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Are daughters better at caring for parents?.

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HUNTERF Fri 11-Jan-13 19:53:28

I shared by table with another man who was widowed and a lady today in a cafe which was full today.
The other man had 2 daughters and I have 2 daughters.
She said that we will be ok for care as we have daughters who will never let their old Dad's down where as a son is less reliable.
I am not sure if I agree as I cared for my father ( in all fairness my daughters and son in law did help out ) and I know of a few examples where sons have cared for their parents or in laws.
Do you agree with this lady or me.

Frank

Sel Sun 13-Jan-13 00:45:09

Hmmmmmm ga an actual toyboy? with white hair? mine is blond grin and I've had him 12 years - I can't compete but he is wearing well! Given that women have a longer life expectency than men, it seems to make sense. My first husband was 13 years older - I do prefer this model smile

grannyactivist Sun 13-Jan-13 00:38:23

Ahem......actually Sel I have now been in possession of an actual toyboy for some twenty six years. He's getting rather wrinkly and his hair is white, but as he might rightly point out, he'll always be ten years younger than me.

jeni glad you seem to have seen the virus off. sunshine

merlot - you're having a tough time. flowers

Sel Sun 13-Jan-13 00:22:07

Merlot when I posted earlier, I didn't say I feel for what you're going through, it's a tough time I know. Sorry flowers

And sorry too that I lowered the Gransnet tone to the point where there seemed to be feverish shopping for toyboys. Tut tut. Links were posted! It's so very disappointing. Luckily no one stooped as low as me and aquired one!

FlicketyB Sat 12-Jan-13 20:10:00

DH was an only child and he looked after his parents as well as any women. Admittedly, he did not have to provide personal care but in the last year of his father's life he made a round trip of nearly 200 miles almost every weekend to check that his parents were OK, caring for his father, taking his mother shopping and doing anything that needed doing. This, despite having a job that took him away from home for much of the week and having two small children whom he wished to spend time with.

jeni Sat 12-Jan-13 18:12:42

That should be Wednesday and I only had 2fishcakes then!

jeni Sat 12-Jan-13 17:41:36

I haven't had anything to eat since Thursday! Still not very hungry (for food) might scramble an egg white later.(egg yolk allergy)

Ana Sat 12-Jan-13 17:00:13

Yes, it's obviously given you an appetite, jeni! (Not for food, though...wink)

Ella46 Sat 12-Jan-13 16:51:02

I thought you had norovirus last night jeni ??
It obviously suits you! wink

Nanado Sat 12-Jan-13 16:48:39

JENI shock

jeni Sat 12-Jan-13 16:43:11

It's not his head I'm interested in.




It's his brainsgrin

Ella46 Sat 12-Jan-13 16:30:04

My dd is going on a training course at the end of this month, to be a part time carer. She has always had leanings that way but has been running a business with sil up to now.
Both my ds and dd are quick to offer to look after me (very rarely need it!), and both helped with my dad, showering him etc. and making him lunch, coming to hospital at short notice and being generally as supportive as they could be.
I'm very lucky.

Nanado Sat 12-Jan-13 16:27:33

I don't know who's shocked me more but I think jeni wins by a short head.

jeni Sat 12-Jan-13 16:23:19

Ana I've sent off for him. I'm that desparate!

Ana Sat 12-Jan-13 16:18:27

Huh! At least he's cheap and can't answer back.

Actually, I'd like mine to have more than a pulse.....wink

Nanado Sat 12-Jan-13 16:15:00

ana I don't know what you've heard about us but I think we'd all agree....even if we can't afford to be choosy, a minimum requirement in a man....he must have a pulse! grin
Though I don't know if I speak for everyone???? wink

Ana Sat 12-Jan-13 16:05:56

This looks like a good buy for those in the market for a toy boy!

Grow your Own

cheelu Sat 12-Jan-13 15:59:35

I dont think it is about wheter it is a daughter or a son I think it is about what kind of person they are as an individual...

Jodi Sat 12-Jan-13 15:57:55

That last bit was to jeni

Jodi Sat 12-Jan-13 15:57:15

Neither could I mishap wink
Did you try toyboys R us?

annodomini Sat 12-Jan-13 15:41:36

Sorry about this double post. The phone rang just after I'd done it, then I forgot I had....

annodomini Sat 12-Jan-13 15:40:32

kitty, not having daughters, I wouldn't be able to make a comparison, but it's impossible to generalise about the male of the species. DS2 would certainly stock me up with toiletries - he goes to Sainsbury's and snaps up trolleyloads of special offers so that their bathroom is full of shampoos and shower gels not to mention toilet rolls. And as for what he comes home with from his bi-annual outing to the Next sale... And DS1 would keep me fed. I think I will have to find an oldies' flat somewhere between Sandhurst and Didcot, assuming that neither of them is going to move.

kittylester Sat 12-Jan-13 15:38:49

Different ages possibly anno? You presumably didn't go in for gender stereotyping as much as our parent's generation. When my brothers and I were young I did all the washing up while they cut the lawn between them. When I complained Mum, scandalised, said that boys couldn't be expected to wash up! confused

Nanado Sat 12-Jan-13 15:38:17

jeni no such site. Just googled it to be sure grin

annodomini Sat 12-Jan-13 15:32:26

kitty, not having daughters, I wouldn't be able to make a comparison, but it's impossible to generalise about the male of the species. DS2 would certainly stock me up with toiletries - he goes to Sainsbury's and snaps up trolleyloads of special offers so that their bathroom is full of shampoos and shower gels not to mention toilet rolls. And as for what he comes home with from his bi-annual outing to the Next sale... And DS1 would keep me fed. I think I will have to find an oldies' flat somewhere between Sandhurst and Didcot, assuming that neither of them is going to move.

Mishap Sat 12-Jan-13 15:22:44

A toyboy? - not sure I could keep up!