Another member leaving.

Nellie

Couldn't agree more.

You are right again Jeni Too much squabbling and last wording.

We all should as Merlot says look at the way a thread is going and when its getting difficult, back off the threads. Its fairly obvious which ones they will be when they start getting tetchy.

One thing about what I have just said, is that after all these disagreements I now almost fear that what I intend to be a general remark will be taken personally by someone who thinks I am aiming at them personally.

We have got to lose this atmosphere of paranoia and mistrust that is going about, or GN will not feel a safe place to be.

Please.

Go to bed. night night. x

No, just having a Bridget Jones moment methinks.

Blame me being another year older

glass that is soo funny!

Me too

So are we now going to have three way conversations. What's the point in that?

And I don't want to belong to a Darby and Joan club either.

Sorry that was a pm jeni I have lost my marbles

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

I think that someone just has, Ana.

Gordon Bennett! I think I might leave you all to your Darby and Joan club. You're welcome to it.

Good common sense, Merlot, but human nature being what it is, someone will always jump in to add their two penn'orth. I don't know what the answer is...

Jeni!
Well said.... but it's time!
You were going to bed hours ago!

Yes, jeni, we should all try.

Sometimes I look at an OP and think, Oh No, I can guess how this is going to end up. Might I suggest that if somebody starts a thread that is obviously going to be downhill all the way, we ignore it and let it die? Some threads start off OK and then somebody wades in with murderous intent. We need to resist the urge to bite back. Hard but it's the only way to end all the aggro which is so destructive.

I don't mean all threads should be tame. That would be really boring but nastiness should not be fed by more nastiness.

hear hear jeni... forums should be places of wide ranging debate, support, a bit of a laugh... not bitchy comments and snide remarks designed to piss particular people off! It just gets boring.

Watch the soaps for that & don't try to recreate them on GN!!

Agreed! But I don't know what I would do without you all!

You bunch have changed my life!
Making me feel more of a community and less isolated.

Please stop squabbling!
It makes me feel miserable even if I'm not involved!

We are a community and we won't always agree

Please let's forget all that's gone and start anew!

This community means so much to so many people!


I don't normally get all emotive like this!
But please people

Can't we at least try?

Notso, if you're still there, I am so sad to be losing you. When I joined, just a few weeks after Gransnet started, you were already here and welcoming and embodied what I thought it was all about. ((((hugs))))

Buts its sad to loose lovely people like Notso

Can't sleep!

Are you sure?

I suppose you could say there is more to life than GN!

When I first joined Gransnet about a year ago, I scuttled for cover whenever a squabble broke out and avoided the thread until it burned itself out. I don't worry about hostile atmospheres now but still try and keep my head down. I can understand why others feel isolated and pushed out to the point of needing to leave. Sometimes you need to grow another skin but on the other hand, why should that be necessary??

No one has to leave. I'm sorry to see Notso leave but I can't see the need to get quite so heavy about. No one. has died.