Am I odd?

Barrow....tell your neighbour to go and get Knotted...it`s your house you can do what you want to in it...if putting your cards out gives you comfort ..just carry on...next time he picks a card up tell him to p... off.

I put out the last Christmas card my mother sent to me and the one she sent to her darling granddaughters every year on Christmas eve. Iit is the last thing I do every Christmas eve. You are not alone Barrow. My mother died 35 years ago.

Thank you all so much for your kind comments.

I don't think my neighbour was being unkind, he just seemed puzzled to see the card. He and his wife have both been very supportive.

I have lots of photos of DH around the house and I talk to them all the time

I actually talk to a photo of me and my teddy that's in the living room ['where did we go wrong' I'll, literally, ask myself]. I think it's lovely to have that card on show; not odd at all. Anyone who thinks it's odd is odd imo.

Nor to me. I think your neighbour isn't at all sentimental and so doesn't understand.

celebgran

No, not to me.

Barrow that is not odd if it bring you comfort, who cares??!!

My estranged daughter is still alive, but I have kept all the lovely cards she sent me over the years, and they were lovely, and sometimes I look at them, I would not get them out, but she is stillalive and is a whole different heartache.

Sadly I cannot bring myself to look at her photos they are put away for the moment, but I do have some on our digigtal photo frame that our son got us, including the one of her and I when she was heavily pregnant with our first grandchild, and the one soon after she was born with her me and little grand daughter and I love o see it if bittersweet.
Still have large one of me and little grand daughter in bedroom and sometime I kiss that and talk to her!
Probably I am a little strange!!

Putting out cards, keeping presents just show that the person you cared for so deeply is still with you in your heart. Love cannot just be turned off like a tap. So no not odd. Although surely all grans are odd to varying degrees? Anyone who gets to mature years should be odd. Or be very boring indeed.

My FIL signed all cards he sent with both his and MIL names after she had died and we never thought anything of it.
I still have the last two Christmas cards my Nana sent to me and my DC before she died, I have not seen them for a few years as they are in storage while we do the house but I know when I open the decoration box they will be there are its comforting to know. Sobarrow no you you are not odd.

No Barrow, you are not at all odd.
I still have the last birthday card my mother gave me and it is over 14 years since she died.
Christmas must have been hard for you even though you sound such a strong person

Barrow, you are not odd.....we all have our ways of coping. The last Christmas present I bought my Mum did not get given to her as she was far too ill and died a few days after Christmas. That was 10 years ago and it is still wrapped up and at the back of a cupboard. Once in a while I find it and cannot bring myself to dispose of it. It just reminds me gently of her and I know she would have liked it. For a tiny moment its as if I could give it to her, wish her Happy Christmas and pretend she is still around.

Barrow what a lovely thing to do and I do hope you continue to always do it,what is your nosey neighbour reading your cards for anyway ? I don't think you odd in anyway at all.

When my Dad died I would talk to him all the time, I don't do it so much now but it did really help me get over him passing.

Barrow I think that's lovely that you put DH card out. Not odd at all. Don't worry about what the neighbours think, you should be able to put up any card you wish in your own home. If the neighbour has a problem with it, then it is just that--his problem--I think it was a really nice thing to do....

So would I. I think it's nice.

I would do the same, Barrow, and never give it a second thought.

Ella and Ana, yes I talk to his photos all the time (glad I'm not alone in that!). It doesn't bother me if my neighbour thinks I'm odd - just wondered if others did the same thing.

Talking to photos isn't odd, Ella. I've always done it...or perhaps that makes me odd too! Who cares?

We all deal with things in our own way, I talk out loud to a photo of my mum and dad all the time!
Mind you, I am odd

Perhaps your neighbour does think you're odd, but so what ... I think it's a nice touch, and not odd at all. I often take the last bit of knitting my late mother handled (knitted); I hold it to my face and kiss it softly and put it back in the drawer. It's now quite tatty and threadbare - but to me, her energy is in every stitch.

Barrow I would do the same.

I think it's a very natural thing to do Barrow. Not odd at all!