-digest food, sometimes I buy ready made food on the basis of why spend all that time slaving over a hot stove when it is going to end up in the dog anyway? I can't altogether ignore it as he has a variety of health issues (as many of you know) but it is getting me down. I feel a pig for finishing what is on my plate and have very little incentive to make anything special for lunch or supper. Help? Sympathy?