Tonight I feel really sad for my GS

It's a hard lesson, learning that adults are flawed. Good thing he has a loving family to support and believe in him.

Thank you every one for your kind support. Although his school is an excellent one I do see things that still worry me, but there is nothing I can really do. My role is just being there for him and as you say and help him move on xx

Injustice is so hard to take - it is almost easier to take it oneself than to see a loved one, especially a little one, on the receiving end.

It is a shame as he will have a negative attitude towards school, at least for a while - all because of something that has been washed off in a trice.

It is quite objectionable really as there is a principle in English law of innocence until proved guilty - I am assuming that no-one saw him do it, so therefore no proof. And, if he has twopenn'th of nouse he would not wriet his own name anyway!

Give him a hug from me. x

Oh Nanapug I really do sympathise . My little granddaughter is 5 she was awarded the head mistress's prize for hard work( they have this award system every month) on a Monday morning and had it taken away from her by Monday afternoon after one of the dinner nannies said she was seen pushing another child. She was questioned by the head who asked her if she had pushed the child and she ( being very honest) said yes she did push him. On that Monday evening she was very upset and her older sister who is in the same school and had witnessed the whole thing said " it wasn't fair that G got her award taken from her for pushing that horrible boy" I asked her why she thought that and she replied " because that horrible boy pulls G's hair every playtime"

It later turned out that the "horrible boy" is the grandson of the dinner nanny who obviously only sees what she chooses to.

I was furious and really wanted to go into school and have my say. My son persuaded me to let it go. . Children eh????

It's the kind of thing that turns me into a tigress (I'm usually more tiggerish ) so I completely understand your being hurt for your little grandson. Just make sure he knows that you believe him.

Poor wee soul - he's lucky though to have a nana who cares enough to be concerned and will undoubtedly help him cope.

nanapug you just want to be there and give him a cuddle don't you poor little man,it must be scary for him being sent to the HM when nothing like this has happened before his word that he did not do it should have been believed surely they understand things like this are done by other children at that age,so glad your DD is going to see teacher and maybe this will put his mind at rest.Bar of chocolate needed I think nanapug and a hug from nana.

This sort of think happens through out life.
I can remember at a place I worked out a young man got accused of making silent phone calls to various members of staff at times like 4am.
He had recently left home and his parents started getting these type of phone calls and got the police involved.
It was found to be a fairly senior member of staff making these calls.
This young man was told off for involving the police and the manager did not accept it was his parents who involved the police and not him.
He did say that he was not aware his parents were getting late night silent calls and all the manager could say was he should have spoken to a manager within the company.
How could he if he knew nothing about his parents receiving these calls?.
After some time somebody did step in and said he was not the one who made the calls and he was then left alone.
People did say the reason he was accused was he was such an odd person.

Frank

2 things that I have always hated, and one of them is being accused of something that I haven't done!

Yes j08, injustice is something I have never been able to cope with. I so feel for people who have been wrongly accused of child abuse or murder or something, and can not prove their innocence. It must be horrendous. I am actually quite surprised at his teacher as she is a sweetheart. I suspect the headmistress may have had something to do with it as she is a bit hard.

Yes. You are right of course. I would really. You just feel like storming in though, don't you!

You do feel for them, don't you? I do hate injustice in all walks of life - it seems unfair that his teacher immediately assumed he'd done it just because it was his name. Surely he/she should know the child better than that?

Yes, I do live close enough jo8 but think I will leave it up to my DD as she is a teacher.
Yes, I like that suggestion grace, next time I see him I will do that thank you x

But sadly it is when he starts to learn that life is not fair and that this just the first of various events that he will meet through life where he is treated unjustly. It happens to us all and as his grandmother you have the opportunity to help him dvelop the resilience to deal with it. This should be done within a loving supporting family, which he obviously has.

Absolutely! And it sounds as though they got rid of it easily enough anyway!

Whether he did it or not, it's hardly vandalism!

Sending a six year-old to the headmaster is over the top.

Absolutely agree with you and I also believe that you believe him (if you see what I mean)
Injustice is a hard pill to swallow at any age, but especially with the innocence of a 6-year old. I imagine you will be able to have a quiet moment with him and perhpas reassure him that the people who matter most believe and trust him.
I just hope he doesn't start to feel that is he is going to be blamed for things he has not done , what the heck, might as well do them

Do youlive close enough to go in?!