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Ana Fri 07-Dec-12 13:42:40

Jess - yes indeed! Then people would make way for her in admiration, and she'd still get to the head of the bus queue! wink

Riverwalk Fri 07-Dec-12 13:38:18

Movedalot sounds lovely - where do you live, Trumpton? grin

JessM Fri 07-Dec-12 13:37:05

Some people just don't appear to recognise faces. There was a local MP and a chief exec of the council locally both of whom I met several times. Neither ever gave any signs of recognising me. I put it down to them lacking in either charm or facial recognition genes. Or both.
Ana for all you know allie would look magnificent with pink hair.

Movedalot Fri 07-Dec-12 13:28:01

I agree with anno it depends where you live. Where we now live everyone is polite including the young drivers and even the bus drivers. We are all nice to each other in the supermarket and when a little old lady needs help at the checkout no one in the queue get huffy. In the bank and Post Office they are helpful and friendly and on the buses they give up their seats to the needy. As my name implies I've lived in several places not all as nice as this.

The only time I feel invisible is when there is football on the TV grin

Ana Fri 07-Dec-12 13:25:12

And having a voice that can be heard. Like Barrow has found, sometimes people just don't seem to hear me...confused

Greatnan Fri 07-Dec-12 13:23:25

I am assertive and I would tell people pretty sharpish if they pushed in front of me. I don't wear make-up and my hair is snow white and I have shrunk to 5' 5" so I don't think it is anything to do with appearance, but it is a matter of confidence.

jeni Fri 07-Dec-12 13:14:37

I'm not little in any dimension but people still don't see me when I'm on my scooter!

Sook Fri 07-Dec-12 12:37:48

gracesmum you do make me laugh grin

anno I live in East Cheshire (was South) where good manners are thin on the ground. Mind you I have been spoiled as DH is a Wirral man and a perfect gentleman.

Ana Fri 07-Dec-12 12:34:32

That was to gracesmum, but it might apply to you as well, Alie, if you do dye your hair pink!

Ana Fri 07-Dec-12 12:33:22

Well, that look probably wouldn't get you served any quicker, but as people recoiled in horror you'd be guaranteed a safe passage to the front of the bus queue! grin

AlieOxon Fri 07-Dec-12 12:31:50

I HATE feeling invisible. I've been aware of it at times for quite a while, and went on colouring my hair to prevent some of it. Now I have to stop and am letting the grey out, and I think I will have to be more assertive to make up!

Yes, I think it is an age thing....but I must say when my sister and I visited Dudley last year to see the Red House bottle cone, everyone was noticeably friendly! (That's the furthest north I have been in a while.)

Maybe I will do my hair pink for the 25th. Have been considering it.

gracesmum Fri 07-Dec-12 12:28:40

I do suspect it is age-related. LOL (little old ladies) are just not noticed half the time - or maybe it is heightist (I am 5'2") And we LOL are naturally polite, so we say "Sorry" when some a****ole barges us or pushes in front in a queue. Either way I feel I need to make myself look more striking or memorable. Like the skirt caught uo in the knickers look or the roller left in the hair look or the lippy a good 4 inches away from the mouth ? Maybe notsmile

annodomini Fri 07-Dec-12 12:23:53

Oh dear, gracesmum, we don't seem to have quite that level of discourtesy here in the North West. Perhaps it's a southern thing?
Discuss! hmm

Barrow Fri 07-Dec-12 12:22:45

I also think I have become invisible - people step front of me in queues, look straight through me when I am trying to get served in shops and the other day I was in a group and was explaining something when someone jumped in and talked over me so I assume my voice has disappeared too.

I think this is also affecting my car. Drivers pull out of side streets in front of me, pedestrians step off of pavements directly into my path and cyclists cross in front of my car causing me to brake sharply.

Spindrift Fri 07-Dec-12 12:17:49

It's just the rudeness in society today

gracesmum Fri 07-Dec-12 12:15:24

Who needs an Invisibility Cape? I am invisible, I have discovered.
I was recently "introduced "by a friend to a man I have met on several occasions, whose wife I am quite friendly with who actually sat beside us at the theatre in the autumn and as he squeezed my hand and looked deep into my eyes, he said "No, I don't think we've met."
Later that day I did some shopping and had doors left to slam in my face, had to weave and duck and dive to avoid being mown down by gits on their mobiles, and was completely ignored by the assistant in Boots who served the man behind me in the queue.
Is it an age thing? Do little old ladies simpy fade away? Is it me?